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This song has become one of several popular songs among the gay community known as “gay anthems” for its supportive lyrics.

Its writer, Thomas Bickham (known as “Tomboy”), is a drag queen from Denmark. He also released another song, “Gay Guys Arise”, to protest the Russian government’s negative treatment of the LGBT community.

I love this song. It showed me that I should go to San Fran and release my load all over the soap in a gay parade. Pray for me, and get on your knees. Feel my load. Love ya gay bois

Why do some Christians believe it’s OK to be gay, when the Bible says it isn’t?

In the past two hundred years, western civilization has come to understand that there is a diversity to sexuality and sexual orientation that was not recognized in previous eras. The Christian church has reacted to this growing understanding of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people in many ways that have not been supportive, from skepticism and fear to condemnation and exclusion, and even to outright physical violence and abuse.

Christians who reject same-gender relationships and/or gay, lesbian, and bisexual people often cite the Bible as the source of their decision. These people believe that the Bible’s references to same-gender activity apply directly to our lives today. (These verses include Genesis 19:1-11Leviticus 18:22 & 20:13Romans 1:26-281 Corinthians 6:9-10 and 1 Timothy 1:9-10.)

However, other Christians do not agree with this belief. Many Christian people, ministers, churches, and denominations welcome lesbian, gay, and bisexual people into the full life of the community without requiring their celibacy from same-gender relationships. How do they explain this?

The books that make up the Bible were written and edited over several centuries, in many different countries, cultures, and communities. Many faithful Christians believe that studying the history and context of Scripture can help us understand better how to apply it to our lives. Many people have found that the “backstory” of Scripture makes the Bible even more beautiful and meaningful, but it also reveals that some stories and verses may be more specifically directed to certain times and places than to the whole faith community forever.

The books, songs, and letters of Scripture were written by faithful people who had powerful experiences of God and were inspired to record them for many generations to read. Although inspired, the people who wrote the Bible were also limited by their time, their place, and their language.

Sparkhouse re:form, “Who Wrote the Bible, God or Humans?” (video, 2010)

Dr. Terence Fretheim, About the Bible: Short Answers to Big Questions (2009)

Many Christians who object to same-gender relationships assert that they are following the Bible “literally.” However, there are many verses in the Bible which these same Christians do not consider applicable to our faith lives today.

For example, most Christians do not observe the prescribed practices of Leviticus around rites of ordination, clean and unclean foods, female purification after childbirth and menstruation, and sabbatical years. They also do not pursue celibacy in the way Paul recommends in his first letter to the Corinthian church (1 Corinthians 7).

Many faithful Christians are concerned that when we do not clearly articulate why some verses are still applicable but others in the same book are not, we risk only applying the Bible to our lives when it suits our own beliefs.

Rachel Held Evans, A Year of Biblical Womanhood (2012)

In the Christian Scriptures, there are fewer than ten verses that talk about same-gender sexual activity, out of over thirty-one thousand total verses in the Bible. In contrast, there are hundreds of verses about caring for the poor and oppressed, and hundreds more about how to use one’s possessions and money. Some faithful Christians believe that we should focus on issues of poverty, liberation, and stewardship more than on issues of sexuality.

There are references in the Bible to same-gender sexual acts. However, sexuality and sexual orientation was understood in a very different way in the times when the books of the Bible were written. The concept of sexual orientation and the existence of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people simply were not ideas that the Bible writers had access to. When the writers of the Bible condemn same-gender sexual activity, they are not condemning loving, monogamous, committed, same-gender relationships as we experience them today, because those did not exist when the Bible was being written.

Rev. Mona West, Ph.D., “The Bible and Homosexuality,” Metropolitan Community Church

Rev. Elder Don Eastman, “Homosexuality; Not A Sin, Not A Sickness,” Metropolitan Community Church

Five hundred years ago, the Christian church believed (as did the rest of western civilization) that the sun rotated around the earth. Astronomers began to suggest, based on their observations, that the sun was actually the center of the solar system, and the earth moved around it. At first, the church rejected this outright. Some Bible verses specifically state that the earth cannot be moved (1 Chronicles 16:30, Psalm 104:5), or that the sun is what moves (Joshua 10:12-13, Ecclesiastes 1:5).

As the scientific community continued to study the stars and the sky, it became scientifically impossible to believe that the earth was the center of the universe. The church, then, had to recognize that the Bible verses that referred to the earth as “fixed,” or observed the sun moving around the earth, did not reflect reality.

The Christian church in America also experienced this divide over “what the Bible says” during the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, in the debate over slavery. Both pro-slavery and anti-slavery advocates relied on verses and stories from the Bible to ground their beliefs.

Today, the church continues to discuss how to understand and apply Bible verses around divorce, the role of women in the church, military force, and many other topics.

Mark Noll, The Civil War as Theological Crisis (2015)

Many faithful Christians, when they read the Bible, see an overarching theme of God’s love and mercy for those who are on the outside. Throughout the Old Testament, God works with the Israelites, a small tribe of people constantly set against and warring with other tribes and nations around them. The books of Leviticus and Deuteronomy record rules about leaving behind wheat and other foods in the fields, so that the poor and homeless could collect them for food (Leviticus 19:9-10; Deuteronomy 24:19). The prophet Ezekiel condemns the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah for their greed and lack of care for the needy (Ezekiel 16:49-50). In the New Testament, Jesus reaches out to many people on the margins, including tax collectors (Matthew 9:10-13, Luke 19:1-10), the demon possessed (Matthew 8:28-34, Mark 1:21-28), women (Luke 8:1-3, John 4:1-42), and children (Matthew 19:13-15). Following in his footsteps, the early church welcomes Gentile believers (Acts 8:26-40, Acts 10:1-48, Romans 2:9-11, Galatians 2:15-21), even though Gentiles were excluded from the Jewish religion in which the disciples and Jesus had been raised.

From these examples and many more, many faithful Christians believe that the Bible contains a theme of advocating for those on the margins of society, and welcoming them into God’s family despite the fear of many. Many of these Christians believe the same kind of welcome is extended by God to LGBTQ people.

There are many stories in the Bible which demonstrate God’s ability, even desire, to move outside of religious boundaries and do something new in the world. One example is found in the story of Ruth. In the book of Nehemiah, the leader condemns marriages between Jewish and non-Jewish people, and casts out all non-Jewish wives and children (Nehemiah 13:23-31). In contrast, the book of Ruth tells the story of a non-Israelite woman who, through her loyalty to her Israelite mother-in-law, becomes a member of the Israelite family and an ancestor of King David (Ruth 1-4).

In another example, the prophet Isaiah predicts a future world where God sees and remembers those who have been cast out of the people of Israel, specifically eunuchs (Isaiah 56:1-8). Eunuchs were excluded from the worshipping community (Deuteronomy 23:1), but here they are welcomed and celebrated.

In a third example, the book of the Acts of the Apostles records a powerful vision given to the apostle Peter. In it, Peter sees a sheet full of unclean animals lowered from heaven, and a voice commands him to “kill and eat.” Doing so would have been absolutely against Jewish law and practice, so Peter refuses. Soon after, Peter is summoned by the Gentile centurion Cornelius, and on hearing of the vision given to Cornelius and witnessing his faith, Peter declares, “I truly understand that God shows no partiality” (Acts 10:1-48).

Many faithful Christians believe that these kinds of stories show that God is capable of “doing a new thing” (Isaiah 43:19), even something totally outside the expectations or boundaries of God’s faithful people.

Sarah Bessey, “Penny in the Air: My Story of Becoming Affirming” (2020)

Jim Dant, “Unsure About Accepting LGBTQ Folks? God Gave You the Keys” (2019)

Brandon Darrell Lane Flanery, “How Can I Be Gay and Christian – A Look Into My Methodology” (2019)

Mitch Randall, “My Journey to Full Inclusion of LGBTQ Christians” (2019)

Becky Ankeny, A Leisurely Introduction to How a Bible-Believing Christian Can Accept Gay Marriage in the Church (2017) (also available on Kindle)

Mark Sandlin, “Clobbering ‘Biblical’ Gay Bashing,” The God Article (2011)

Why do some Christians believe it’s OK to be gay, when the Bible says it isn’t?

Liberal, progressive Twitter denies homophobia while weaponizing gay slurs

I’ve written that homophobic toxins foul American air in about the same percentage as free oxygen. If you’re gay, you breathe it in every day. If you visit Twitter regularly, you probably breathe in giant lungsful there.

Liberal and progressive people, as I wrote recently, take to Twitter every day to criticize straight politicians and closeted gay politicians like Lindsey Graham in aggressively homophobic terms. The Twittersphere is bursting with “resisters” reviling Graham not for his loathsome politics, but for being effeminate, enjoying anal sex, and any number of other things that are perfectly appropriate and ordinary — if you’re a gay man.

Liberal, progressive Twitter denies homophobia while weaponizing gay slurs

Plenty of queer people deny homophobia

I spend much of my time either immersed in LGBTQ news or searching for and understanding data about LGBTQ people. The data reveal a lot of obstacles for queer people including gay people. It all lines up with the content of my inboxes, which are full of cries of despair from gay white men and boys.

Nonetheless, everywhere I go in queer circles, I hear denials of gay reality, denials of gay oppression, and even suggestions that gay white men don’t properly deserve to be part of queer activism anymore since the struggle for gay equality is essentially over.

Plenty of queer people deny homophobia

Privileged gay white men deny homophobia

Some gay white men are jerks who work to uphold the patriarchy. Acknowledging this fact matters, but generalizing is unhelpful at best. Andrew Sullivan is the conservative gay writer I mentioned earlier, and while his views are odious, his privilege blinds him. He does not represent gay men at large, and as is evident from his writing, he is incapable of understanding gay men at large.

In a June New York Magazine article, he explicitly claims that the fight for queer equality is over and that it’s time to declare victory. He’s wrong, employing dubious logic and impossible standards of evidence to deny lived truths.

Everybody is cool with queer people now, especially gay men, he writes (in essence) as he sips a cocktail in the impossibly pricey gay white mecca of Provincetown, contemplates wintering in the impossibly pricey gay white mecca of Key West, and socializes with people who would never dare bully a wealthy, powerful, elite white man like him.

Sullivan has the wealth and social power to insulate himself from homophobia, and he always has.

When you’re born with a silver spoon in your mouth and attend elite schools (while opposing reform that would afford similar opportunities to hoi polloi), it’s probably hard to take your designer sunglasses off and get a good look at what’s going on outside your resort walls.

Privileged gay white men deny homophobia

No, it’s not OK to be gay

Gay men in the United States experience oppression just like any other queer people. Data consistently show that gay male teens report bullying and violence in larger total numbers than transgender people or lesbians. Trans people suffer disproportionate violence, but because far fewer trans youth are out, total numbers are small in comparison.

Gay men and boys suffer oppression for the same reason other queer people do. We are disproportionately likely to violate gender norms, and when we do, people despise us for it. Homophobia is misogyny, after all.

Many people in our society despise effeminate men and gay men, despite whatever you see in popular media. The Fab Five of Queer Eye aren’t real, people. Reality TV is entertainment, not life.

I’m a gay man, and I’m here to tell you people DO care about gay, and that it IS a big deal.

How to Know if You Are Gay

This article was co-authored by Eric A. Samuels, PsyD. Eric A. Samuels, Psy.D. is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in private practice in San Francisco and Oakland, California. He received a Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology from The Wright Institute in 2016 and is a member of the American Psychological Association and Gaylesta, the Psychotherapist Association for Gender and Sexual Diversity. Eric specializes in working with men, young adults, and people with diverse sexual orientations and gender identities. There are 20 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 4,511,613 times.

Figuring out your sexual orientation can be really confusing, but there’s no rush to label yourself. Your sexual identity is personal, and it’s okay to explore how you feel. If you suspect you may be gay, examine your thoughts and behaviors to figure out if you’re attracted to the same sex. Additionally, consider experimenting with your sexuality. If you identify as gay, be proud of who you are and come out when you feel ready.

It’s OK to be gay in Indonesia so long as you keep it quiet

Some might fear persecution being gay in the country that has the largest Muslim population in the world. But in Indonesia a huge gay film festival is held every year. What does is really mean to be gay in Indonesia?

The challenges are increasing for gay people in Indonesia

John Badalu has been organizing the Q! Film Festival for the past 10 years. It is the biggest gay film festival in Asia and the only one of its kind in a country with a majority of Muslim inhabitants. The 38-year-old says it is possible to live a pretty free life as a homosexual in Indonesia’s big cities but the challenges are increasing.

The Islamic Defenders Front demanded the film festival be stopped this year

Last year, the Q! Film Festival was attacked by the radical Islamic Defenders Front (FPI), which accused Badalu and his team of showing pornographic films. They threatened to burn down the venues if the festival was not stopped.

Convinced that his organization was on firm ground, Badalu and his team refused and the festival was held in five big cities. A few months before, an international gay conference that was supposed to be held in Surabaya in East Java had been cancelled after coming under attack from the same radical group.

Badalu is not overly concerned. He says it is not just gay people that FPI is targeting, but also other minorities such as members of the Islamic movement Ahmadiyya.

„If anything is against Islam in their interpretation, they will go against it, they will go and bash them,“ explained Badalu further. However, according to Badalu, there has never been gay bashing in Indonesia.

He also adds that Indonesia cannot be compared to other Muslim countries such as Iran where people have been executed because of their sexual orientation. In Indonesia, there is no law to do with homosexuality.

There is no law to do with homosexuality in Indonesia

Many see this as an advantage but Hartoyo from „Our Voice,“ an NGO that fights for the rights of homosexuals and bisexuals in Indonesia, is of another opinion.

„The government does not give special protection to the Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender community,“ he complained. He added that they needed special treatment so they can finally access their civil rights, in the areas of politics, economics, social and culture.

Hartoyo was himself beaten up in public a few years ago when he was living with his partner in Aceh. When he went to the police station, he was „treated like an animal.“

After waiting for more than 18 months, four of his seven tormentors were given probation and a 10-cent fine. Hartoyo says he is still traumatized by the incident, which he says is a clear example of the state not guaranteeing his rights as a citizen.

Indonesian transvestites demand respect and acceptance

The challenges are often from society. There are certain fields where gays are openly accepted, especially television and advertising but there have been cases of people being fired because of their sexual orientation in other sectors.

Many transsexuals do not have ID cards because they are reluctant to go through the bureaucratic procedures as they are often made fun of by civil servants. This means that many do not have access to free health insurance.

Dede Oetomo, the co-founder of the first homosexual organization in Indonesia, says that in the past 20 years societal pressure to marry generally has become stronger, and especially for gay people. Many families think that their children’s sexual orientation might change if they get married.

„It’s actually the family that is the scariest to many gay men and lesbians in Indonesia,“ Oetomo says. „Telling your mum and dad ‚ I’m not getting married, I’m not giving you children.'“

Because of this kind of pressure, there are mainly two alternatives – either gays and lesbians decide to get married just to please the family or they run away from them.

Laura Coppens, a film producer from Berlin who is making a film about lesbian women in Indonesia called the „Children of Srikandi,“ thinks most Indonesian people are generally tolerant towards homosexuals but prefer not to talk about it because of the strong culture of shame or in Indonesian.

Transsexuals are accepted as entertainers but often shunned by their own families

She says that one woman in the film said that she was not accepted by her family anymore because she was a lesbian and the family felt ashamed.

The strong feeling of is very important in the Indonesian society, says Coppens who is also writing a thesis at the University of Zürich on lesbian women in Indonesia.

„It is funny though, because if you don’t talk about stuff in Indonesia, then it doesn’t bother anyone. There are cases of lesbian couples who live happily in their neighborhood and nobody cares about them.“

„It becomes a problem only if you talk about it,“ she says.

Oetomo agrees on this point, mentioning the example of transsexuals who are popular as entertainers, but not if they are your relatives.

This is why many Indonesian transsexuals run away from home, without any educational background or skills, says Hartoyo.

Ironically, he adds, the place that is supposed to be the safest sometimes turns out to be a very dangerous one for transsexuals.

Like in many other countries, life for homosexuals is not easy in Indonesia. Experts also see the need for the Indonesian government to improve conditions by fostering a culture of discussion or providing more sexual education.

But for film festival organizer John Badalu, it is also the duty of each homosexual to fight for his or her own freedom and to say – I have the same right to live as any other citizen.

It’s OK to be Gay – Celebrity Coming Out Stories Paperback – October 8, 2013

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Homosexuality is NOT a choice

If it was, why would anybody choose to live a life where religious extremests are constantly threatening to kill him/her. Why would anybody choose to live a life which is constantly faced with discrimination and prejudice? Why would Christian homosexuals exist? Homosexuality cannot be a choice, and as such it is a perfectly natural sexual orientation. Also, all morality is subjective, please don’t use moral arguments against this, as what is moral to you may not be moral to someone else. Also, the subjugation of an entire category of human beings is not „morally right“ to me. But maybe you guys have a different definition of morality.

We Are Human

Being gay is okay in the same way that being black, white, straight, male, or female is. Homosexuals are simply human regardless of the moral or spiritual beliefs of others. Ultimately what it boils down to is that it is okay to be human, regardless of what you look like and who you are attracted to.

It is ABSOLUTELY OKAY

Being Gay is natural. People who speak out against gays saying that is is unnatural honestly don’t have a clue what they are talking about. Unless you understand it, have lived it, or are it, then you shouldn’t be speaking on the matter. I am not a doctor, ergo I do not attempt to decide what practices or methods of medicine are „right“. No difference. Think about it, people use quotes from the Bible to say it’s wrong, but if I swore my friend parted a sea or walked on water I would be committed for it, yet people firmly believe everything in the bible was „God’s word“ and is fact, hmmm, sounds far fetched to me, last I checked liars and story tellers existed since way back when, but no one considers that.

I don’t see anything wrong with being Gay ?

I don’t see why being gay is okay ? It’s just thing you’re born/choose to be. I don’t understand why some societies/religions and pop culture theories say that hate on it so much and try to convince people it’s a negative idea. If people have a problem with gay people, they are just going to get a pacifier and suck it up. We can’t change people for what their born or who they are.

Love is Love

Christians think it is wrong but because of this you are judging and its not a sin to be gay in the bible it does not say that you are going to hell for falling in love with someone. Some people don’t have a choice with who they fall in love with. Trust me if i could change i would. My own family looks down on me because of this. I want to be what this society calls normal but its hard when you feel like your wrong because of who you end up with. Just imagine if your boyfriend is now a female so now do you leave the person you have been saying your in love with all because they are a different gender. Its the same person just a different body. Now your just judging someones looks.

Being Gay Is Not Something You Can Change

Everyone is different. There are thousands of different races, preferences, political opinions, etc. Most of us spend most of our lives fighting, instead of accepting each other. Being gay is something you are born with, it is not something people can change at will. Diversity is what makes our world, take it away, and our society crumbles as we know it.

Gay is fine

Gay is fine. They are not hurting anyone. I understand why some people are grossed out by it but it’s completely natural. Being gay is not a choice. It is how you are born. Otherwise we wouldn’t see so many gay people from religious families being shunned. Gay is not good or bad. It’s just how your born.

Yooooou betchya! (Yes)

Loving a member of the same-sex isn’t much different from loving members of a different sex (same for gender). One thing that is different is how they are treated. Persons in same-sex (or gender) relationships are the recipients of discrimination in the workplace, at public services, at restaurants, in politics… All over. They are fired for being gay, beat up for being gay, harassed for being gay, kicked out of their homes for being gay, treated inhumanely for being gay. But being gay is fine, fun, and perfectly natural.

Depends on definition

If we take a look at what and how some people comment negatively about gays, it would be really hard for me to believe that most gay people actually CHOOSE to be gay. So if they were born gay then discriminate against these people would be pretty much the same thing as being a racist as black people didn’t choose to be black, asians didn’t choose to be asians.

Being gay is a choice.

I don’t understand how people say they were born gay. If you look at it from a Christianity view point, being gay is wrong. How do you expect to reproduce children? It was made for a man and women to be together so they could reproduce. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 – „Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.“

It is not OK

Not only is being gay against nature (how can one reproduce with the same gender?) It is morally wrong. Some may say you are born with it, Ok sure. But say your born with the feelings that you want to murder, that doesn’t make it OK! Now I’m not saying I hate gays, because that’s wrong, to hate someone because they believe in something, I just don’t think it’s ok to be gay. Nor am I saying being gay is similar to wanting to murder someone.

If your an animal its ok

A male dog will try to mate with another male dog. What sets us above the animals is that we have sex with the opposite sex in order to reproduce. The school systems are teaching children how to be gay in an effort to reduce population. Love gay people. They are human beings who have been tricked into believing their behavior is normal. The goal is population control. Another plan of NWO.

Science Has The Answer

This is a simple is only one Pure Science that has an opinion on the topic, and that is Biology.A Pure Science is one that is based on FACT, not other science that someone comes to the conclusion that being gay is okay or normal is a theoretical only factual science says it’s not okay. Biology says that homosexual sex means not having sex with sex organs. Mother nature says that homosexuality serves no function. A man was born with a penis and a girl was born with a vagina. Seriously, crazy world, wake up. The basic plain truth is right there in front of you and yet somewhere, somehow, you’ve let the gay activists brainwash you into thinking otherwise.

It is definitely a choice.

Now, even though I’m against gay marriage, I don’t think that gay hate is acceptable. I don’t think that it’s right for gays to be discriminated against but, again, it is my personal opinion that it is a sin to be gay. While I founded my opinion on religious values, you may continue to found your opinion on the fact that you were „just born this way.“

This can stop the human race.

Being gay can stop the human race. One cannot naturally reproduce naturally with the same gender. This can severely stop the human race. If a man is with a woman, they are able to keep the human race safely going on. Therefore, being gay is not morally right for mankind.

Being Gay is Wrong

Look. I don’t to put a leash on others and no I do not hate gay people. Basically I hate the whole idea of gay. Not gay people but if god created one man and one women in the beginning, than why is gay good. No, we should not discriminate them and treat them differently but come on. Gay overall is wrong.

This isn’t okay

Being ugly is not a choice and it’s not okay. Being greedy is a choice and it’s not okay. So is being gay. Either if it’s a choice or not (I think not) this isn’t okay. But they are still people. Being gay is just not good. None of us is perfect anyway, so are gays.

Christian or not, it causes problems

Obviously as a Christian, one should find this very wrong. However, even from a secular point of view, it is unnatural and causes pain. Once a gay person’s 14 minute marriage is over, it leaves scars of guilt, insecurity, and feelings of unfitness in the person. When you here Christians denounce gay marriage, its not because we hate them, its because we want them to avoid these problems and to see that God loves them unconditionally.

Being gay is not okay

Firstly, so I have read all the other people saying “no” but think it like this, if everyone in the world was gay, who would make the babies? We would all die, so if it’s your way to be gay, turn against it and be anti-gay, if you are gay or support gays, you are actually putting the world at risk of extinction. Secondly, it is also a sin, and I heard that we are also doing sins even if we are not gay, well just to say, you have more sins than us, bud. Thirdly, Yes, lots of animals are gay, but lots of them aren’t, so you can stop justifying, “OH ITS OKAY, THE ANIMALS ARE DOING IT”, well then go fucking live in the woods and have your little gay festivals there, eat some grass and jump around on the trees, yeah you wouldn’t. Welp there are my 3 points to smash some popular reasons why “it’s okay to be gay”. So please, if you are gay, accept electric shock therapy or isolate yourself on an island with other gays, we don’t need you on straight lands.

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The first question I asked myself when I realized I like guys is one that we still get regularly at Queer Theology:

Is it OK to be gay, bisexual, or transgender and Christian? Like, ?

Have you asked yourself that question? What steps did you take to find the answer? If you’re like me, you may have done something like this:

I rode that hamster wheel for ten years before finally FINALLY coming to trust that yes, you can be gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer  a Christian, that being LGBTQ is a normal, natural part of the diversity of God’s creation.

What “they” say the objection is: 7 “clobber” passages

If you talk to a Christian who believes that being queer is a sin, they’ll usually reference one or more of several anti-LGBTQ clobber passages:

(Supposedly anti-transgender Bible passages are rarely part of these discussions)

Theopodia defines proof texting“the method by which a person appeals to a biblical text to prove or justify a theological position without regard for the context of the passage they are citing.”

If you hear someone say “the Bible says…” run in the other direction. The Bible says  of things!

What the objection really is: power

For every verse that anti-LGBTQ Christians say condemns homosexuality, there are a dozen that clearly condemn something we support or support something we condemn (which isn’t to say that those passages  condemn queer people).

You could go back and forth proof texting with your parent or your pastor or yourself all day long and it won’t get you anywhere.

It works because there has been a pervasive idea that LGBTQ are sick and perverted. It relies on the “ew” factor and then asks you to take a few vague passages from the Bible out of context to condemn every queer person in a way that would  work for say, wearing clothes with mixed fabrics, what to do in response to rape, or even getting a divorce.

Jesus tells us in Matthew 7 that “by their fruits you will recognize” whether a religious teaching is true or not.

The fruits of anti-LGBTQ theology reveal its falseness: depression, despair, suicide, fractured families, loss of faith, bullying, harassment.

The fruits of affirming theology testify to its rightness: a return to faith, a healing of relationships, and a vibrance and resurgence in church life.

How can you be sure?

I have a confession to make to you: sometimes, when I lay in bed on particularly restless nights (usually when I’ve stayed up way too late and had way too many Pepsis) I stare at the ceiling and contemplate either (a) the vastness and meaningless of the Universe or (b) “what if a sin to be gay???”

And then eventually I fall asleep and allow to slip away three decades of relentless homophobia that have been thrown at me. And I continue to do this work.

Because I am convinced—utterly convinced—that being LGBTQ is a good and necessary part of the diversity of God’s creation. (tweet it!)

Because I’ve spent nearly a decade doing faith-based LGBTQ activism and that’s brought me in contact with a whole lot of well-meaning but ultimately anti-queer Christians as well countless LGBTQ folks all around the world.

When I talk to anti-LGBTQ Christians I find uninspiring, internally inconsistent arguments that ultimately boil down to “because I just think being straight is better.”

I’ve worked with over a hundred queer Christians as they walk out of the closet, struggle their way through making sense of their theology, and find acceptance. On the other side of loving and accepting themselves—whether or not they are still Christian—they are happier and healthier.

The fruits are clear and neither angels nor demons, nor well-meaning Christians armed with a handful or cherry-picked out-out-context Bible verses can separate us from the love of God.I had to spend years doing intense advocacy to learn everything I now know about gender, sexuality, and Christian justice. Fr. Shay spent his entire life preparing for ministry (and then three years at seminary). The good news is that you don’t have to travel the country or go to seminary to meet LGBTQ Christians and straight supporters who will inspire and support you in your walk.

We started Sanctuary Collective to make the community and relationships that were so vital to our own processes available to you, wherever you are in your journey (or in the world). We’d love for you to join us inside.

It ain’t easy being a gay white man, whatever you might have heard to the contrary

Please don’t stop reading, because I’m not even TRYING to dismiss other experiences. If you’re trans, bisexual, a person of color, or just a cool cis/straight white person who empathizes with fellow humans, I’ve got your back.

Nobody cares about gay anymore. It’s so not a big deal.

But over the last few days, I’ve been thinking a lot about the state of queer equality, something I’ve fought hard for all my life as a street activist and advocate. I marched with Queer Nation as a young man, got gay bashed in Greenwich Village, and stood up for radical queer equality, including the smashing of gender norms.

I’ve witnessed a LOT of progress since I became an activist in 1990. I’m optimistic about the state of the struggle, but I’m also a realist. A lot of queer folks in the US are suffering, and that includes gay men, who often face stigmatization, isolation, and unjust discrimination.

I think that’s obvious, but then I walk in my own shoes.

Last week I came face to face with tremendous pushback to the reality of the gay male experience. Dozens of straight/cis people insisted to me that being gay is no big deal, that gay white men don’t face oppression. A respected transgender columnist recently seemed to imply as much casually in an article on Medium while rightfully criticizing a conservative gay writer who has never been part of the struggle for queer equality.

(Katelyn Burns has asked me to clarify, and I quote her here: “You’ve very badly mischaracterized my article. Nowhere did I imply that gay white men don’t experience oppression or that it’s not a big deal. What I did say is that white cis gay men and lesbians have an easier time existing in cis straight spaces than trans people, and that white cis gay men can still oppress women and trans people through patriarchy.”)

The reality of the gay male experience is very different

So many gay white men write to tell me about family rejection, social alienation, and despair that I keep suicide hotline numbers handy, sometimes passing them out like hotcakes. I wish more people could hear these stories, even though it’s not fashionable to tell them anymore.

Writers are “supposed” to tell positive stories about the gay experience, modeling and normalizing acceptance and equal treatment while avoiding tragic tales. I see the value in this, but I also see some queer people and allies missing an important part of the bigger picture.

Ordinary gay white men don’t live in Provincetown and Washington DC like Sullivan does

Like the teens and young adults who write me so often, gay white men in the United States live a variety of experiences. Some, like Sullivan, live fairly privileged lives. When I lived in Manhattan and Montreal, I rarely saw homophobia either.

Moving back to the heartland shocked me. Where I live, as in much of the United States, disdain of gay men is par for the course. So is systemic oppression.

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If you’re not sure how to know if you are gay, think about any past romantic experiences you have had. If you have had only had crushes on people of a different gender, you are probably straight. If you have had romantic experiences or fantasies involving people who are the same gender as you, then there is a good chance you are gay or bisexual, but it’s okay if you’re a little confused. Also, if you don’t want to, you don’t have to label yourself at all. You like who you like, and you can leave it at that. It may help to think of loving people, rather than their gender. To learn more about how to be comfortable with your sexuality, keep reading!Did this summary help you?YesNo

Gay civil union wins substantial heterosexual following

A million couples in France have entered into a partnership contract or PACS since it was introduced in 1999. Intended for gays and lesbians, it has now become popular among heterosexuals. (14.02.2011) 

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Teenage suicide rates are rising and a disproportionate number of the victims are homosexual. It is this alarming trend that motivated author Sean Lemson to write „It’s OK to Be Gay.“ Lemson knows from experience the challenges that so many gay, lesbian, and bisexual people face while coming of age and becoming comfortable with their own sexuality. So many struggle alone wondering whether friends and loved ones will understand and accept them, or reject them.

Lemson starts by teaching us an important skill we’ll need: how to challenge our own opinions. He then moves methodically through the most common objections to homosexuality from religion to internalized homophobia. Along the way he dispels stereotypes and gives tips to safely come out of the closet and deal with bullying. The book speaks to both gay and straight readers about the value of living an authentic life – and to trusting that life can get better even when things are feeling hopeless.

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Not in 1969, stings are common today in 2019

Cops have even taken their aggressive homophobic tactics online. Just last spring, right before the pandemic shut socializing down, cops in Georgia executed a sting on Grindr to snare gay men with absurdly false accusations of prostitution. Legal scholars called the cops’ actions illegal, but that didn’t un-destroy any gay lives. And of course none of the homophobic cops went to jail or lost their jobs.

None of this even speaks to the vast numbers of conservative Christians in the US who revile gay men and work their asses off to win religious exemptions to laws that ban anti-gay discrimination — or who prevent such laws from being enacted in the first place.

Method 3 of 3:Identifying as Gay

If you’re questioning your sexual identity, seek out people you know will be supportive. That might be a friend, a teacher, a leader in your community, or a mental health professional. If you live in an area where you don’t feel you’d have a lot of support, look for online resources, support groups, and forums that could help you.

Teaching high schoolers that homosexuality is not morally acceptable just because they call it ‚love.‘

This was the high schooler’s argument that stumped me. It sounds so reasonable: „Don’t judge what two adults do in the privacy of their own home.“ That’s why so many people use this logic to support the homosexual viewpoint. Unfortunately, many homosexual relationships do not demonstrate one of the key indicators of love: monogamy. A 1990 study conducted by David P. McWhirter and Andrew M. Mattison found that even homosexual men in „permanent“ relationships tend to stray more often than heterosexual men: „Yes, that wayward impulse is as inevitable in man-to-man affairs as in man-to-woman, only, for gays, it starts itching faster.“ In „Straight Answers About Homosexuality for Straight Readers“ (Prentice-Hall), David Loovis admits that fidelity is a problem for male and female homosexuals. Loovis, who is no defender of traditional morality, links this behavior to the search for the ideal partner, a goal rarely achieved. This lack of monogamy indicates that the „loving relationships“ described by apologists for homosexuality look more like fiction than fact. One final word on how to address these views: Though solid arguments play an important role in convincing others, so does genuine humility–a variable we can control. After all, God isn’t concerned with aligning only the thoughts of homosexual advocates to His Word. He doesn’t want their heads; He wants their hearts.