Gay Nightlife in Santa Fe: Best Bars, Clubs, & More

Santa Fe, the beautiful and multicultural state capital, might be one of the most popular gay destinations in arts-mindedromantic crowd. There aren’t too many singles seeking out nightlife options (unless you count going out to a concert, or a performance at the world-class Santa Fe Opera). „The City Different” may not have an abundance of bars or venues specifically for LGBTQ+ crowds, but virtually all of the downtown mainstream bars, restaurants, lounges, and other venues enthusiastically welcome a mixed crowd and are in a pedestrian-friendly area. Visitors will also find a lively summer Santa Fe Pride event and nearby gay-friendly cities to explore.

The Gay Scene in Santa Fe

Santa Fe offers a unique and inspired destination for gay travelers. You won’t find a gayborhood, or even a gay bar for that matter. Santa Fe’s lack of a visible gay scene is one of its best features, because it is all about appreciating the other fine things in life: art, food and culture. That said, Santa Fe’s artistic community is open and welcoming and LGBT travelers will feel right at home here – the city elected its first openly gay mayor in 2014. 

The Gay Scene in Santa Fe

LGBT Scene in Santa Fe

Santa Fe offers a unique and inspired destination for gay travelers. You won’t find a gayborhood, or even a gay bar for that matter. Santa Fe’s lack of a visible gay scene is one of its best features, because it is all about appreciating the other fine things in life: art, food and culture. That said, Santa Fe’s artistic community is open and welcoming and LGBT travelers will feel right at home here – the city elected its first openly gay mayor in 2014. 

For more on what to enjoy in Santa Fe, be sure to visit our recent guide to Santa Fe by Gay Travel Guru Duane Wells, which includes restaurans and bar recommendations, spa reviews, and tips on what to do and see while you’re in town. 

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Why Are There No Gay Bars in Santa Fe?

A gay traveler finds unexpected treasures in New Mexico’s capital — which do not include go-go boys.

On a recent Friday night in the historic downtown district in Santa Fe, N.M., a well-heeled crowd of predominantly silver-haired gay men filled the lobby of the Hotel St. Francis. The crowd mingled among the Franciscan décor of the lobby — a metal chandelier, crosses, and a baptismal font, in homage to the city’s patron saint.

Among the holy relics, guests traded the news and gossip of the day: the return of the shirtless Tongan flag-bearer to the Olympics; Tom Ford’s nearby ranch, listed for sale at $75 million; rumors of snow. Hors d’oeuvres were passed. Drinks were mixed from the adjoining Secreto Lounge. The bar boasted wines made from ancient recipes as well as “garden-to-glass” cocktails like its Smoked Sage Margarita, which earned it a coveted place on Santa Fe’s Margarita Trail.

This patina is one of the reasons this group, Friends of Dorothy, chose Hotel St. Francis for its monthly gathering. Called Friday Night With Dorothy, the traveling event is an opportunity for queer Santa Feans to gather and reconnect among the city’s tony and historic establishments. March’s event will take place at Casa España — once the home of a fur trader, now a nightclub operated by the Heritage Hotel. Other hosts have included the Inn and Spa at Loretto, whose adobe architecture is inspired by the nearby Taos Pueblo; Museum Hill Café, an upscale restaurant between the Museum of Indian Arts and Culture and the International Folk Art Museum; and Bar Alto, which has breathtaking views of the city from the Drury Plaza Hotel.

There are many queer people in Santa Fe. Its mayor, Javier Gonzales, is gay, and the city was the site of one of the nation’s first fully operational LGBT retirement communities, RainbowVision, where out tennis legend Billie Jean King visited in 2006 to christen its fitness center. Since the recession, the community, now the Montecito, is under new management but is still proudly LGBT-inclusive, with many queer residents as well as staff supporting them.

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In 2011, Santa Fe was named the second gayest city in America by , which declared, “This is where seasoned gays come to center themselves, but not in a boring way.” Queer retirees have flocked to this city, drawn to its openness, its desert beauty, its history, and its art. This is no new phenomenon. A recent exhibition at the New Mexico History Museum, “Voices of Counterculture in the Southwest,” traced how the Beat Generation and voices from queer poets like Allen Ginsberg led a countercultural pilgrimage to America’s oldest (and highest, at over 7,000 feet) capital. With the assistance of Native Americans and the hallucinogenic properties of peyote, these transplants founded communes, practiced free love, and sparked an era of activism that still animates the region.

The art scene is also a draw for queer young people. Santa Fe’s summer markets — the Santa Fe Indian Market, the Spanish Market, and the Santa Fe International Folk Art market — attract artists and buyers from the world over, leading UNESCO to declare it the first Creative City of Crafts and Folk Arts. George R. R. Martin, of Game of Thrones fame, is also a resident and local patron. His wildly popular installation, Meow Wolf, employs hundreds of artists to transform a local bowling alley into a fantastical museum hybrid that transports guests to different worlds. That’s not to mention Canyon Road, a stretch that boasts over 100 fine art galleries, as well as the Georgia O’Keeffe Museum. Art is so bountiful in Santa Fe, it can be purchased from the blankets lining the Palace of the Governors or at La Fonda on the Plaza, an iconic hotel where an artist in residence transforms the lobby into a studio every Thursday through Saturday.

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Yet despite this thriving creative scene, which calls to mind other queer retreats like Palm Springs, there are no gay bars in Santa Fe. This hasn’t always been the case. For years, RainbowVision served as an unofficial LGBT center for Santa Fe. Before it declared bankruptcy in 2011, it hosted regular drag shows and dance parties after Pride, where the community would celebrate with the seniors at its Starlight Lounge and Cabaret. This changed when the facility transitioned to a more mainstream crowd. But the Montecito still holds its queer history in the names of its various rooms: Garbo’s Restaurant, Radclyffe Hall, Capote Library, and the Oscar Wilde Room. Moreover, King’s tennis racket and shoes still hang in the fitness center.

Downtown Santa Fe was a thriving scene for gay bars in the ’80s and ’90s, with popular venues like the Drama Club, the Cargo Club and the Paramount drawing locals and tourists alike. But these nightclubs waned with the new millennium. When the Rouge Cat, a gay nightclub, closed in 2013, The Santa Fe New Mexican, a local paper, questioned whether this would “signal end of city’s gay nightlife.” Sources blamed the city’s aging population, the economy, and risks of drunken driving.

This hypothesis was tested when the Blue Rooster opened in 2014. At the time, it was declared one of the 200 best gay bars in the world by Out Traveler. However, the bar shuttered one year later. It struggled to find a gay audience, said Doug Nava, its former owner, who found it tended to draw more of a straight crowd. “A lot of people kept saying, ‘You need to brand yourself as not just being the gay bar,’” Nava told the . “But you know what? This is a diverse city. It’s a gay destination. I’m not ashamed of saying it was the gay bar. Why?”

Santa Fe is hardly the only city where gay bars struggle to keep their doors open. Across the country, these establishments have shut down for a variety of reasons: the queer population is dispersing from city centers, the rents in gentrified gayborhoods are becoming too costly for some businesses, and hookup apps have shifted cruising culture to digital spaces.

But in Santa Fe, the consensus among those gathered at the Friends of Dorothy event is that the gay bars have become unnecessary when acceptance is so high. Gay people feel welcome wherever they go. So why limit one’s options?

There are other factors at play. Welde Carmichael, an actor who played Felix in The Normal Heart at the Santa Fe Playhouse, has observed a generational divide. Many younger queer men do not identify with the “gay” label of the older generation; they may be more fluid in their sexuality and less inclined to frequent exclusively gay haunts. Carmichael also pointed out that Santa Fe is not where you will find the “go-go boys” of other cities. The city has a slower pace, and the bars tend to wind down before midnight — although a few downtown nightclubs still attract patrons of all orientations.

But after a long weekend in Santa Fe, this writer observed that looking for an all-night party misses the point in the City Different. Santa Fe and its surrounding countryside are bursting with beauty and adventures that don’t require a DJ. Explore a UNESCO Heritage Site like the Taos Pueblo. Enjoy a spa day at Ten Thousand Waves. Behold the mountains‘ majesty from the slopes of Ski Santa Fe. Learn to make chocolate at CacaoSanta Fe School of Cooking. Taste the culture at the many standout restaurants like Tomasita’s, Cowgirl BBQ, and the Compound. Pray at the nation’s oldest church, the San Miguel Chapel.

Don’t worry about where you can’t go; look forward to where you can. As Georgia O’Keeffe once said, „When you take a flower in your hand and really look at it, it’s your world for the moment.“

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One of the most progressive small cities in the country, Santa Fe has long had a sizable and highly visible LGBT population, and it’s favorite destination among LGBT travelers, too, especially couples planning romantic getaways. Virtually every accommodation in the city is gay friendly, from larger hotels to small B&Bs, but these lodgings have cultivated a bit more of a devoted following. That said, all of the properties here draw a mixed crowd—there are no LGBT-exclusive properties in Santa Fe.

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Blue Rooster, a swanky and fun cocktail lounge and night club was recently named a top 200 Gay Bar in the World by . The newest addition to Santa Fe’s night life is LGBT-owned and will occupy the two-story space that was formerly Rouge Cat (101 W. Marcy St, 505-206-2318). Club owners Doug Nava and Mark England, who are partners in life as well as business, say they want their night spot to “fill the void left by the closing of the Rouge Cat,” which was Santa Fe’s only remaining gay bar. However, they don’t want it to be considered ‘the gay bar’, but a place for everyone in Santa Fe to enjoy.

Also new to the Santa Fe scene is SkylightWith a large and unique space, Skylight hosts a variety of events from concerts and performances to private parties and receptions. The nightly entertainment includes live music, DJ’s, theater, comedy, spoken word, and dance as well as special weekly events such as wine, beer, and liquor tastings. Skylight offers three full bars, happy hour, dinner, and a late night dining menu.

A relatively lesser-known downtown Santa Fe bar called The Matador (at the corner of San Francisco and Galisteo Sts.) also has something of a gay scene. It’s a tiny basement space with a funky, dive-y, un-touristy vibe, and the scene seems to be especially on the gay side on Friday nights. It’s just off the Plaza, close to many of Santa Fe’s top restaurants – you may be surprised, once you check out this dark little haunt, that downtown Santa Fe has a bar that’s so happily anti-precious.

In the trendy Railyard District, a friendly restaurant and bar called Junction (505-988-7222) has been a local favorite for years and has developed a considerable following in the gay and lesbian community. It’s a full-service restaurant until 10 pm, and the menu offers a creative American cuisine and a mix of cocktails, local brews and an eclectic wine list. In the evening, this friendly and attractive little lounge is also a social hangout and bar, drawing a variety of people with its live music. In warm weather, you can dine or hobnob on the charming patio.

A short walk from Junction you’ll find Santa Fe’s first branch of the Albuquerque-based, gay-friendly cafe, coffeehouse, and bar, Flying Star, which opened in the snazzy new Railyard District (at 500 Market Street).

Elsewhere in town, among the several mainstream bars you’ll find here, a few are especially charming and fun as well as being quite welcoming of gay visitors. Will you likely see other gay folks at any of these places? Maybe – maybe not. But you’re apt to have a good time, if all you’re looking for is a warm and inviting place for a cocktail. These establishments include El Farol, a historic Spanish tapas restaurant and live-music bar on art-gallery-lined Canyon Road; the Staab House, a swank lounge inside the snazzy La Posada de Santa Fe Resort; Secreto Bar (formerly the Artist’s Pub), a handsomely redesigned and renamed old-world bar and grill inside the venerable Hotel St. Francis; Vanessie Restaurant and Piano Bar, a gay-popular piano cabaret attached to a very good steakhouse; and the see-and-be-seen Dragon Room, a favorite gathering spot at the esteemed Pink Adobe Restaurant.

Other great bets include the rollicking Cowgirl (319 S. Guadalupe St., 505-982-2565), a rambling barbecue and New Mexican food restaurant and bar with live music most nights and a charming patio; and Harry’s Roadhouse (Old Las Vegas Hwy, 1 mi south of the Old Pecos Trail, 505-989-4629), a hugely popular locals’ hangout on the southeastern outskirts of town, where you’ll find outstanding and affordable food, super margaritas, and an eclectic, fun-loving crowd.

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Tips on Choosing a Hotel in Santa Fe

One of the typical distinguishing characteristics of Santa Fe accommodations, as you might guess, is the use of Spanish Colonial and Pueblo Revival architectural elements – latilla-and-viga ceilings (a style in which smaller wood poles are laid crosswise upon larger wood beams), kiva fireplaces, Navajo and other Indian rugs and textiles, and built-in bancos (benches) and similar shelves and features. You’ll find these especially in B&Bs set inside historic adobe houses, but also – to an extent – in larger hotels.

The LGBTQ travel market is a prominent one in Santa Fe, and several inns are also owned or staffed by local gay and lesbian residents. The properties written about here are mostly independent and rather distinctive, but Santa Fe does have a large variety of chain motels and hotels, mostly set along busy and not particularly attractive Cerrillos Road, a few miles southwest of downtown, which is anchored by the historic Plaza and where you’ll find most of the city’s notable attractions, restaurants, and retail.

The Cerrillos properties are fine if you want a good value and have a car. But, if you’re seeking a property with more character, visit some of the ones included here, the majority of which are within walking distance of the Plaza. On that note, if you do stay in the center of the action, you can easily get to Santa Fe without a car. But, given that the entire north-central New Mexico corridor offers a wealth of things to see and do and dozens of spectacularly scenic drives, you may want to rent a car anyway, if even just for a day or two of exploring (there are some rental agencies in town).

Santa Fe has a small airport with regular service on a few airlines from cities like Los Angeles, Dallas, and Denver. Most visitors fly into the much larger Albuquerque International Sunport, which is just a little over an hour away and also has regular shuttle bus and train service into town.

A note about B&Bs: if you’re not typically a fan of guesthouses and B&Bs because you prefer a bit more privacy and insulation from fellow guests and innkeepers, you might give Santa Fe a try anyway. At many smaller properties here, accommodations are in detached or semi-detached casitas (cottages) with separate outdoor entrances. Even when breakfast is included, guests at many properties have the option of dining in-room or at least at a private table. Guesthouse rooms are often significantly larger than hotel rooms, and they sometimes have private gardens or patio, small kitchens, fireplaces, and other appealing features. You may want to read a bit more about some of these, visiting their websites as well, before deciding.

Bobcat Inn

An excellent, reasonably priced choice that’s perfect if you want to be near nature and away from the hubbub of the Plaza, the Bobcat Inn is about a 20-minute drive south of the city center along the Old Las Vegas Highway, which parallels I-25 (making it easy to reach from the interstate, and a great base if you’re exploring the region to the east, perhaps to the funky town of Las Vegas, New Mexico). Although it’s about 8 miles south of the Plaza and many of Santa Fe’s restaurants, it’s also close to one of the favorite places in the region for innovative food and cocktails, Harry’s Roadhouse, which also has something of a gay scene. 

The Bobcat has six rooms. One has a jetted tub and fireplace, and all are designed with warm, attractive Southwest furnishings. Rates include a tasty buffet breakfast (there’s always a hot entree), plus first-rate coffee. The Pueblo Revival adobe house opens to a courtyard with a tranquil pond, and it’s set on 10 expansive acres – you can see for miles across the mesa. 

Buffalo Thunder Resort & Casino

Some highly impressive, quite posh casino resorts have opened in New Mexico in the past decade, giving the Land of Enchantment new cachet as a high-end gaming destination. Santa Fe has got into the act with the opening of the striking Buffalo Thunder Resort & Casino, on the Pojoaque Indian Pueblo, 15 miles north of downtown Santa Fe. The property comprises an upscale 393-room hotel operated by Hilton, a huge casino, and several other notable amenities, from a full-service 16,000-square-foot spa to a pair of acclaimed golf courses.

It probably goes without saying that fans of gaming will appreciate this Resort – the casino is pretty dazzling, at 61,000 square feet, with slot machines, gaming tables, and a large poker room. The gaming area is set well away from most of the property’s other common areas (except for some of the nightlife options, which adjoin the gaming area). The property strikes a nice balance between a gaming property and simply an attractive, luxury resort, and the management is exceedingly gay-friendly.

The rooms are stunning – spacious and contemporary with large windows or full balconies overlooking the dramatic scenery (many face the Sangre de Cristo mountains). Amenities include 37-inch flat-screen TVs, high-speed Internet, and sizable bathrooms with high-quality bath products. Rates are generally about 20% to 40% lower than what you’d pay at hotels with comparable rooms in downtown Santa Fe, and you have the advantage here of being close to the Santa Fe Opera, Los Alamos, Bandelier National Monument, and the „High Road“ village of Chimayo.

Restaurants tend toward the casual, and none of them is a major reason to stay or visit here, given all the excellent ones in Santa Fe itself. But, there are plenty of options, from buffets to the Route 66-inspired Turquoise Trail Bar & Grill to a handy branch of Starbucks. Hale Irwin and William Phillips developed the property’s renowned Towa Golf Course, which consists of three nine-hole courses for now (with a fourth to planned down the road). And a full slate of spa treatments are offered at the property’s fabulous Wo‘ P’in Spa, and there are also tennis courts, a well-equipped health club, a pool, and plenty more.

Hotel Chimayo de Santa Fe

Known until recently as the Plaza Real, the Hotel Chimayo de Santa Fe is operated by the very gay-friendly Heritage Hotels & Resorts company, which also owns two other nice properties in town, the Lodge at Santa Fe (a pleasant, mid-priced option on the north side of town with nice Sangre de Cristo views and relatively close proximity to the Santa Fe Opera), the centrally located and upscale Eldorado Hotel, and downtown’s historic Hotel St. Francis, as well as the Hotel Albuquerque in Old Town and Nativo Lodge in Albuquerque, El Monte Sagrado and Palacio de Marquesa in Taos, and Hotel Encanto down in Las Cruces.

This well-situated hotel is just a block from the Plaza, steps from the historic Santa Fe Public Library, and within a short walk of countless shops, restaurants, galleries, and museums – it’s right across the street from the beautiful New Mexico History Museum, in fact. Although it’s less fancy than some of the other hotels close to the Plaza, the 56-room Chimayo is perfectly comfortable and attractive, with plush bedding, wood-burning fireplaces in many units, rooms that open either to a narrow but pretty central courtyard or to private balconies, free Wi-Fi, and traditional Pueblo Revival and Southwest-influenced handcrafted furniture and textiles. Most of the rooms are suites with separate sitting areas, and there’s a very good restaurant and bar on-site, Estevan, that’s run by one of Santa Fe’s more celebrated chefs, Estevan Garcia – it’s open for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. The hotel is also pet-friendly, and underground parking is available but for a nightly fee.

Hotel St. Francis

Like the Hotel Chimayo, the venerable and richly historic Hotel St. Francis is part of gay-friendly Heritage Hotels & Resorts, as well as a slew of distinctive and atmospheric properties elsewhere in Santa Fe as well as in Taos and Las Cruces. Listed on the National Register of Historic Places, the grand hotel dates to 1923 and is one of Santa Fe’s most striking buildings. Despite its wonderful history, the hotel had become a bit dated over the years prior to a major renovation that has given the lobby, bar, and restaurants a fresh dose of elegance while still preserving the building’s character. And rooms, although some of them are quite small (and in certain cases have miniscule bathrooms), have also been given classy makeovers that blend classic and modern touches: polished hardwood floors, white and muted gray tones, lovely beds with pillow-top mattresses and down comforters, flat-screen TVs, and free Wi-Fi. The peaceful look is a nice alternative to the sometimes busy, cliched designs of many Santa Fe hotels. There’s no spa on-site, but in-room treatments can be arranged, and there is a gym.

Whether or not you stay here, do at least come by to relax in the grand lobby, before the fireplace, perhaps for Reposo, the traditional afternoon tea, coffee, and sherry service held on Friday and Saturday afternoons from 3 until 5. The acclaimed Santa Fe chef Clay Bordan runs the very good Tabla de Los Santos Restaurant at the St. Francis, and the Secreto Bar – with its open-air loggia – is quite popular with locals and has something of a gay following.

Inn of the Governors

You’d be hard-pressed to find a more reasonably priced, warmly decorated hotel with such a central location, right along the gentle trickle known as the Santa Fe River, and just a couple of blocks from the Plaza. The Inn of the Governors is a two-story, Territorial-style adobe building with 100 rooms set in a few different wings. A significant number of rooms have wood-burning kiva fireplaces, and all are decorated in traditional Southwestern style, with bold-colored rugs and tapestries and custom-made furniture.

There’s a casual restaurant and bar off the lobby, Del Charro Saloon, with affordable pub fare and popular drink specials, and although the hotel lacks a gym, it does have a year-round heated pool and a lovely garden patio. And rates include Continental breakfast, parking, and Wi-Fi. This charming, gay-friendly property is a terrific value.

La Posada de Santa Fe Resort

La Posada de Santa Fe Resort is one of the largest hotels in the central part of town, and also one of the most interesting – now part of the upscale RockResorts portfolio, the compound of about 157 rooms and suites dates back many decades. The oldest part of the property, Staab House, occupies a grand 19th-century Victorian mansion that’s now home to one of the most atmospheric bars in Santa Fe as well as a superb restaurant, Julia, and several cozy seating areas. A big draw at La Posada is the 4,500-square foot Spa Sage, which has one of the city’s best fitness centers and offers an extensive array of treatments.

Rooms are set in a series of buildings dating from the late 1800s and early 1900s and connected by landscaped paths and sunny patios. Decor tends toward classic, upscale Santa Fe: beam ceilings, adobe-plaster walls, regional blankets and fabrics, hand-crafted furniture. Rooms with fireplaces and private patios cost a bit more but offer lots of extra charm, and a variety of suites offers plenty of room to kick back as well as additional perks, such as local artwork from noted Santa Fe galleries and large sitting areas.

The hotel is along leafy Palace Avenue, a short walk from Canyon Road galleries in one direction, and the historic Plaza and museums, restaurants, and shops in the other – there’s a great deal within walking distance.

Ten Thousand Waves

Known first and foremost as a serene Japanese-style spa and baths nestled in the foothills 4 miles east of downtown, en route to Santa Fe Ski Area, Ten Thousand Waves also has a collection of simply furnished casitas and bungalows set along a slope beside the spa. These 12 artfully furnished lodgings with a minimalist aesthetic that matches the overall vibe of the spa range from relatively compact and simple units with queen tatami platform beds to spacious suites with full kitchens, fireplaces, and deep soaking tubs. All are sumptuous without feeling overdone, and decor often blends Asian and Southwestern elements. There’s a good mix of amenities in each one, too – some have private patios and courtyards, and some lack cable TV (all have high-speed Internet).

Although you’ll need a car to get anywhere from this secluded compound, the spa does have a small shop selling healthy snacks, and Ten Thousand Waves has opened a superb izakaya-style restaurant, Izanami, which turns out some of the most flavorful and artfully presented Japanese food in the Southwest. A major reason guests stay here, of course, is to partake of body treatments and massages in the spa, which has long been one of the best in the state – known for a wide variety of massages as well as Ashi Anma Foot Massage, Deep Stone Massage, Yasuragi head and neck treatments, salt glows, Japanese organic facials, and more.

There are also seven private baths, which guests can reserve. Like all of the spa facilities, the baths are available to the general public as well. In fact, both have a strong following among Santa Fe locals, including outdoorsy types returning to town after a day of skiing or hiking in the nearby mountains; they also have a strong following within the LGBTQ community. There are also two public communal baths, one of them coed and the other for women only. Be aware that the communal baths are in no way a sexually charged scene, which isn’t to say that they aren’t quite social. They can be a fun place to meet locals and other visitors. And from all of the baths you’re treated to amazing views of the mountains and, when the sun goes down, New Mexico’s starry nights.

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How do you determine the best cities for same-sex households in New Mexico for 2020

In order to rank the gayest cities in New Mexico, we used the 2014-2018 American Community Survey from the U.S. Census. We looked at:

We limited the analysis to non-CDPs that have over 1,000 households.

We ranked each place from 1 to 38 with the city containing the highest percentage of unmarried, same sex partners households being the most gay.

In the end, ended up being the the most gay place with 1.01% gay households. You can download the data here.

Read on below to learn more about the gayest places in New Mexico. Or skip to the end to see the list of all the places in the state from gayest to straighest.

There You Have It – The Most LGBT Friendly Cities In New Mexico For 2020

If you’re looking at the number of gay households in New Mexico, this is an accurate list.

If you’re curious enough, here are the least gay places in New Mexico:

Casa Escondida B&B

This small property in Chimayó, along the fabled High Road to Taos, makes an effort to make LGBT travelers feel extremely welcome.

The thoughtful staff at this nine-room, pet-welcoming B& Read More

Sunrise Springs Spa Resort

The sister spa retreat of LGBT-popular Ojo Caliente, this upscale resort on the south side of Santa Fe has a sizable following with the community. Many of the staff are LGBT, and the soaking pools and spa are hugely popular.

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Lodge at Santa Fe

This mid-priced chain-style property is the closest large hotel in town to the Santa Fe Opera, has been a regular sponsor of Santa Fe Pride, and is part New Mexico’s Heritage Hotels & Resorts company, which has long been extremely proactive in marketing to LGBT travelers. Other Heritage Hotels properties in Santa Fe include Eldorado Hotel & Spa, Hotel Chimayó de Santa Fe, Hotel St. Francis, and Inn and Spa at Loretto.

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Inn at Vanessie

One of the draws for LGBT travelers of staying at this upscale inn a few blocks west of the Plaza is that it adjoins Vanessie restaurant, which has an excellent cabaret lounge that’s extremely popular with the local LGBT community.

The large rooms in this restored adobe 2½ blocks from the Pl Read More

Four Kachinas B&B

An LGBT-owned sister inn to El Farolito, this cozy B&B with six warmly furnished rooms is a terrific option if you’re seeking quiet and privacy, and most rooms have private exterior entrances.

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Hotel St. Francis

Although Santa Fe has no full-time gay bars, the two bars at this stylish boutique hotel—Secreto Lounge and Gruet Winery Tasting Room—tend to be very popular with the LGBT community. The hotel is also part of the gay-popular Heritage Hotels & Resorts company.

Just one block south of the Plaza, this stately three-story Read More

Ten Thousand Waves

An eco-friendly spa resort set in the foothills northeast of Downtown, Ten Thousand Waves draws a sizable LGBT contingent to soak in its communal and private tubs, enjoy treatments in the spa, and dine in the izakaya-style restaurant. The overnight accommodations here are sleek and contemporary.

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Inn of the Turquoise Bear

Not are the owners of this rambling adobe inn on the southern edge of Downtown gay, the Turquoise Bear is also the former home of gay poet and scholar Witter Bynner, who lived here throughout the middle of the 20th century. Bynner entertained countless luminaries in this home, including W.H. Auden, Willa Cather, Stephen Spender, Georgia O’Keeffe, Christopher Isherwood, and Errol Flynn

The 20th-century poet Witter Bynner owned this handsome—and Read More

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Who Lives Here?

Our LGBT community began when its founder, Bonnie McGowan, envisioned a thoughtful community development as a safe haven for people of like minds. Our community is made up of lesbians, gays, singles, couples and friends who care about environmentally responsible living; an active and healthy lifestyle; and forming strong social connections when we need them most–as we are aging.

Most of our community residents and lot owners are planning on „aging in place,“ ie: staying in their homes as they age. Currently, some of our residents are retired, some work from home using our high-speed internet, and yet others still work outside the community.

Our homes are designed with aging in mind and our community supports staying physically fit and active. Our residents enjoy hiking on our 140-acre property, as well as gathering to share meals, celebrate birthdays and holidays, playing games or golfing and traveling together. Visit our „meet your neighbor“ page to see photos of some of our current and future residents and their homes, as well as read what they have to say about living at Birds of a Feather!

Our Lots and Homes

We have several lots for sale to build your future home. All of our 1/4 to 3+ acre home sites are pine-forested and most have magnificent mountain or meadow views! Lot pricing starts at $44,900 and includes all underground utilities (water, telephone, electric to the lot line). High speed internet is available by DSL or satellite.

After choosing your favorite home site, select one of our pre-designed floor plans: the 990 sq. ft. (Little House); 1275 sq. ft. (Chickadee); 1425 sq. ft. (bluebird; or 1625 sq. ft. (Casita). These floorplans are perfect for LGBT retirement or a second home get-a-way!

You also have the option to build a custom-designed home or EcoNest on most lots.

You may take up to five years after you purchase a lot to start building your home using one of our fabulous approved builders. Homes must be completed within eighteen months from breaking ground. Average time to build a home varies depending on size of home, building method used and time of year, but six to ten months is standard.

Nature at Your Doorstep

Living in our community includes fabulous LGBT neighbors, as well as access to many acres of adjoining private property conserved as green space. You’ll enjoy trails for walking/hiking, and access to the Santa Fe National Forest surrounding our community. Plus, the Pecos Wilderness is only minutes away and has hundreds of miles of trails for hiking and horseback riding. Enjoy the best four-season weather in the country with an average of 320 days of sunshine a year.

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Santa Fe Gay Resource Directory

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Santa Fe’s most popular nickname, the City Different, is a proud representation of its residents’ belief in distinguishing themselves by thinking outside the box while also honoring their roots.  A very proud city that is not only very gay-friendly, but America’s oldest capital city, established in 1607.

The city’s rich history is most visually apparent in Santa Fe’s distinctive adobe buildings- a genuine manifestation of the confluence of Spanish and Native American cultures. Adobe, a durable material used for centuries to construct the area’s pueblos, is produced by combining sand, clay, water and fibrous organic matter such as sticks or straw.  Adobe buildings were traditionally made by shaping the mud-based substance into bricks, with supports provided by large logs, called vigas.  One of Santa Fe’s oldest examples of this technique is the Palace of the Governors.

Besides its historic architectural heritage (which draws a huge number of LGBT visitors), Santa Fe’s unique shopping and dining experience is a must for your visit list.  The primary shopping district is downtown’s many shops and boutiques centered around the Plaza.  Then , just southeast of downtown, Canyon Road is lined with more high-end options.  The street is renowned for its art galleries, but is also home to dealers of fine leather goods and jewelry, ranging from southwestern to contemporary.

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Santa Fe is known as the second-largest art market in the country due to the large number of resident painters, sculptors, jewelers, photographers, and other fine artists.  They choose to call Santa Fe home because the unique culture is conductive to the spirit of creative thinking.  There are oodles of other artists here too: designers of fashion and furniture, of landscapes and home interiors, plus architects and builders, as well as quite a few innovators in the fields of science, sustainability, the healing arts, and water conservation.  The wholeness-of-life atmosphere of Santa Fe originates from the area’s indigenous communities, most of whom have always recognized the interconnectedness between themselves and the world around them.

More than 200 restaurants in a town of 70,000 or so makes for a terrific eatery-to-customer ratio.  That’s why this unique city has become such a culinary destination.  The centuries-old Mexican/Spanish and Native American presence in this area, gives us a distinct food heritage (Vastly different from Tex-Mex and California-Mex). Relying on regional ingredients like chilies, corn, squash, and a host of other vegetables and meats, these two food cultures came together to create a savory blend of flavors like no other.

New Mexico’s love of her most prized crop, chile, sets us apart from other South-western states.  We love it so much we keep almost 80 percent of the annual harvest to enjoy right here.  Whether you prefer the kick of the roasted green or the smoky depth of a ripened, dried red, you can try them poured over an enchilada, stuffed and batter-fried, simmered into a piquant stew, or simply strewn across a hamburger.  In addition to chile-inspired menus, practically every major ethnic cuisine and restaurant style is offered to the Santa Fe diner.

Friends of Dorothy is a great opportunity to meet new friends, see old friends and connect with Santa Fe’s Gay/LGBTQ+ community in a beautiful setting.

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We looked at years of data to determine which New Mexico cities have the most pride

We looked at years of data to determine which New Mexico cities have the most pride

When the Supreme Court ruled in favor of same-sex marriages, America generally, and the gay community specifically, celebrated. Same-sex marriages, and the gay and lesbian movement is more mainstream than ever.

While the national discussion has been brought to the forefront, at the state level, conversations continue.

Did you know that an estimated 0.4% of New Mexico residents is gay? That ranks as the number 9 most gay state in the nation. That means there are a total of 3,438 gay households in The Land Of Enchantment.

Our goal with this post is to use data and science to determine the gayest cities in New Mexico.

After analyzing 38 cities with over 1,000 households, we’ve determined these are The Gayest Cities in New Mexico for 2020.