‘She felt she had made a gay best friend!’ – Jim Chapman on meeting Tanya Burr at Norwich student party

YouTube vlogger and Norfolk celeb Jim Chapman is so famous that when he returns to Norwich, it is hard for him (and his equally well-known girlfriend, and now wife, Tanya Burr) to go out without being mobbed by fans.

But things were quite different when he and Tanya met in Norwich while they were still teenagers.

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‚She went to a party of one of my best friends, who she had a crush on. She turned up really early, well, on time, because she didn’t know how student parties worked. I recognised her because we’d been to the same 6th form. We got chatting and I felt like I was flirting outrageously. She felt she had made a new gay best friend!‘

Eleven years on they are married, with a miniature daschund. And he says they would love to have children one day, but promised: ‚I’m not going to make them the centre of attention on my channel. They didn’t ask for that. They might not want to be famous, when they’re seven, or 27.

‚We are a very normal couple. We just have very odd jobs.‘

How Tanya and Jim first met

Tanya and Jim have been dating since 2007, having went to the same sixth form school in Norwich.

And it was at a party of one of Jim’s best friends that he first got chatting to his future wife.

Speaking to the Wymondham and Attleborough Mercury, the vlogger said: ‘She went to a party of one of my best friends, who she had a crush on. She turned up really early, well, on time, because she didn’t know how student parties worked.

‘I recognised her because we’d been to the same 6th form. We got chatting and I felt like I was flirting outrageously. She felt she had made a new gay best friend!’

Still, sparks flew and the pair got together soon after, with their first date taking place at the local cinema.

How Tanya and Jim first met

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In March, Tanya announced her split from childhood sweetheart Jim, saying they had ‚made the painful decision to no longer be together‘.

Tanya went on to insist that she and Jim would ‚remain friends forever‘ and have a ‚huge amount of love and respect for each other‘. 

The couple left many of their fans devastated when they announced their breakup in March after 12 years together (pictured in November 2017) 

At the beginning of April, Jim revealed he had moved out of the £2 million London they shared, and had moved in with his sister. 

In the same month, rumours started swirling that Jim had already moved on and was dating model Sarah Tarleton, who is signed to Next Model Management.

A video emerged which appeared to show them kissing at an event in May, before he went on to confirm his relationship with her weeks later.

Tanya has now opened up about the breakup for the first time, revealing that she has had ‚a lot of lows‘ throughout the year.

While Tanya admitted she found the breakup ‚quite scary‘, ex-husband Jim went on to find love months later with model Sarah Tarleton

She said the year had been ‚really difficult‘ and acknowledged that living out her marriage breakdown online had been a challenge, suggesting she would ’never google‘ herself again following the breakup.

The YouTube star acknowledged that social media could often be detrimental for her mental health, and said she often writes down what she’s grateful for every day.

She explained that while sometimes she can ‚make it work‘ when it comes to her mental health, at other times she forgets how to use her coping mechanisms and has ‚the darkest days‘.

Tanya suggested she had found the breakup ‚unsettling‘ and went on to reveal she suffered from anxiety and depression 

Tanya, who currently has over 3 million followers on Instagram and 3.45 million on YouTube, also acknowledged that she has become more cautious about oversharing online. 

She said that she never expected so many people to watch her, and often found it baffling that so many people would know who she was. 

The star revealed that she found the breakup ‚quite scary‘ but said she was now starting to feel ready to dip her toe into dating.

Seven months after announcing her marriage breakup, Tanya suggested she is now ready to start dating again 

She went on: ‚I always thought I knew who I’d be with for the rest of my life, who I’d have children with, then suddenly when you don’t know that any more it’s really unsettling.‘

She said that while friends and family encouraged her to look at the marriage breakup as an ‚exciting‘ opportunity, it had taken her months to see it in a positive light. 

The YouTube star suggested she had been comparing herself to friends and family, who had been together ‚forever‘, but was now seeing the ‚light at the end of the tunnel.‘

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Speaking to the Wymondham and Attleborough Mercury, the vlogger recalled: ‘She went to a party of one of my best friends, who she had a crush on. She turned up really early, well, on time, because she didn’t know how student parties worked.

‘I recognised her because we’d been to the same 6th form. We got chatting and I felt like I was flirting outrageously. She felt she had made a new gay best friend!’

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YouTubers Jim Chapman and Tanya Burr may not be together anymore, but they’ve quickly proven they’ve still got each other’s backs.

The pair shocked fans when they confirmed their split after 12 years together and a lavish wedding back in 2015.

However, clearly the typical muting your ex on everything approach wasn’t for them, as Jim left a supportive comment when Tanya shared some stunning selfies.

The sweet message comes after the vlogger warned fans not to ask him about the split during a Q&A, after urging viewers: ‘Ask me anything you want!’

The 31-year-old hastily added: ‘Although there are rules. Don’t ask me anything about my breakup, because obviously I won’t be answering that!’

Jim and Tanya confirmed their split on Tuesday, after 12 years of being YouTube’s answer to Posh and Becks – however, a source has since described it as ‘the best publicity they’ve had in years’.

Tanya, 29, referred to the split as a ‘painful decision’, adding: ‘We have a huge amount of love and respect for each other and will continue to remain friends forever.’

Jim later shared a similar statement on his own Instagram page, adding: ‘We will continue to support one another in all of our ventures and are both looking forward to what the future holds’.

The pair started dating back in 2007, after meeting at sixth form.