A Handy Guide to All Gay Men

The gay world is often represented as some sort of monolithic whole that has the same culture. That is a lie. It is actually broken down into a handful of substrata to which each gay belongs. Here they are.

Just like the world at large may stereotype gays as mincing wrist flippers with great taste bent on giving everyone they meet a make over. A queer will tell you that we are all individuals and that those stereotypes are false and horrible. That said, when the gays see a fellow homosexual in the public sphere, we try to plug them into the convenient taxonomy the community has made for itself. That’s right, we have our own stereotypes for each other, and they’re much more specific than you can ever imagine. They may not be very familiar to the world at large, but they are certainly familiar to the brothers in butt fucking.

To say that each gay person belongs to one of these types is a bit deceptive. It’s like saying that every woman is either a Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, or Samantha. There are plenty that fit the mold for each squarely, but most are really a combination of the types, or like to think of themselves as individuals, even though they still have many of the traits from one of the pre-selected identities. These aren’t the stereotypes of the world at large, they are the ones we have invented for ourselves, and they are just as reductive. Each of the groups tend to hang around only with members of the same groups, and they all have their own bars, parties, music, customs, ways of dress, and intricate mating rituals. Please, meet the homosexuals.

TwinksBody Type: Thin, smooth, often blond, usually with longish bangs and often with highlights.Description: This young breed of gays is never over 30 and tends to be on the queeny side and hews closely to the conventional stereotypes of gay man. Wild, ornery, and still getting over their coming out issues, the twink is the gay gone wild, and is bait to older men who are into trying to suck off their youthful energy.Subcategories: The Twunk, the Gay-sian, the A&F York City Hang Out: Rush, Campus Thursdays at SplashDiva of Choice: Lady GagaPreoccupations: Fashion, drama, partying, hooking up, college, coming outTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: Zac Efron

BearsBody Type: Large, hairy, often with facial hairDescription: The bigger, generally older subset of the population is new but increasingly popular both in the community and pop culture. They have their own social calendar that is well populated with events to support the flannel-clad butch lifestyle of beards and beer guts.Subcategories: Cubs, Otters, Wolfs, GorillasNew York City Hang Out: Woof!, Snaxx, NowhereDiva of Choice: Cyndi LauperPreoccupations: Food, hair, coming up with silly bear puns, Tom ColicchioTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: Kevin Smith

Gay JocksBody Type: Athletic, muscular, possibly gone-to-seedDescription: This guy prides himself on the fact that no one thinks he is gay until he tells them. His love of sports is just about the only unaffected aspect of his masculinity. He wears T-shirts and ball caps with his favorite team logo, and likes guys who are „non-scene,“ unless the scene is a gay sports team.Subcategories: Gay football players, gay soccer plays, gay rugby players, York City Hang Out: Gym BarDiva of Choice: The guy who sings „Are You Ready for some Football.“Preoccupations: Passing, talking tough, locker rooms, fantasy footballTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: Esera Tualo

Circuit BoysBody Type: Muscular, waxed, preened, most usually with tribal tattoosDescription: This subset rose to prominence in the ’90s around the drug-fueled, all-night dance parties that were in different cities around the country. While it has few new recruits, its core population is die-hard and aging quickly. Many of the parties have died off, but they’re still dancing to bad tribal house wherever they can.Subcategories: Tweekers, muscle Marys, those queens who twirl flags at dance partiesNew York City Hang Out: AlegriaDiva of Choice: Deborah Cox remixed by Junior VasquezPreoccuptions: Pecs, ecstasy, house music, conformity, backne, the afterpartyTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: This is such a specific type it doesn’t really exists in the world at large, but the Platonic ideal of a circuit boy is DJ Brett Henrichsen

Gay-ListersBody Type: Body toned by the personal trainer, hair done by celebrity stylist, wardrobe picked out at BarneysDescription: These are the uppity homos who live the good life, and are generally too good for you. They only like to talk to each other. They usually work in advertising, PR, marketing, or the entertainment industry and make a ton of cash which they use to have perfect apartments, fantastic wardrobes, and summer homes near all the other gay-listers. You can try to get invited to their parties, but you will never belong.Subcategories: Power gays, the velvet mafiaNew York City Hang Out: BeigeDiva of Choice: They’re probably friends with MadonnaPreoccuptions: Looking good, work, HRC dinners, summering as a verb, what everyone else is doing, hooking up with each other, the steam room at the gymTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: Andy Cohen

Show QueensBody Type: They come in all shapes and sizes, from the young, spry dancer to the balding, pudgy critic.Description: These are the kids who are so gay they could never fit in during high school and sought refuge in the music department. They have devoted their lives to performing, show tunes, and learning all the words to very obscure songs. They often work in theater or the arts in one way or another, be it on the Great White Way or as a high school drama teacher.Subcategories: They are only defined by which diva they love York City Hang Out: Marie’s CrisisDiva of Choice: Liza, Judy, Barbra, Elaine Stritch, Patti LuPone, Ethel Merman, Sutton Foster, Bernadette PetersPreoccuptions: Original cast recordings, collecting Playbills, karaoke, out of town previews, Puck on Glee’s abs, outing Hugh JackmanTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: Neil Patrick Harris

Art FagsBody Type: Emaciated, tattooed, usually with some sort of ironic facial hair and an enormous coif.Description: The art fag is cooler than you. He’s also cooler than all your friends, and he is not afraid to show it. He is usually an artist (duh), photographer, fashion designer, band member, or something that requires a degree from RISD, FIT, or some other art school that is an acronym. He dresses either in the most current prissy fashions or like a homo version of Terry Richardson, in big glasses, flannels, and jeans that looks so thrown together that it took him hours to put together. You’re more likely to find them at a gallery opening or model party, but every so often they’ll be at a gay bar to rub elbows, and other parts, with the other homos.Subcategories: Alternaqueers, gipstersNew York City Hang Out: The CockDiva of Choice: PeachesPreoccuptions: The hottest club, looking down on things, cheap coke, being bohemian, the outer boroughsTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: Marc Jacobs

Drag QueensBody Type: Either big, buxom Divine style or svelte and RuPaul-esque.Description: This is a very small but very powerful contingent of the gay population. The drag queens are not only the court jesters of the gay community, dressing up like clowns for our entertainment, but they are also a bridge to the straight world. As much as gay men appreciate the queens for their looks, wit, and shade, straight people love a drag show even more than the queers do. Somehow they manage to be the most outrageous segment of the population and the most embraced, making the rest of us look positively boring by comparison.Subcategories: Club kids, York City Hang Out: Pick a bar, any of Choice: Oh, honey. They are each their own diva.Preoccuptions: Shade, wigs, annoying jerks who ask for too many drink tickets, other queens biting off their look, lip syncing, straight guysTop or Bottom: BottomCelebrity Example: RuPaul

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The 20 best gay beaches in the world

Waves lapped gently against the shore, the sun beat down and warmed my every fiber, palm trees swayed in the breeze. As I took a sip of my ice-cold mojito, I asked Seby: “Is there anything better than a trip to the beach?”

I had to admit, he was right. Whether it’s the chance to get active in the water, show off your hard work in the gym or simply top up that tan, it’s no secret that many gay guys feel most fabulous at the beach. This has meant that gay beaches have popped up across the world down the years, providing a hotspot for local gay communities and gay tourists too. 

From vibrant city center beaches where summer nightlife lasts well into the early hours or more relaxed, isolated affairs with a cultivated vibe, gay beaches come in as many shapes, sizes, and guises as gay men. Whether you’re searching for the best gay beaches in the United States or fancy visiting a gay beach further afield, our rundown of the twenty best gay beaches in the world has got you covered.

The 20 best gay beaches in the world

Secret Signals: How Some Men Cruise for Sex

Men use signals like foot tapping when cruising for gay sex in public.

Aug. 28, 2007 — — While many Americans may only be vaguely familiar with the idea of „cruising,“ there is a secret world of sex between men that exists in public places across the country.

The police officer who arrested Sen. Larry Craig, R-Idaho, in a men’s restroom at the Minneapolis airport for allegedly looking to engage in gay sex wrote in his June report that he „recognized a signal used by persons wishing to engage in lewd conduct.“

Craig tapped his foot up and down and swiped his hand underneath the bathroom stall in which the undercover cop was sitting, according to the police report.

Those actions led to Craig’s arrest by Detective Dave Karsnia and the senator’s guilty plea to a disorderly conduct charge. Craig told reporters today that he did nothing inappropriate and said his guilty plea was a mistake.

Public places like men’s restrooms, in airports and train stations, truck stops, university libraries and parks, have long been places where gay and bisexual men, particularly those in the closet, congregate in order to meet for anonymous sex.

Over time, people familiar with cruising told , gay men began using a codified system of signals to indicate to others that they were interested in sex. In an effort to curb lewd acts in public — or as some gays argue, in an effort to persecute gay men — undercover police began sting operations in places known for sex soliciting and employed the same codes.

„Tapping of the foot is pretty standard for men who cruise in toilets,“ said Keith Griffith, owner of , a Web site on which visitors post locations popular with men looking for anonymous sex.

„They will usually go to the stall at the far end of the strip of toilets. They will see each other and usually decide to go someplace else. The vast majority have no interest in being seen. They may be meeting in public locations, but they will be as discreet as possible,“ Griffith said.

Cruising areas traditionally have been those parts of town „women and children are told to avoid,“ but through word of mouth, bathrooms at places like Wal-Mart or Home Depot can become cruising locales, he said.

Griffith said that officers involved in such stings tend to be young and that anecdotal posts on his site indicate the local arrest rates increase around the time of elections or when media attention focuses on the issue.

Because much of the signaling is itself benign behavior, some gay rights activists and lawyers have admonished police departments for arresting men who have done little more than tap their feet.

„Citizens have a right not to confront lewd activity in public places,“ said Steve Sanders, a lawyer and gay rights activist. „But if there is evidence that a sting is motivated by anti-gay animus, that may represent a more troubling issue.“

At trial, Sanders said, police would have to prove that actions such as foot tapping were known signals for soliciting sex.

„What constitutes probable cause to arrest someone? If a case like this went to trial, police officers would have to produce evidence to say here is how we can say with certainty this is was really a lewd act,“ he said.

Craig pleaded guilty to the charges and therefore opted against a trial.

Today, Craig denied being gay and said he made a mistake by pleading guilty.

Police officers, for the most part, only investigate an area after members of the public have complained about it being used for sex, said Rich Gregson, executive director of the California Peace Officers Association.

„Police officers will investigate areas that have known histories of this sort of activity. They rely on their own knowledge and experience to tell what is happening. Most officers know the difference between an intentional signal and a stray motion,“ he said.

The public has a right to enter public areas without worrying about inadvertently seeing lewd acts, Gregson said. The 35-year veteran police chief said he believed this sort of activity took place „in every jurisdiction“ and heard stories of „off-duty officers and even judges being caught and arrested.“

With many other options available for gay men to meet each other, Gershen Kaufman, a professor emeritus of psychology at Michigan State University and author of the book „Coming Out of Shame,“ said public cruising is practiced mainly by deeply closeted men.

„Cruisers are not sex offenders. They are deeply, deeply closeted. There is a lot of self-hatred and shame and they can’t allow themselves to come to terms with their sexuality. There is also the added element of danger and being discovered,“ he said.

Secret Signals: How Some Men Cruise for Sex

Tips for Gay Teens Who Want a Boyfriend

A lot of gay teens want to be in relationships and it is common for them to ask the question: „How can I get a boyfriend?“

For another teen, the problem has been holding different expectations than the guys he is meeting. 

These are just a few examples of guys looking for boyfriends taken from the many, many teens who have written into the LGBT site about wanting a relationship.

So what can these guys and others who want a boyfriend do about it? As you probably know, there is no „one-size-fits-all“ formula for finding a boyfriend. But there are some tips that can help the relationship-minded teen get his guy.

Tips for Gay Teens Who Want a Boyfriend

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1. Fire Island Pines gay beach in New York, USA

Fire Island is a thin sliver of land running parallel to the south shore of Long Island in New York. It’s a serious gay mecca on the east coast, where the Manhattan gay boys come to party during summer. The main gay areas are predominantly located around Cherry Grove (or “the Grove” for short) and Fire Island Pines (aka “the Pines”). The beaches around here are gay as hell.

The Grove and the Pines have been gay havens since the 1960s and have largely been left alone as self-governing communities. This has allowed an “anything goes” attitude to flourish here, which makes for some wild fun as well as some of the skimpiest swimsuits we’ve ever seen! Spots such as Pavilion are ideal for drinks in the sun before moving on to more hedonistic establishments such as Sip n Twirl.

Our favorite spot is located on the wild stretch of beach between the Grove and the Pines, separated by a large forest. As you enter the forest between the two communities, continue heading towards the beach ahead and there you’ll find it. The total walk from either the Grove or the Pines ferry dock is around half a mile. Check out why we also rate Fire Island as one of the best vacation spots in the US.

How to get to the gay beach of Fire Island: The most convenient way to reach Fire Island from New York is by car but keep in mind that you’ll need to pay for the parking as you cannot use your car on Fire Island. Otherwise, you can take the train then the ferry. For more info on directions, timetables and different means of transports, check out this page.

2. Hilton gay beach in Tel Aviv, Israel

This sandy beach in central Tel Aviv is the de-facto epicentre of the city’s gay scene: this is also where the massive Tel Aviv Pride festival takes place every June. There are plenty of bars and cafes around Hilton Beach serving refreshing cocktails and snacks. We particularly loved Hilton Bay, which is a chic place to enjoy a drink right there on the sand. 

With calm, clean Mediterranean waters, Hilton Beach is an ideal spot to make like the locals and try your hand at Stand Up Paddleboarding (SUP), which is something of a tradition in this super-sporty city.

For those who are not so athletically minded, grabbing a cocktail at one of the many terrace bars here is a rite of passage at Hilton Beach. Bring your sunglasses, your eyes will be darting every way as you try to keep track of all of the muscled men that patrol this section of the beach wearing only the tightest of trunks!

How to get to the Hilton gay beach of Tel Aviv: the gay beach is located in a prime area of Tel Aviv. Take the 55 bus to the stop HaYarkon/Arlozorov – you can’t miss the Hilton Hotel, which stands opposite the stop. Then, the beach sits right in front of the hotel. Remember, the central part of the beach is the main gay area, with the north more for a dog walking scene and the south the preserve of local surfers.

3. Mar Bella gay beach in Barcelona, Spain

Truly a gay beach like no other, Barcelona’s Mar Bella benefits from a location that is both secluded and close to the city center. Cozy, intimate yet not without its fair share of glamor, the gay beach of Mar Bella offers visitors the best of both worlds.

Right there on the beach is the BeGay bar-restaurant, which during summer stays open from early in the morning until, well, early in the morning! Serving great food and delicious cocktails, it’s easy to while away hour after hour sitting on the bar’s vibrant terrace area, chatting with the cosmopolitan crowd that gathers here. 

For extra supplies, like sun lotion or shades, there are a few small supermarkets just 10 minutes up the road from Mar Bella, as well as endless options for food and drink.

This beach famously hosts the epic every August, which is one of the main annual gay events in Barcelona. Though it does make finding a spot to sunbathe a real pain, which is why it’s important to go there early if you’re there in the peak summer months.

How to get to the Mar Bella gay beach of Barcelona: To reach Mar Bella hop on the metro to Poblenou. From there it’s a 10-minute walk down to the sea. Mar Bella attracts a mixed crowd of all ages including both locals and foreigners. We spotted guys throwing beach balls, playing music, and chilling out under the sun.

4. Miami 12th Street gay beach, Florida, USA

Miami’s South Beach is world-renowned as a hotbed of glitz, glamor and beautiful people. Nowhere is this more true than at the city’s 12th Street beach, where gay Miami really comes to the fore. 

This is where America’s most unapologetically flamboyant come to strut their stuff and have fun. We found the 12th Street beach to host some of the most gorgeous guys we have seen anywhere in Miami, which really is saying something!

One of the best things about 12th Street beach is that it is located in one of Miami’s most exciting parks: Lummus Park. This sprawling green space is filled with volleyball courts, outdoor gyms, and more, meaning you’ll have no shortage of activities to enjoy on and around the beach.

This gay hotspot in Miami is home to the annual Winter Party Festival, the Circuit Party and the Miami Beach Pride. If you’re not planning to visit for one of these events, not to worry, as 12th Street beach is close to all manner of top bars and restaurants including the famous Palace Bar which sits just a couple of blocks away.

How to get to the 12th Street gay beach of Miami: The clue’s in the name – head over to the coastal end of 12th Street, past the intersection with the famous Ocean Drive street and voila! If you’re driving, park up at the city garage located nearby at the intersection of 13th Street and Collins. 

5. Bondi gay beach in Sydney, Australia

When you think of Sydney beaches, you probably think of hot Aussie surfers, lifeguards, and endless nights of partying. Well, that’s exactly what Bondi Beach has to offer for gay travelers looking to enjoy Australia’s most famous stretch of sand.

The de-facto gay area of the beach is north Bondi, where the speedos are tighter and the abs more chiseled than in any other zone. North Bondi even has its own LGBTQ lifeguard force numbering over a thousand! If you’re lucky enough to be in town for Sydney Gay Mardi Gras in March, you’ll see north Bondi transformed into a zone of wild partying that goes on well into the early hours of the morning.

On that note, it’s worth remembering that drinks are banned on Bondi beach and that this rule is strictly enforced by local authorities. Luckily, the boardwalk area directly behind the beach is packed with cool bars, cafes, and restaurants serving everything from cold beers to deliciously fruity cocktails and ice-cold Aussie white wines.

How to get to the Bondi gay beach of Sydney: You can go either by train/bus or bus all the way. By train head to Bondi Junction and then either walk the final 2 km to the beach or take a short bus ride. By bus from downtown Sydney, jump on the #380 which will take you directly to Bondi beach. Driving is not recommended because of parking limitations at the beach. 

6. Atlantic Beach in Condado, Puerto Rico, USA

With a strong gay scene made up of both locals and tourists, San Juan is home to a string of gay beaches, with the best of all located at Condado.

The gay area of Condado sits in front of the Atlantic Hotel, whose bar is a hub for gay men looking to sip cocktails and mingle in the sun. The Happy Hour here is legendary, taking place daily from 5-9 pm when mixer drinks can be enjoyed for as little as $4 each, with cocktails only slightly pricier. If you’re the kind of guy that seeks nothing more than sun, sea, and cheap drinks, then this is the place for you!

Alternatively, you can rent a sun lounger and enjoy being waited on hand and foot right there on the sand as you watch the boys pass by. Atlantic Beach is home to the kind of relaxed, carefree attitude that means you’re sure to meet plenty of fun, interesting folks during your time here. It is no wonder why we rate Puerto Rico as one of the !

How to get to the Condado gay beach of Puerto Rico: the easiest way to reach Condado beach is by Uber, which takes around 10 minutes from downtown San Juan. Tip: be sure to tell the driver you want to be dropped at the Atlantic Beach area in the center of Condado, which sprawls for some way in either direction.

7. Black’s gay beach in San Diego, California, USA

A gorgeously secluded section of Torrey Pines State Beach, Black’s Beach is perhaps the most famous nudist beach in the United States. This enormous stretch of sand is home to a sizeable gay area at the north end of the beach, where you will find gay surfers, beach bums and straight-up posers quite literally rubbing shoulders.

When we say that Black’s Beach is long we mean really, really long, two and a half miles to be precise. As such, you’re sure to feel the immense sense of freedom and seclusion that Black’s has to offer whether you’re here to surf, sunbathe, or just run around in your birthday suit!

As one of the premier surf destinations on the West Coast, Black’s Beach is a prime spot for meeting and at the very least eyeing-up the scores of beautiful surfer boys that flock here every day of the week. If that doesn’t do it for you, keep an eye out for the schools of dolphins that call this stretch of the coastline home, they’re known to get extremely close to the shore.

How to get to the Black’s gay beach of San Diego: simply put the destination “Torrey Pines Glider Port” in your GPS and follow the directions. Once you arrive, continue through the driveway. There is a parking lot where the path ends – you’ll know you’ve reached it when you spot the ‘Danger’ signs.

8. Maspalomas Kiosk #7 gay beach in Gran Canaria, Spain

Gran Canaria is one of the Canary Islands in Spain, located just off the coast of West Africa. The island is a gay haven with a massive gay scene around the Yumbo Centre in Playa del Ingles. Just south of this is the gay beach of Maspalomas close to kiosk #7, which sits hidden by the island’s famous sand dunes.

The beach itself is a lot of fun, with sun loungers available for rent and guys of all ages enjoying themselves. Mainly, the gay beach attracts tourists from North Europe on their gay vacation in Gran Canaria. 

The only downside about the Maspalomas gay beach is that when it gets windy here, the sand goes EVERYWHERE! So be prepared for this or avoid going on a very windy day. Gran Canaria has tons of gay accommodations to choose from and to suit all budgets, you won’t be disappointed!

How to get to the gay beach of Maspalomas: Head over to the Hotel Riu Palace Maspalomas and from there cross through the Sand Dunes following the path marked with wooden posts. The walk through the sand dunes is around 15 minutes.

9. Herring Cove gay beach in Provincetown, Massachusetts, USA

Herring Cove is a part of the wider Cape Cod National Seashore, a stunning national park located in the northeast United States. This is the most popular gay beach in Provincetown as well as being an unofficial spot for nudists – though be aware that nudism is technically illegal here. The authorities just turn a blind eye to it…!

The dunes just behind the beach are a hotspot for cruising and a bit of rumpy-pumpy, so it’s worth being careful where you tread! Herring Cove attracts a diverse gay and lesbian crowd that can stick around until very late indeed during hot summer nights when the atmosphere gets downright hedonistic.

How to get to the Herring Cove gay beach of Provincetown: Take the beach shuttle from downtown Provincetown. If you’re driving, head south out of town just a couple of miles and follow the signposts. You will be able to park up right there in front of the dunes.

10. Elia gay beach in Mykonos, Greece

Elia Beach is our favorite gay beach on Mykonos Island in Greece.

It has a super cool gay section – lookout for the rainbow flags waving in the wind. The water is warm, the sand soft and the facilities exceptional. The beach is generally very quiet in the morning, so if you’re just looking for a place to relax, then use this time to do it! Things start to get a little bit more active in the afternoon with tons of gorgeous gay men descending onto the beach for a day of socializing, partying, and swimming.

The busiest period is during the XLSIOR gay festival which takes place at the end of August and early September. Read more about it in our . 

How to get to the Elia gay beach of Mykonos: Elia beach is located 6.2 miles (10km) south from Mykonos Town at the southern tip of the island. The best way to reach it is to drive down in your rental car or buggy. There is a public bus but it runs on limited hours and take ages! Sometimes scheduled boat services can take you here during the peak summer seasons.

11. Sandy Bay gay beach in Cape Town, South Africa

Sandy Bay Beach is renowned as the best gay beach in South Africa, and we wholeheartedly agree! 

This beach is quite secluded from the rest of Cape Town and as such, it can be rather difficult to reach. Tucked away beside a hidden road half-way between Cape Town and Cape Point, Sandy Bay doesn’t like to make its presence known too loudly. Yet, if we’re being honest, this only adds to the mysterious charm and tranquil vibe that this place has in bucketloads.

12. Sebastian Street gay beach in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, USA

Sebastian Street Beach is one of America’s best-known gay beaches for a reason. That is – it’s absolutely awesome! Whether you come for the sun, the warm water or the eye-candy, Sebastian Street is a must-visit for gay guys in the Fort Lauderdale area.

The vibe is quite low-key at this LGBTQ hotspot, with refreshingly little posing going on. Not that we’re against posing, it’s just that there’s a time and a place – we’re looking at you, Miami! In Fort Lauderdale, the pouts turn to easy-going smiles…you’re sure to find the crowd here friendly, open and accessible in comparison. 

The nightlife around Sebastian Street gay beach is more dinner and cocktails than wild, endless beach parties. Again, if that’s what you want, head to nearby Miami or sashay over to the for one of the best gay nights out of your life! In terms of gay accommodation, there are plenty of excellent with some of them close to Sebastian Street Beach.

How to get to the Sebastian Street gay beach of Fort Lauderdale: The best way to get around anywhere in Fort Lauderdale is by Uber or Lyft. Otherwise, you can reach it by public transport by jumping on bus number #11 or #40 from downtown, which will drop you right there by the sand.

13. Will Rogers State gay beach in Santa Monica, California, USA

Situated in the gay mecca of Santa Monica, Will Rogers State Beach is one of California’s most fabulous places to be. After all, as Katy Perry once said, “California is fine, fresh, and fierce!”

This is one of the best gay beaches in the US, located near lifeguard tower 18 in Pacific Palisades on the Santa Monica Bay. Will Rogers is fondly nicknamed “Ginger Rogers Beach” and it is famous for being the filming location of Baywatch before it was moved to Hawaii. Need we go on?!

The beach is well maintained, so it’s always very clean, whilst the crowd here tends to be extremely laid back, which of course is true of much of the West Coast. In what is a famous surfing spot in the region, you can hit those waves in between games of volleyball or gymnastics. Everywhere you look there is a hive of activity going on, with people just embracing the bodies they were born, in the most shame-free and California fashion.

Nearby you can enjoy a bike or hiking trail, which meanders right across the beach and around the coastline. Close by is a totally lush gay bar called “The Birdcage” – yes, just like the movie. The bar throws a Beach Club party every weekend with great music, drinks, and no shortage of fun.

How to get to the Will Rogers State gay beach of Santa Monica: The best (and only!) way to reach it is by car, bound for Pacific Palisades on the Santa Monica Bay. When you arrive, look out for the rainbow painted lifeguard tower #18.

14. Playa de los Muertos gay beach in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico

Translating quite literally as “Daed Man’s Beach”, Playa de Los Muertos is ironically one of Mexico’s most vibrant, life-filled beaches that has become a hive of LGBTQ activity.

This is a true downtown beach, located just off the main seafront drag in , a beautiful town and a key part of Mexican tourism. As such, the party never stops at Playa de Los Muertos! Grab a tropical cocktail (Piña Colada, anyone?) at literally any time of day, settle down in a lounge chair and watch the whole carnival-like situation unfold before your very eyes.

Whether it’s speedo-clad gay guys showing off their chiseled abs or local traders selling everything from fresh fruit to handicrafts, Playa de Los Muertos offers a true feast for the eyes. With beautiful white sand, crystal clear waters, and a glut of trendy bars, this awesome gay beach has everything you need to spend a few days getting lost in the festival atmosphere.

How to get to Playa de Los Muertos gay beach of Puerto Vallarta: From Zona Romantica, either grab a taxi over, or jump on the Centro Bus and get off at the Playa Los Arcos Hotel, which is 2/3 blocks away from the gay beach.

15. Farme Ipanema gay beach in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

Not only is the beach of Ipanema a big part of the LGBTQ scene in Rio, but there is an entire district of the same name that has become a gay hub in its own right.

Let’s face it though, you came to Rio for the beaches and this one does not disappoint. Situated toward the eastern end of Ipanema between ‘Postos’ 9 and 8, this fabulously gay-friendly area is filled with queens both local and foreign. In fact, in Rio, they use the term ‘Barbies’ to describe musclemen! This particular stretch of beach is packed with Barbie Boys in all their tanned, skimpy-shorted glory!

There are always plenty of games happening – even if you’re not that into sports, the crowds here are so inviting and engaging that you’ll feel yourself becoming the next Sporty Spice within minutes! Try your hand at surfing, the waves here are to di…ve for, and the blue waters feel so relaxing underneath the piping hot sun.

How to get to the Farme gay beach of Ipanema in Rio: Jump on to the metro line #1 or #4 and take it to the General Osório stop. From there it’s a 5-minute walk down to the sand. You’ll know you’re in the right place when you spot all the rainbow flags.

16. Poodle gay beach in Rehoboth, Delaware, USA

Part of the wider Rehoboth Beach area, Poodle Beach is Delaware’s gayest patch of sand and a hub for the area’s vibrant LGBTQ scene. Located at the southern end of the Rehoboth Boardwalk, the gay section of the beach is unmissable due to the rainbow parasols and throngs of guys who come in every conceivable shape and size.

Poodle Beach is known to have some of the cleanest water of any beach in America, making this a hotspot for swimming and watersports. If you would rather kick back on the sand and work on that tan, there are plenty of bars and cafes nearby to grab an ice-cold cocktail or beer from. 

The crowd here is incredibly friendly and open, with none of the pretentiousness that blights many other gay beaches in the world. As long as you turn up with a smile and the cutest bathing suit you can find, you’re sure to make plenty of new friends at Poodle Beach.

How to get to gay Poodle Beach of Rehoboth, Delaware: Drive over to Rehoboth Beach and keep heading south on the Rehoboth Boardwalk until you spot the gays and the rainbows!

17. Praia #19 gay beach in Lisbon, Portugal

Renowned through the city as a popular nudist beach, ‘Praia 19’ as it is known locally, is one of the largest and best gay beaches in Europe. It is situated just across the River Tagus from downtown Lisbon, part of the wider Costa da Caparica coastline.

Praia 19 will blow you away on arrival, the sheer scope of this beach is enormous. The huge waves of the Atlantic ocean, are truly a sight to behold. Yet it’s not just the natural scenery here that’s amazing. Praia 19 is known for anything-goes-hanky-panky in the dunes and forest area just behind the sand. You will find all kinds of gay boys enjoying themselves at this enormous beach, with both locals and gay tourists frequenting it.

18. Bassa Rodona gay beach in Sitges, Spain

Platja de la Bassa Rodona is the main official beach of Sitges, with rainbow flags proudly flying in the wind.

Sitges is one of the best gay resort towns we’ve ever been to. Located around 27.3 miles (44km) south from Barcelona, this has to be one of our favorite gay destinations on the planet. Throughout the town, you will see the rainbow flag flying proudly outside windows, bars, and restaurants. We rate it as one of the gayest cities in Europe!

Platja de la Bassa Rodona sits in front of the town and is one of many beaches in Sitges. Undoubtedly though, this is the most popular gay area and it’s here that you will find the buffest guys in the skimpiest swimsuits. The water is warm, clean, and perfect for swimming, just be sure to get here early during summer as it can get really packed.

Owing to it being so close to town, Platja de la Bassa Rodona is backed by many bars, cafes, and restaurants, many of which are gay owned. We particularly love Picnic, which offers delicious snacks and cocktails that are perfect to take away and enjoy right there on the beach.

How to get to the Bassa Rodona gay beach of Sitges: the gay beach is super easy to reach. From Sitges train station, just head south, through Sitges main town, cross over the promenade and voila – spot the rainbows!

19. Little Beach in Hawaii, USA

Little Beach is located in the gorgeous Makena State Park of Maui and is one of the island’s most popular nudist spots. Officially named Puʻu Olai, you will be able to fulfill all of your tropical fantasies at this stunning, paradise beach.

The gay area of Little Beach tends to be at the far end, where you will find all types of queens frolicking on the crystal-clear waters and sunning themselves on the sand. Be sure to bring plenty of supplies to this remote beach as there are certainly no swanky cafes here. Also, be careful in the water because the currents can be quite unpredictable and get strong without any warning.

How to get to the Little Beach gay beach of Hawaii: Little Beach can be tough to get to and rewards only the most adventurous minds. First of all, enter the Maui Prince Hotel on your GPS. Once you arrive here keep driving until the sign for Makena State Park when you will want to turn right. Leave the car in the nearby parking lot before walking down to Big Beach. Turn right and head all the way to the volcanic rocks at the end, hike over these and you will see the most beautiful little bay ever. This is Little Beach!

20. Cavallet gay beach in Ibiza, Spain

Just like the Venga Boys said, “We’re going to Ibiza”. And we sure love it on this Spanish party island!

Ibiza is synonymous with mega-clubs, some of the best we’ve ever been to. However, it’s not all about partying here. Ibiza also has some stunning beaches to check out including one just for us called Platja Es Cavallet, located in the south of the island.

Cavallet beach is a super chilled place to hang out during the day after a night out partying in one of the island’s mega clubs. This was also the first gay beach we ever went to together as a young gay couple, many, many moons ago. We remember standing behind the dunes, peeking out onto the horizon where Seb swears he could spy Formentera…

On our visit, it was peak summer period in July, so the beach was packed full of gay guys of all ages from all around the world. It’s also where you will find the club flyer boys hanging around and giving out discounts to that evening’s biggest parties. Yet, despite the crowds, we love that you can always find a quiet spot all to yourself at Cavallet.

How to get to the Cavallet gay beach of Ibiza: you can reach the gay beach either by driving here or via a long bus ride from Ibiza Town, followed by another good 20-minute walk through the forest.

Go for a Guy Who Might Like You Back

Sometimes teens have huge crushes on people who are just never going to be a real possibility. Your homophobic classmate, straight crush, the guy with a serious boyfriend, or your gym teacher are not really who you should be setting your sights on if what you truly want is a boyfriend.

Understand the Difficulties of Online Dating

A lot of guys find their boyfriends online, and the Internet is a great tool for gay teens. But meeting someone over the Internet will be a little different than meeting someone in person. For example, a lot of people cast a wide net when trying to meet someone online and it is possible that the guy who seems so interested in getting to know you is also sending those messages to a bunch of other people. Plus, while people don’t always represent themselves honestly in real life, it is in some ways easier to claim to be someone you aren’t when you don’t meet in person.

Don’t Rush It

Most people spend some time dating and getting to know a potential partner before they decide to move into boyfriend mode.

Now you might do all of this and still not have a boyfriend right away. Please don’t beat yourself or get too gloomy if that happens. A lot of teens of all sexual orientations want relationships and for some kids, it just happens sooner than it does for others.

Tradition seit über 25 Jahren

Nicht nur bei Schwulen und Lesben ist die Party angesagt, sondern wegen der lockeren und angenehmen Atmosphäre auch ein beliebter Treffpunkt für Familien. Schon seit 1991 existiert das Hans-Sachs-Straßenfest, das damals zum 5. Geburtstag des Münchner Schwulenzentrums SUB veranstaltet wurde.

Längst ist das Fest zu einer beliebten Institution bei den Münchnern geworden. Erstmals findet es 2019 am Samstag vor Maria Himmelfahrt statt. Jährlich zieht es rund 10.000 Besucher an und ist damit nach dem Christopher Street Day das größte Event in der Münchner Gay-Szene.

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You know your own sexuality better than someone’s measurements of your hands can indicate, and if you’re curious about someone else’s sexuality, it’s probably better to ask rather than make assumptions based on their finger length.

As funny as it may be to make insecure people panic that their hands are gay, there’s really not enough research to point to a clear link between finger length and sexuality. This one study only looked at 18 sets of female twins and 14 sets of male twins – that’s hardly enough to generalise, and if you go around measuring everyone’s hands you’ll quickly notice that their sexualities don’t often match up with how ‘gay’ their hands are.

The research also doesn’t go into sexualities beyond gay or straight, so we may never know how different your finger lengths should be if you’re bisexual (what exact measurement qualifies you as bi?), asexual, or any of the many identities under the sexual umbrella.

Everyone remain calm, but do feel free to tell anyone whose sexuality and gender identity is much too fragile that actually, their hands are gay.

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Have some gay fun in the sun

If you’re looking to combine sand and sea with a little culture, join . We particularly love their Croatia: Gay Dalmatia Cruise itinerary, perfectly merging daily swim stops with tours of the country’s famous medieval ports and towns. But other options include their big gay Colombian getaway, either of their Cuba tours, and of course their signature Thailand adventure.

Go wild in South Africa

Okay, okay, okay. We talk up Out Adventures‘ gay tours A LOT. But in our defence, their gay travel packages are the best on the market. Take their classic Southern Africa tour for example. The luxurious adventure begins in Zimbabwe where you’ll witness the power and beauty of Victoria Falls. Then it’s off to Botswana and South Africa for authentic safaris in private game reserves. Finally, you’ll spend four full days soaking up the culture and cuisine of gorgeous (and gay-friendly!) Cape Town. If that itinerary doesn’t spark your sense of adventure, we don’t know what will.

With stunning coastline views, plenty of caves to explore, plus a fantastic mix of people both old and young, Sandy Bay is the kind of place to visit when you want nothing more than to get firmly off the beaten track. Surrounding the beach is also a stunning hiking trail, which you can explore if you’re feeling a bit more adventurous. There are guided tours available that take you along the sights by the beach, as well as through the Cape Peninsula and Winelands. Read more in our guide to the highlights of Cape Town for gay travelers.

How to get to the Sandy Bay gay beach of Cape Town: Sandy Bay is quite secluded, so the best way to reach it is by car. Just follow your GPS to the endpoint before making the 20-minute hike down to the beach.

Portugal LGBTQ tour

Want to visit the land of cod, custard tarts and Cristiano Ronaldo? Well, our friends at Out Adventures are hosting a sumptuous journey that ticks off Lisbon, Porto and the Douro Valley. Highlights include a private tour of Sintra, a day sipping & supping in wine country, historic tram tours and an invigorating speed boat experience. For all the nitty-gritty details, jump over to their site. And don’t forget to mention we sent you—you just might get a special deal. *wink*

For such a wild beach, Praia 19 is blessed with amazing facilities that you will be thankful for after a long day in the sun. Bars, restaurants, and cafes line the area at Fonte da Telha beach just a short walk south, with many of these spots ideal for meeting new friends and finding out where the latest gay party will be happening that evening.

How to get to the gay beach of Lisbon: The quickest way to drive down from Lisbon if you’re renting a car, or taxi. Otherwise, you can take a train and/or bus, but it takes around 1/5-2 hours. You’re aiming to reach the southern end of Costa da Caparica, which is where the #19 gay beach is.

Stefan Arestis

Stefan is the co-founder, editor, and author of the gay travel blog As a travel nerd, he has explored more than 80 countries across 5 continents. What he loves the most about traveling is discovering the local gay scene, making new friends, and learning new cultures. His advice about LGBTQ travel has been featured in Gaycation Magazine, Gaycities, Gay Times, Pink News, and Attitude Magazine. He has also written about gay travel for other non-gay-specific publications including Lonely Planet, The New York Times, The Guardian, and The Huffington Post. Stefan is also a qualified lawyer, having practiced as a commercial property litigator in London for over 10 years. He left his lawyer days behind to work full time on Nomadic Boys with his husband Sebastien. Find out more .

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That’s right pals, it’s time for some good old fashioned gay panic.

This time around we aren’t questioning your enjoyment of anal play (no, that does not ‘make you gay’) or the choice to wear a delightful pink shirt (that doesn’t either), but are encouraging all those who are insecure in their own sexuality to closely analyse the length of their fingers.

You see, new research suggests that the length of your fingers could reveal your sexuality.

Which leads us to the big question: Are your hands gay?

According to research from the Essex University, the difference between the length of your index and ring fingers might indicate whether you’re gay or straight.

The study looked at 18 sets of female twins (each set with one straight twin and one lesbian twin) and found that the ‘gay’ female twin tended to have more ‘male-typical’ hands than her sister.

Male-typical hands mean there’s a difference between the length of the index finger and the length of the ring finger. Women’s index and ring fingers are typically of the same length.

This is thought to be due to being exposed to tesosterone in the womb.

The study also looked at 14 sets of male twins, and found that the gay twin had slightly more ‘male-typical’ hands than their straight brother, but the difference wasn’t viewed as significant.

So essentially, the research suggests that if you’re gay, your ring and index fingers will be different lengths. If you’re straight, your ring and index fingers will be the same length.

Dr Tuesday Watts, from the department of psychology, said: ‘Because identical twins, who share 100% of their genes, can differ in their sexual orientations, factors other than genetics must account for the differences.

‘Research suggests that our sexuality is determined in the womb and is dependent on the amount of male hormone we are exposed to or the way our individual bodies react to that hormone, with those exposed to higher levels of testosterone being more likely to be bisexual or homosexual.

‘Because of the link between hormone levels and difference in finger lengths, looking at someone’s hands could provide a clue to their sexuality.’

But before you start requesting hand pics when you’re on Tinder or outing your friends with fingers of different lengths, we think it’s important to note that sexuality is a little more complex than that.

If you are attracted only to people of the other gender, you don’t need to have a meltdown because your ring finger is longer than your index finger.

If you’re a lesbian with straight hands, please do not question your sexual identity.