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According to an Urban Institute study, LGBTQ+ singles experienced a sexual victimization rate of 23.2%. That’s roughly 11% higher than the heterosexual rate. From outlandish statistics to negative experiences, one thing has become blatantly obvious: queer, transgender, and pansexual singles need their own space.

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I’m White, Gay, and Dating a Black Man: What I’ve Learned About Racial Profiling

In light of the recent events in Ferguson, Missouri, the subject of race in America is at the forefront of everybody’s minds, including my own. Polls show that many white and black people view this tragedy through starkly different lenses. This serves as a sobering reminder that despite the distance this country has traveled on a range of social issues, there is still an enormous amount of ground to cover in reconciling our nation’s sinful past with its hopeful future. As a gay white man and drag queen who is engaged to an African-American man, my interracial same-sex relationship has given me unique insight into the fundamental mistrust, and often subconscious disdain, that people have for anyone different from themselves.

Ask almost any white person in America and they will tell you straight out that they are not racist. You will hear everything from, „I have black friends“ to „I voted for Obama“ as evidence of their inclusive viewpoints. Yet, in the five years that I have been with my black partner, I have been amazed by the profoundly different ways in which each of us is treated in similar situations. I won’t bore you with the endless stories of the white people who cross the street when they see my boyfriend walking by, or the countless women who clutch their purses tightly as he passes. Nor shall I waste your time retelling how folks watch him like a hawk when we enter a store, while I could be walking out with half the inventory tucked under my shirt and no one seems to care.

On the other hand, I equally refuse to delve into the Facebook post an African-American friend of mine recently wrote where he stated that a black man dating a white man is the ultimate slap in the face to black culture. I will not count off stares, glares, and eye rolls we get on the subway from white and black people alike, or waste my energy on our white gay acquaintances that reduce our interracial relationship to a wild Mandingo fantasy and a conversation about penis size.

Instead, let’s examine the simple, but surprisingly painful act of dining out.

One evening not so long into our courtship, my fiancé and I went to a hipster restaurant located in a progressive Brooklyn neighborhood for dinner. As we entered, the hostess, who was white, asked how many people were in our party, to which I replied, and proceeded to sit us at a table by the window where the waitress, who happened to be white, promptly handed me our menus and asked if we wanted a drink. After listing the specials and pointing out some exceptional bottles of wine, she stepped away to give us a minute to choose. When I looked up from the menu smiling I saw that my boyfriend was totally ticked. I was dumbfounded and asked what was wrong. My face fell as he sadly declared that „it“ was happening again. Unsure what „it“ was, he began to explain that the wait staff was completely ignoring his existence, just like in every other restaurant we had gone to before. I was jarred as I quickly learned that my point of view was truly one-sided, as what I was saw as polite service, he experienced as a fundamental and continual disrespect. After all, the questions asked and the specials listed were strictly addressed to me while he was not even acknowledged.

I confess that at first I was tempted to view his remarks as hyper-sensitivity and assign the behavior of the staff to the fact that I’m an out-going personality who naturally drew their attention, but I did not want to be dismissive to what was clearly a painful feeling that someone that I cared about was experiencing. Therefore, I did what I rarely had done up until this point in life and just shut up and listened. It was a watershed moment as I began to quietly observe the manner in which we both were treated and what I found forced me to examine my own long-held beliefs about racism.

Over the years, the startling consistency of the manner in which I am addressed while he is ignored has become a quasi joke between us. While we may be tempted to get up and scream when I am yet again automatically handed the check at the end of a meal, as my skin color must clearly imply that I am the paying member of our party, he would instantly be branded „angry black man“ and we would only feed into the stupidity that is so pervasive. Instead we find relief in humor and chuckle heartily when we recall one of the numbers in the Broadway musical Avenue Q. At one point during the show the characters burst into song declaring that „everyone’s a little bit racist.“ The truth of these lyrics have helped us to recognize that each person is the summation of their experiences and that often racism is subtle and unrecognized by the perpetrators, but that we all have a collective responsibility to continue to grow and that comes from treating others how we want to be treated and not being afraid to listen to each other.

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I'm White, Gay, and Dating a Black Man: What I've Learned About Racial Profiling

10 Reasons We Love Dating Black Men

From the President to the UPS delivery man, Black men walk like they own the place—and they do. Carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders, they still manage to glide across the room. And we’re most certainly watching.

Along with sexy smiles, Black men are cornering the market on juicy lips. Whispering to us during a movie, savoring a bite during dinner, or even a flashing a little frown can have us thinking some heated thoughts.

Know what I’m saying? We most certainly do. We love a brother’s ability to infuse a few terms from around the way along with Webster’s finest after a long day. When street smarts meet book smarts and common sense, that’s real education.

We don’t mind if a Black man takes another woman’s call in front of us, as long as it ends with “Love you too, mama.” The way a man treats his mother is definitely a sign on how he views women, and Black men have a sweet spot when it comes to their moms. What’s sexier than that?

No one can wear their hat cocked to the side just so like a Black man can. Whether 18 or 81, on Saville Row in London or on South Street in Philly, sporting a Yankee fitted or a fedora—it just doesn’t look the same on anyone else.

“Times like this I wish that raindrops would fall.” Forget Shakespeare and Sinatra. There is nothing better than being with a Black man and not having to explain your favorite movie and TV quotes—from Eddie King, Jr. to Shug Avery, Joe Clark and Martin Payne.

Black men realize that being a strong Black woman is for survival and one part of our multidimensional personalities. You being strong allows us to be soft and let our hair down (in all its hues and textures). And we’ll do the same when your soft and loving side wants company.

We’ve all got a daddy or uncle who believes in his outlandish plans for success—even when nobody else does. We love the drive and ambition of a Black man to see what doesn’t yet exist, and most importantly he is putting in the hard work to make it happen.

Even Jay-Z knows not to stick his hand in wifey’s hair. We don’t know where Chris Rock found the Black men included in “Good Hair,” but the brothers we love understand our hair history and know to admire our tresses from afar, unless told otherwise. Black men also realize they’ve made it to a new level of intimacy when we pull out that scarf that keeps things fresh.

We go waaaaay back. Black men share our long and deep history of pride, pain and progress. We share common knowledge on when it’s appropriate to whip out the race card, and when to look in the mirror. We are partners to create and mold the next generation, as we remember the ones before.

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The Reality of Dating Black Men When You’re White

“So you have jungle fever?” and “You’re into black guys?” didn’t become frequently asked questions until I began attending school at Towson University (TU) as a freshman. I grew up in one of the seventeen cities in the United States named Rochester (Wikipedia, 2015). The most significant difference among them is that this Rochester belongs to a New England state that is listed in bold when you Google “Least diverse state.” If you flip through my year book from senior year, you will count 3 black students in my class, only one of them being male. Although New Hampshire is over 94% “white alone”, (and zero percent Native American) my high school proudly flaunts the Red Raider mascot, a stereotypical Native American with a face tinted blood red (Census Bureau, 2014). This was the place I was born and raised; where nobody had to whisper the “n word” or hesitate to stick some feathers in their hair and paint their skin red as a sign of school spirit.

Growing up in New Hampshire didn’t prevent me from making friends or dating guys who weren’t white. I felt a certain pride in hanging out with people who were Dominican, Indonesian, Laos, Filipino, Hispanic, etc. because it set me apart from others. My parents taught me good morals, like not judging others by their appearance, though I did have to keep my jaw clenched when I visited relatives. They would ask me about the “colored kids” at my job as a camp counselor and spoke the word “bi-racial” in hushed tones, as if it were something to be ashamed of.

After deciding to enroll at Towson University, friends of mine joked about me going to “the hood” and the violence in the Baltimore area, but I was never worried. Fitting into this lifestyle felt more natural to me than living in Rochester ever did. In Rochester everyone appeared to me as clones, walking down school halls clad in American Eagle apparel with Aroma Joe’s coffee cups in hand, but at TU everything clicked. Gay, bisexual, straight, transgender, black, white, Asian, it was there and it was beautiful. All it took was one semester for me to breakup with my high school boyfriend and fall completely in love with a guy from my dorm. He was the first black guy I had ever dated. My ex’s response? “I can’t believe you dumped me for a n*%$#@.”

Telling your parents about your new boyfriend is hard enough when his skin is the same color as yours, but it becomes even more difficult when he is at the opposite end of the color spectrum as you. I called my mother up to tell her about my new boyfriend, and nervously came clean with the statement “I’mSeeingSomeoneNewAndHe’sBlack!” Though I knew my parents wouldn’t care, wouldn’t forbid be from seeing him, or treat him differently than my past boyfriends, the fact that I felt the need to admit he was black, as if it were a crime is absurd. How many times had I said “Mom, I met this guy, he’s white”?

No matter how anxious I was to tell my family about my boyfriend, I felt proud of my interracial relationship, like we were the result of the world uniting and becoming a better place. While some people smiled at us as we held hands in D.C. or walked side by side around the Inner Harbor, others just stared with disapproving eyes. The thing is, people were tolerant, but they were not always accepting. Where friends from home had laughed in my face, believing my taste in guys had somehow done a 180 as a result of moving to the city, black guys I currently went to school with were intrigued. I began receiving attention from darker skinned guys, one even proclaiming with a wink that he had “never had a white girl before” as if conquering a white girl is some badge of honor or just something to check off a list.

Dating a black man is not the same as dating a white man. I was pushed out of my comfort zone and I learned more than I ever would have had I been with some someone who grew up just as I did. He showed me new music, food, and gave me a new perspective to consider. His family welcomed me with open arms and I am a better person because of it. Friends asked me what it was like dating someone who is black and giggled asking if it was true about “what they say about size.” One friend admitted “I could never date a black guy because I wouldn’t be able to understand what he was saying.” All stereotypes I had been used to hearing about this unchartered territory.

When my relationship eventually ended, the phrase “once you go black, you never go back” rang in my ears. It put me in a box, limiting me in ways I didn’t realize until recently. The more attention I received from black men, the less white men wanted to talk to me, as if I had been eternally branded as a traitor. They seemed to be intimidated by my dozens of Facebook pictures with darker men, causing them to run before they even got to know me. “They’re riddled with sexually transmitted diseases” one ignorant guy messaged me on Tinder after seeing a single picture of me with black guys on my profile. To them, Black men were filthy and diseased, which could only mean one thing: I was too.

As my luck with white men plummeted, I was inevitably pushed further towards black guys. I began attending parties where I was one of the few white people. Guys would approach me, rarely avoiding grabbing my butt or asking the question, “So you like black guys?” I became known as that girl who was only interested in dark men and suddenly, the body that took me years to become comfortable with became one I was questioning again. “You have no a**, Erica” one guy commented at one of these parties as LL Cool J’s “Big Ole Butt” blasted through speakers, while another told me he was willing to deal with my lack of a chest because I had “an a** like a dancer.” Many of the songs on the radio by black artists seemed to put emphasis on parts of the body that I was lacking. Flo Rida’s “Can’t Believe It” flowed through party speakers with its lyrics “Damn that white girl got some a** I don’t believe it” and “black girl got some a** it ain’t no secret”, taking me back to feelings of insecurity I started having as a little kid.

The first time I had ever questioned my physical appearance was before I even began first grade. I was running around my house in a black one piece bathing suit and remember looking down at my stomach, thinking that it stuck out too much. I immediately sprinted outside in the daylight to get a better look and make sure I wasn’t fat. Critiquing my body became a regular occurrence after that.

As I slowly prodded my way through middle school then high school, my body began taking on the features of a woman. My 5’4’’108 pound figure became more defined and I started to feel proud of my body. I felt that I looked the way that I was meant to look: small waist, small everything. But going to college challenged my standards of beauty. Previously I had learned to fear looking heavy from various places including sitcoms featuring women trying on dress after dress and finally asking “Does this make my butt look big?” Her husband would assure her that of course her butt didn’t look big in order to prevent her from trying another outfit on. Where growing up as a white woman had taught me not to be fat, I was now told by rap culture to have a “fat a**.” I began to feel that I could never live up to stereotypical „black standards“ and that my body type would only be appealing to white men.

Moving from one of the least to one of the most diverse states in the U.S. has not changed my preference in guys, even if it may appear otherwise. I have always been drawn to dark haired, dark skinned, brown eyed men, but with only 1.5% black men in the entire state of New Hampshire, I never had much of an option (Census Bureau, 2014). Does this mean I will never date a white man again? Honestly, I’m not sure, but I should be able to make the decision without considering if I fit perceived black or white standards better. Reading the article The Reality of Dating White Women When You’re Black by Ernest Baker inspired me to consider the reverse perspective, which is comparatively different. Baker discusses how a white woman can be seen as a “trophy,” whereas I have found that dating a black man is often seen as something “filthy.“ Regardless of the differences, Baker and I have found that whether male or female, being part of an interracial relationship can cause people to view you as a “sellout” or a “traitor” to your own race, even if the words are not spoken directly. Though there are challenges when it comes to interracial relationships, it is not all negative. It is a good feeling to know that you are secure enough in your relationship that the disapproval of others only adds to the excitement. As Baker wrote, “Maybe knowing how much a diverse range of attraction upsets people is part of the appeal of interracial dating.”

I am united with those who have white skin by similar experiences or the culture we may share, but I do not view us as an army fighting a war against all others of different shades. I don’t see sides where interracial couples are choosing “them” over “us” while same-race couples remain loyal. The only wars I see are the ones with ourselves where we are the traitors, betraying our own happiness by worrying about skin color or the size of our body parts instead of simply finding someone we love.

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What Men Want: African-American Men on Love, Dating and Marriage

In the “What Women Want”-part of our EBONY/QuestionProAfrican-American Women on Love, Dating Marriage, we took a deep dive into Black women’s current attitudes on love, dating, marriage and other issues.

But what about the guys? Could we expect the tropes of simplicityand predictability with regard to African-American males and the same subjects?Again, the results were surprising and complex. Welcome to 2019.

The study was a joint EBONY/QuestionPro research initiative conducted in February with approximately 700 subjects. Nearly 300 African-American males, whose numbers were spread evenly across educational and financial demographics, participated in the survey. Fifty-four percent of respondents have never been married, 31 percent are currently married and the remainder are either divorced, widowed or separated.

 Here is the currentrelationship status of unmarried Black men respondents:

·      In a committed relationship butliving apart:  20 percent     

Are Black men “always up for it” as the perennial trope seems tosuggest?  Data from the study indicates Blackmen are multidimensional and thoughtful as it relates to when it’s appropriateto first have sex when dating.

Here is the breakdown (and we’ve added female responses for acomparison):

1.     No hard, fast rule: 42 percent (47percent for women)

2.     Two or three dates: 21 percent (3percent for women)

3.     Once it’s known relationship will beexclusive: 14 percent (31 percent for women)

4.     First date: 9 percent (fewer than 1percent for women)

5.     Not until marriage: 8 percent (16percent for women)

Black women are more conservative than Black men, certainly, butmen are far from cavalier when it comes to first having sex in datingrelationships.

More than half of Black men (52 percent) surveyed want to marrytheir current partners, 38 percent indicate not being sure and only 11 percentsay they have no interest. This tells us African-American males aren’tnonchalant or wasting time in their dating explorations. (Fiftypercent have no problem dating withouta serious commitment; surprisingly, this figure is actually lower than the onefor Black women, which is 60 percent).

Further evidencing that Black men are not averse to commitment, 47percent state they have been with their current partners for five years or more,and only 11 percent say they haven’t made it past the six-month ’s more, 61 percent of respondents claim their sex lives with their currentpartners is without issues, while 65 percent say cheating is absent in theirrelationships.

Parallel to our research on women, physical networking is still tops when it comes to meeting potential mates. Twenty-two percent of Black men see friends as the primary way, and online dating comes in second at 17 percent.

After friends and the internet, here is where Black men findsomeone to date:

Here is the breakdown on where they actually met their current partnersor spouses:

6.     Church, mosque or other place ofworship: 5 percent

An Open Letter To Gay, White Men: No, You’re Not Allowed To Have A Racial Preference

Before I begin, I want you to understand that I’m not calling all of you racist. I’ve never been one to throw that word around casually and even though I’m sure there are some that word would fit like a glove, I’m not talking to them. I’m talking to you ― the cisgendered, white, gay men out there who hold no ill will towards minorities (especially black and brown ones) but somehow have never found themselves in bed with one. You’re good guys, I know this to be true. You mean well when it comes to race relations but, as a white man in… the world, you must admit, you have no clue what it means to be racially discriminated against. As a result, there are often times when you don’t recognize when your behavior towards people of color veers into problematic territory. As a black man within the gay community, I recognize that shit all the time and have a few points I’d like to discuss with you. I’m not here to judge you. There’s only one capital H-i-m and it’s not me. But you may want to take my words to heart if you’d like to live up to those progressive memes you share on Facebook all the time.

Let’s start with the epicenter of your problematic behaviors towards my kind: your dating app profile. I know it can be hard to find the right words while expressing your preferences when it comes to what you’re looking for in a partner. Whether you’re looking for “Mr. Right” or “Mr. Yea Daddy Right There” but I can’t help but notice that a lot of you get lost, like… really lost, when it comes to stating your preferences properly. To be clear, you’re allowed to describe the kind of guy you’re looking for and the things that turn you on but specifying the race of your desired partner is a line that is not to be crossed. It comes off as racist and that’s because it is.

I should point out that I’ve had this conversation with more than a couple of white gays in person and here is where the debate usually begins, so I’m going to assume that you’re rolling your eyes at me right about now. That’s fine and to make you feel more heard I’ll even repeat the most common point used to counter my argument ― “but people like what they like. Can’t change that.” I’ve heard that excuse, or some iteration of it, used many times. Almost as if it’s a magic phrase that just kind of ends the conversation and absolves you of your bullshit. I’ll put aside the fact that broadcasting your distaste for an entire race, or multiple races, in the year 2017 is really dumb in addition to being racist as fuck, and just challenge the reasoning here head on. Yes, people like what they like but sometimes the things people like are racist, like lawn jockeys or the current president of the United States. You can’t say you prefer one race of people as romantic partners, or anything really, to another because all of the people who belong to one race are not the same. No matter how you slice it, it’s racist.

But what if Black and Asian men choose to only date other Black and Asian men? Isn’t that racist too? No… and you tried it. Look, all men are created equal but all men are not valued equally, especially in this country. Every Black and Asian man who grew up on this planet grew up surrounded by positive images of whiteness and white men. Therefore, our desire to date within our own race, when we choose to, is not rooted in any assertion made by society that we’re better than anyone else. I know this is a lot to digest so I’ll just boil it down to this: if your preference for a partner supports an existing racial hierarchy which marginalizes minorities, then your preferences are racist. And yes, that includes you rice queens and chocolate chasers too. Fetishizing me is not a compliment, it’s propping up harmful sexual stereotypes and, it too, is racist.

As I’ve said before, I have had this conversation many times so I know what comes next. You’re saying to yourself “Damn! If I don’t go for men of color I’m racist. If I do, I’m racist.” Well… yes! If you’re making any of your dating decisions with a person’s race in mind, that’s racist. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you have to find all Black and Asian men attractive. I sure as hell don’t. What I’m saying is that men of color are still men, and as such, we want the people making decisions about our desirability to make them based on who and what we are and that doesn’t begin and end with a few layers of melanin.

“Fine, I’m a horrible racist asshole. What do I do about it? I can’t re-program myself to find men of color more attractive,” some of you might be saying. Actually, you can. As you know, the brain is the largest sexual organ in your body and it’s capable of amazing growth. Think of it like learning a new language, better still, think of it like unlearning a racist one. In social psychology there is a theory called The Mere-Exposure Effect. Simply put, the more we are exposed to someone, the more attractive they become to us. See? There’s hope for you after all! You can decide how best to “expose” yourself however you want but please, for the good of us POC who have to share this community with you, get to work. As gay men of color we get more than enough discrimination from the rest of the world. We don’t need the friendly fire from you.

It Happened . . . Kourtney’s Dating BLACK Guy . . . Now All Kardashians In Interracial Couple!!

Kourtney Kardashian is the last Kardasahian to have entered into an interracial relationship. All of her sisters and her mother are currently dating Black men. And now Kourtney just joined the Krew.

Kourtney Kardashian was spotted by paparazzi sparkling as she exits The Nice Guy in Los Angeles. She was with model Luka Sabbat, whom she net during New York’s Fashion Week. The KUWTK star shows some leg after a night out with friends. 

For years, Kourtney was the last hold out – the only Kardashian sister not dating a Black man.

Her sister Kylie dates rapper Travis Scott, Kim is married to Kanye, Khloe is dating NBAs Tristan Thompson, Kendall is dating NBAs Ben Simmons, and mother Kris is dating Cory Gamble.

The 8 Best Dating and Hookup Apps for Queer Men

Dating is hard. That’s just a fact. Dating while queer is often even harder. When you’re a guy who’s attracted to people of the same gender, there are simply fewer instances in which you can serendipitously meet somebody and experience that romantic spark. Which is why gay bars and other inclusive spaces have become such an important part of life for people in the LGBTQ+ community, including gay and bisexual men.

Of course, if you’re a queer man looking for love, not every town has a gay bar that you can just head to whenever you’re in the mood to get your flirt on. And in the pandemic, meeting and mixing with a lot of people in a public setting is out of the question.

Enter: The Apps. Whether you’re looking for somebody fun to chat with, to swap photos, or make a connection with the goal of eventually meeting for a real-life date, we’ve got you covered. These are the 8 best LGBTQ-friendly dating and hookup apps for queer men. (When you find one you like and sign up for an account, make sure you follow these tips for taking a really great photo for your profile!)

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9 Things I Learned From Dating White Guys

„I’ve dated quite a few White guys, and when you do, there are some small cultural quirks that never go unnoticed.“

Growing up in Northern Kentucky, I got used to being the only Black kid in most of my classes. In high school, there were other Black students, but none of them in my close-knit drama and speech class circles. Because of this, I have dated quite a few White guys, and while there are similarities when dating any man, there are still some small cultural quirks that never go unnoticed when you’re with a White dude. LIke these nine things, for instance.1. They will never understand the hair thing. It might start with an innocent “did you get a haircut” right after you wash your hair and there is shrinkage–but it does not end…EVER…after that. From moisturizing, to protecting with a satin cap, there is always a new and interesting thing for your guy to discover. Trust me, while it gets easier to explain, it doesn’t ever stop needing to be explained.2. They don’t want to say the N-word, but they do want to talk about why some people do. Though I date smart enough humans to not ever be asked to be the voice of my entire race, I still get asked how I feel about rappers using the N-word, and who has access to it. This conversation doesn’t have to be uncomfortable if you’re certain of your stance, but if you waiver, they will be forever confused and your weighing-in on the subject can save them from physical harm and embarrassment in the future.3. They will always be embarrassed about fried chicken. Every damn body loves fried chicken, but now he’s far too aware of the stereotypes associated and will be torn about it every time you pass a KFC.4. They need help knowing what to tell their friends. As much as we live in a post-racial society , their friends may not be as enlightened as they are. Their friends want to know what the differences are, even when none are all that apparent. Give him some ammo. If he says the wrong thing, and you catch wind of it, he knows that’s his ass. Don’t be afraid to give him a script.

5. He’s just as scared to meet your family. While you might be dreading meeting older family members due to 50+ years of internalized racism, he just as much fears that your family wants to retaliate for having to endure ignorance while they were coming up. You will both help each other through this. Talk to your family, and if they don’t want to meet him, sit with that. Figure out what’s important to you. You shouldn’t not see a man just because your family has prejudices, and the same goes for his family.6. Seasoning skills are not something you are born with. Instructions needed.7. Expect to learn a lot, too. I had never listened to Radiohead before dating my last boyfriend, even though I had heard they were a pretty influential contemporary band. Maybe he doesn’t know the words to “Creep” by TLC, but you don’t know the words to “Creep” by Radiohead either, so be open to those experiences. 8. Halloween presents unique opportunities. If you want to point out your melanin difference, there are loads of costumes you can partake in. Be Uhura and Spock from Star Trek, be Pocahontas and John Smith–or, you can blow everyone’s minds and go as just a pumpkin or a witch. It’s up to you. But, you can definitely take yourselves less seriously on October 31st each year.9. When you fall in love, it will have nothing to do with your race. A lot of people on the Internet like to weigh-in negatively about interracial relationships and why they happen. Truthfully, like any relationship, you cannot help whom you love. If you have the same interests, enjoy spending time together, and can see a real future with someone, you will love them without even thinking about their race. It is neither advantageous or disadvantageous to date outside of your race, or class, or within your gender. Love who you love, and have fun on the is a comedian taking improv and sketch courses at Upright Citizens Brigade. She is also sometimes your first black girlfriendTwitterYoutube and one her blog, It’s Akilah Obviously.

10 Dating Tips For Gay Men (That, Really, EVERYONE Should Follow)

For the most part, gay men are like everyone else on the dating scene. They’re looking for affectionlove. Like their straight counterparts, gay men also desire connection, companionship and commitment. 

Unfortunately, the gay dating pool is viciously competitive. So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men:

1. Get in the game. Sitting on the sidelines will get you nowhere. Either play the gay dating game or get out of the other gay guys‘ way! This doesn’t mean you have to play every day. The goal is for the single gay community to know you’re in circulation.

2. Try something new. Try a sparkling, new approach to gay dating. That is, if you’ve been doing the same thing and expecting a different result, then change detergents, add some fabric softener and try a new way of putting yourself out there. Going to the same coffee shop, grocery store and gym leads to the same scenery and the same results. Yawn! So instead, change it up!

3. Step out of the box. You love to run, hike and go to the theater. Great. Now what activity would be so out of the box for you, it might put you in a space to meet new guys, make friends with people who have gay friends or try a new hobby? Think of it this way: If you can step out of the closet, you can certainly step out of your rut!

4. Reflect what you desire. If you really want a guy who appreciates monogamy, then hanging out with people who have open relationships probably isn’t the best place to meet Mr. Right. From sex to finances and family to intellectual awareness, letting your true desires show up doesn’t make you weak, weird or wacky. It’s you being truly you, so let your authentic self shine. 

5. Stop making excuses. The more you make excuses for why your gay dating life is the toilet, the less chance of it shifting in a positive way. If every date you go on with a gay guy leads you to say, „He was nice, but … “ stop and ask yourself „Why are you always justifying your way out of dating?“

6. What’s sex got to do with it? Well, it depends on your position — no pun intended. Dating from the perspective of „it’s all about sex“ can pay off if that’s how you truly feel. Conversely, making sex the secondary acquisition can also be a home run. Regardless of your perspective, being honest with yourself all along is my point. When you hide from your truth, it won’t set you free. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship. 

7. Ask yourself, „So what?“ Constantly in a tailspin with the same old audio tapes playing in your head? Do you always say: „Gay dating is such a chore,“ or, „Gay men just want sex,“ or „Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves?“ If so, start asking yourself, „So what?“

For example, „Gay dating is such a chore.“ So What? „When it becomes work, it’s not fun.“ So What? „If it’s not fun, then I might as well just stay home.“ So what? „If I stay home then I get depressed and lonely!“

Bingo! Gay dating is a chore that eventually leads to feeling depressed and lonely … or at least that’s what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. So change the tape!

8. Be a fearless, foolish and fun-loving. Crazy as it sounds, one of these three „f-words“ could lead you to Mr. Right. First, be fearless in your gay dating pursuits. After all, if he thinks you’re afraid, you probably are, and your sweaty armpit stains will rat you out! If you can’t win them by being fearless, then be a little foolish, and let your heart lead you. Even if you feel like a fool, you’ll rack up the frequent heartbreak points that will eventually pay for an all-expenses-paid trip to true love. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. What’s the worst that can happen? 

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Dating gay

Gay dating is often thought to not be serious and imply no long-going intentions whatsoever. While for some men it can be true, for others such perspective only complicates the process of finding a partner which is not easy at all anyway. Gay dating sites and apps offer a chance to meet other gay guys, but will such relationship last? Not necessarily.

You might think that being gay you are doomed to either be a struggling lonely soul or a great flirt. We are absolutely sure: there is plenty fish in the sea for gay singles. Here at our aim is to help everyone in need of a soulmate and we believe that your chances multiply if you join or website!

The Dos and Don’ts of Interracial Dating

I am a Black woman who dates the “rainbow.” If you put every guy I was involved with in the past 10 years into one room (that group includes random dates, relationships, situationships and that one time I got married), you’d have a fabulous, multihued bouquet of masculine beauty. A kind, smart man who moves me, might be able to rock with me, regardless of race or ethnicity. I’m not on that ridiculous color-blind train; I’m just an equal-opportunity dater.

The vast majority of my Black girlfriends exclusively and purposely date Black men, so I get a lot of questions about my UN-friendly dating roster and most of those questions are about the white dudes. “Is it pink?” “Are you sure it’s not some jungle fever type thing?” “Has he seen Love Jones?” The answers to those questions depends on the guy—could be tan, pink or some combination. Only once was it a fetish thing on the guy’s end, and I deaded that as soon as I was aware. Seeing specific movies is not a dating requirement for me. You better know and love Stevie Wonder, though. That’s life right there.

Then there are two troubling statements that I often hear. The first is, “I’m so sick of these Black men. In a minute, I’m about to be like you and find a White boy.” Ugh.

I find this to be problematic because everything about it is wrong. You should never date someone of a certain race because you feel exhausted by the antics of men of another race. It’s not fair to the Black woman, the White dude or Black men. There are plenty of good Black men out there. For real. Men in my family, my circle of friends and past loves attest to that. If you’re running into Black dudes who are not worth a quarter, their behavior is not some genetic issue related to their ethnic background, they just aren’t the guys for you, for any number of other reasons.

The White guy gets the short end of the stick in that situation, too, because he’s a sucka-ass plan B and doesn’t even know it. The Black woman loses because she’s not addressing the real issues that contribute to her dating dilemmas.

The other troubling statement I get from my Black girlfriends regarding dating White dudes is, “You’re the type of Black girl White guys like. White men aren’t attracted to me.” Chile, stop it. If there is one thing I know about heterosexual men, it is that regardless of their physical preferences, at the end of the day they just like women. I’ve seen White guys with a wide variety of Black women.

I am a thin, Harlem-residing, Detroit-born, master’s degree-having 34-year-old divorced Black woman whose passport is on pimpin’. When friends say I’m the “type” White guys like, they are mostly referring to my small frame, education and breadth of travel. However, I am not a White boy whisperer. There is nothing about me that makes me a “safe” Black chick for White guys to holler at. The reality is that I have a very active social life in a diverse city, and I often find myself in rooms filled with men of various racial, ethnic and nationality backgrounds. My dating roster reflects those social encounters.

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Our Top 10 Choices: Which Is Best For Your Needs?

Scissr – Best for lesbian culture, community, and dating 

Taimi – Best for trendy, social media-based dating 

1. HER

Membership options: Free with a paid premium version

Over the years, the pioneer in lesbian dating apps HER has developed into an all-inclusive platform for women and femmes of all types, identities, and sexual preferences. HER embraces and welcomes more than 18 gender identities and 17 sexual orientations on the profile selection list. HER’s app is easy to use, loaded with communication features, and even hosts local events for more community building.

2. Grindr

Membership options: Free with a paid premium version

Available for gay, bi, trans, and other queer singles, Grindr is one of the most popular dating apps with a reputation of men seeking hookups with other men. Thanks to its powerful geolocation feature, Grindr is a great social networking solution for people who’ve recently moved, relocated, are traveling, or seeking a quick fling in their area.

3. OKCupid

Membership options: Free with paid upgrade options available

OKCupid may be one of the mainstream dating apps but the platform openly welcomes all LGBTQ+ singles. With 22 different gender identities and 12 sexual orientations, LGBTQ+ folks will certainly find their place on the app. Bonus: OKCupid even allows queer people to hide their profile from straight and cisgender people (for safety or personal reasons).

4. Hornet 

Membership options: Free with a paid premium version

Hornet is one of the most popular gay social networking apps and gives queer men a great platform to meet other queer men around the world. The app offers various ways to build community, find other singles, stay current on trending news, and even a list of bathhouses in your area. It’s basically a one-stop-shop for gay social networking.

5. Scruff

Scruff is known as a hotspot for gay hookups no matter where you are in the world. Users enjoy open sharing features and powerful search filters to find whoever and whatever you’re looking for. Scruff is also an excellent travel companion for gay singles looking to meet others while away from home. Plus, the more you swipe, the stronger the algorithm gets!

6. Bumble 

Membership options: Free with a paid premium version

Bumble is all about empowering women and femmes to make the first move. The emphasis is heavy on feminist power with the right to initiate messaging restricted to women and non-binary members. The popular dating app started as a dating app but now features global networking opportunities for building friendships, business relations, social networking, and, of course, relationships. 

7. Scissr

Scissr is a great dating app for lesbian and queer women who want to network and connect with other members of the LGBTQ+ community. The app is designed for women, femmes, and non-binary folks who are looking to find friends, date, and discuss culture and relationships with other queer singles. The app’s design is sleek and user-friendly with free chat and image sharing features.

8. Jack’d

Membership options: Free with a paid premium version

Jack’d prides itself on being the most diverse dating app for gay, bi, and trans people. It boasts a powerful geolocation feature that helps you browse singles all over the world and flag them for conversations or private photo and video sharing. If you struggle to break the ice, Jack’d even offers a chat phrases feature which gives helpful conversation starters. 

9. Hinge

Membership options: Free with a paid premium version

Hinge calls itself the dating app that is meant to be deleted because it puts a heavy emphasis on serious relationships. Profiles are built on bold questions to quickly and effectively uncover personality quirks and offer conversation starters for matches. Hinge will ask you about your political affiliation and how you feel about legalizing weed and offers plenty of gender identification options as well.

10. Taimi

Membership options: Free with a paid premium version

Taimi is a LGBTQ+ dating platform that features a nice mashup of dating, chatting, and social networking capabilities for people of all gender identities and sexualities. The app is designed perfectly for today’s fast-paced, short-attention-span, social-media focused society. Taimi is geared towards a safe dating culture for the LGBTQ+ community with values that include diversity and inclusion and a zero tolerance policy toward discrimination. 

Reviewing the Top LGBTQ+ Dating Sites: Our Methodology

’s dating app and website reviews are based on independent research, trusted third party sites, user reviews, and individual use of the product through free or paid trials. For the rest of the information, we rely on what the brand says about its own product offering, public reviews and complaints, and ratings from independent agencies like the BBB and trusted publications. Some of the key features we compared when reviewing the LGBTQ+ dating apps on our list include, but are not limited to, pricing, accessibility, number of members, and communication options. 

What You Need to Know Before Choosing an LGBTQ+ Dating Site

Dating as a member of the LGBTQ+ community can be fun, enjoyable, and successful if you know how to navigate the apps. Before signing up and spending time creating a profile, here are some things to ask yourself about the queer dating site you’re interested in:

What Types of LGBTQ+ Dating Sites Are There?

There are a lot of niche dating apps out there, including those for the LGBTQ+ community. Which one you’ll choose all depends on what you’re hoping to gain from it. You can look for the most selective one out there to really tailor your dating experience, opt for a broader dating app and see what (or who) you find, or pick one with a specific intention (like hookups only, serious relationships, or casual situationships). Sometimes you can find an app that caters to all of these. In which case, you’ll need to specify your preferences on your profile page and/or when chatting with a potential date (more on this below). As with love and relationships, the choice is yours to make. 

How Much Does LGBTQ+ Dating Cost

Each LGBTQ+ dating app presents its own cost. Whereas some are entirely free, others are freemium, and the rest are totally paid. 

Free or freemium dating apps let you create an account and browse the network for potential matches. However, you’ll have to pay to unlock more, better features that might introduce you to the type of person or relationship you’re seeking. 

Subscription-based dating apps charge you a flat rate every month and grant you access to all available features. Monthly subscriptions generally start around $9/month and go up from there. You almost always get a discount for signing up for multiple months at once, too.

Other sites charge per action. Want to chat? 5 credits. Send a pic? 5 credits. Send a gift? You got it. 5 credits. You’ll buy credits in a bundle then they’ll subtract from your account whenever you take an action. This pricing structure can quickly get expensive so watch your spending while using these apps.

Love Is Out There, Find It Today

Modern dating is complicated enough without having to explain your gender identity or sexual orientation. In addition to safety factors, this is why LGBTQ+ dating apps are so helpful. Whether you’re looking to find a good friend who views the world from a similar perspective as you, want a playful night with a stranger, or are searching for that special someone to spend the rest of your life with, queer dating apps make the entire process a lot smoother, easier, and more enjoyable for everyone. Check it out, and see who you might find!

10 Types of Gay Men to Avoid

Gay dating has always been sort of tricky. First, there’s the issue of figuring out if there’s a mutual attraction.

Second, there is the entire matter of compatibility in the bedroom. Here we are talking about who prefers to do what and if that person is any good at it. Let’s be real – that’s an important thing to a lot of gay men!

Third, both guys need to figure out if the interest level goes beyond a mere hookup. In other words:

Once you move past the three big pre-dating hurdles, you slip into the world of observational dating.

This is where things become really interesting because during this phase, you have the opportunity to test the mettle of the man and see it the guy is a good fit. Is he emotionally available for example?

Observational dating involves checking out the dude’s behaviors during time spent together and assessing what the heck you are dealing with. Usually during the observation phase, no relational commitment is made. Instead, things are kept casual, which allows either party the freedom to call it quits should they so desire.

10 Types of Gay Men You Never Want to Date

What follows are 10 types of guys gay men want to date, based on different personality characteristics. These “10 types” were created through observations and commentary collected in an unscientific web survey, plus the input of a few experts in the field of gay couples counseling.

Disclaimer: This list is not exhaustive and may or may not apply to your situation. Think of these as characteristics rather than hard and fast rules. Additionally, for every negative characteristic listed here there are positive traits you should consider. The point however of this article is help you figure out the ones you absolutely don’t want to deal with.

To help visually illustrate the 10 types, we’ve included an infographic.

1. The Cheapskate

Cheapskates usually rear their penny pinching heads early in the dating process. Typically, this type of gay man will make no effort to reach for their wallet and almost expects that you pay for outings, like dinners and movies.

When they are placed in a situation where they must pay for something, they often nickel and dime it to the point that it takes all joy out of whatever is planned.

The difference between a cheapskate and someone who is frugal is that cheapskates opt for “cheap” or “free” over quality, to pay.

2. Prima Donna

Prima Donnas are perhaps one of the biggest personality types you want to avoid as a gay man.

These particular individuals are overly fussy, narcissistic and self-important.

Usually, they make it to the observational dating stage by using charm, coupled with good looks, which are used to pull an unsuspecting gay man into their world of “fans”.

This type of gay man makes it all about them and simply must be the center of attention wherever they go.

Likely, they will not ask about what’s going on with you, your life or your family.

3. The Player

Players can be difficult to spot at first because like the narcissistic pre-madonna, they use charm and good looks to suck in their prey. Players give the vibe of being casual and easy going, which can be powerfully magnetic, given how many gay men are attracted to this type of energy.

Players however can be spotted fairly quickly by closely examining their words and through observing their interactions with others.

4. The Party Dude/Drunk

This is another type of guy you want to avoid for serious dating. In the gay world, use of alcohol and certain types of party favors is not uncommon. And it is important to state that just because someone uses alcohol or “parties” from time to time doesn’t make them un-datable. However, when you have situation where the guy needs to constantly liquor up or use something else in order to have fun or enjoy intimacy, you are likely dealing with the party dude/drunk.

5. The Dating Junky

Dating junkies are gay men who get all caught up in the “newness” of dating you but as soon as things start to get serious, they drop you like a hot potato.

Dating junkies thrive on perpetually being in a state of going out on new dates or meeting new people. They never hang around long enough to see if something long-term can develop because they think “something better” might be out there.

6. The Drama Queen

In the gay world of dating, drama queens are not that difficult to spot. In fact, they are super simple to detect because of their overt nature. Drama queens are addicted to chaos, confusion and indecision. They are quick to overreact, take things way too personally and make everything a crisis.

When they are not making mountains out of molehills, they are inserting themselves into other people’s chaos or worse, pulling you into their world of craziness. In many ways, drama queens are addicted to the non-stop emotional roller coaster of highs and lows and experiences few periods of stability. Enough said.

7. The Self-Loather

Self-loathing gay men are very difficult to date. They have a chip inside of them that for whatever reasons makes them think they need to deny who they are. Characteristically, self-loathers claim to not be like “other gay men” and over emphasize masculinity to the point that it can be a turn off. Self-loathers avoid any hint of public displays of affection (PDA) and constantly need to distance themselves from anything that may be remotely seen as “gay”.

Final Thoughts

The 10 personality types offered here speak in generalities and certainly do not represent the entirety of gay men. To be fair, many of the characteristics presented in this article apply to straight men as well.

These general traits however are important to be mindful of. You don’t want to date a guy, at least in the long term sense, if they are one (or more) of the types that appear here.

And it is completely possible for a dude to occupy several of these “types” all at once. Should you involved with someone like that, you really have problems.

So there you have it – the 10 types of gay men you never want to date. Now go out and find your dream man!

Comments

“The User” is described well in this article , but can be expanded on. I dated a “user” for a year, but he used me in the sense that he just wanted someone to hang out with while he went on dates behind my back in search of “the one”. It was a very bad experience and ended badly. I still feel the sting from it, and it’s been awhile since the break up.

These traits scare me man I could read about a nice personality ! Being gay should be about sexual orientation, not psycho disfunction. .

This should be about highlighting and warning people of these specific behaviors, and not to label or make these kinds of people seem ‚difficult to date‘. Everyone has flaws, it’s merely how they are handled. Unfortunately, as I’ve run into men that fit under these terms used, I try to keep an open mind.

Also, it’s formally known as ‚prima donna‘ not ‚pre-Madonna‘. (I know this, thanks to „Primadonna“ by Marina and The Diamonds).

This is the entire gay community! Who is left to date?

Too bad we didn’t have this head’s up before we set out finding these human trainwrecks, in the first place.

Well I’m none of those the only problem I faced in the LGBT community is the fact that these guys don’t even want to give me a try because I’m black

John Hollywood, that was so true what you said about some of the gay men. Why I say this? I was with one for seven years until I told him to hit the road. Mine was the type of man that was gay as a 33 dollar bill, but had to be drunk first to admit it. When he was sober, his whole personality changed. It was like he was a totally different man. He would not say a word to anyone while sober to the point I thought and others thought he was socially retarded. When he started drinking, you could not shut him up. He became extremely passionate, actually the life of the party. Then the next day back to the other person that was so shy, that people often ask him if he was ill. So yes your right on and I had one and no thank you John Hollywood don’t want another one. Again thanks for the important information. Rex.

looks like I’m undateable, I’m the complete mix between drunk and date junkie, with a little of overachiever and just a bit of pre- madonna. -_-

Just wanted to say that it’s a bit unfair telling people that they shouldn’t date guys who aren’t fully comfortable with how they look. Only because someone doesn’t want to take his shirt off because he fears he might be judged or simply doesn’t feel comfortable doesn’t mean he is a bad person who you shouldn’t date.

Buyer beware, I fit into a few of the categories be it. You left out judgmental close minded guy who is quick the to label everyone and pretend that he is above it all. This is the guy will point out everyones imperfections and even write articles on the subject because according to them, there is nothing bad about themselves.

I found your article to be very informative. I finally understand who i have been dating. Thank you so much.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on June 23, 2016:

@mediicineman. Why don’t you write something yourself? Easy to criticize. It’s another thing to actually write. Now enjoy your day, ya hear? Buy bye!

Never dated, but using this to try and characterise myself to figure out where I stand in the whole gay image thing, I realise I don’t really fit into any of these. I don’t really know how to feel now. I’m responsible with money, but not a cheapskate. I don’t like attention at all cause I guess I have social anxiety. I need the emotional side satisfied before being attracted to a guy enough to want something significant. I don’t go out, at all. Occasionally with a mate once a month. I haven’t dated before. I hate drama as it is to much time and energy gone to waste. I accept my flaws and try to build upon them and change. I only keep people around me if they build me up, I don’t think that’s using, more that there’s no point in having or being around someone that your of no use to. Ive managed to achieve a degree and stuff and constantly aim to get better, but not to be the best. And I aim to lead a healthy lifestyle and try to stay in shape to an extent but not so much so that its my life. I’m also 21, Indian and and have been openly gay since I was 17.

Just wondering what does this mean then if I don’t fall into any of these categories? Or if I do, which one/ones do I fall into and how could I improve on myself? So confused………….

Its well written and lengthy but kind of comes off as superficial. I mean those traits are obviously visible no-no’s which anyone can spot on in less than a day’s worth of interaction. I was probably looking for more depth i guess. Things everyone would easily miss out on. Like tell me something I don’t know.

So It must be really difficult to you to find a guy. Because you’re a mix of at least 3 of those types. You’re creating stereotypes, but you forgot you’re the first stereotype every gay men want to avoid: the self proclamed mister perfect, implying he’s a sort of leader but never saying it because it conveys a bad image. The type of guy who think he’s in rigth to decide who is to avoid, and wath everyone needs.

Your narrow minded vision of the world only belong to you, so don’t speak as if you’re telling us a bible.

The term is „prima donna“, not „pre-Madonna“. An Italian word for first lady; a diva, not an era of time before Madonna.

This is sad as most gay men fit into onevircseveral of these slots.

My question is where does a college student living on financial aid because of taking 16 + credit hours of classes fit into this category? people who live off of financial aid often have tight budgets and can’t afford to pay for a lot of the „dates“ you claim that cheapskates don’t want to pay for. Is it so bad to do something free or something that is within a budget? While I do think that there is truth to a lot of these traits, there are a lot that attenuate from a persons unique situations.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on April 24, 2015:

Corriea Mattina from Moon Beach, New York on April 23, 2015:

4/23/15 8:24p HubPages 10 Types of Guys You Never Want to Date John Hollywood The List encompasses a lot of Men and I do recognize some of the usual suspects but I wonder are there Any Men left to even approach for maybe a “Hey…“

Too much overlap with what I avoid in a straight woman. Don’t tell them I said that!

Since many if not most of us cannot abide drama queens of whatever nationality, type, etc. is there away to create a secret garden for them?

For any who are unaware of the concept of a „secret garden“ certain forums and websites supposedly keep a special place just for spammers and bots. So the bots and spammers spend all their time talking to each other and never know that no real human sees what they do.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on January 25, 2015:

I think you should add, „He has 2000 facebook friends who are all musclebears and look just like him, and no other type of friends.“ Most likely-PLAYER!

It’s refreshing to see articles like this geared toward gay men. I have seen so many gay men hurt and even destroyed because of these type of guys. Most people (that includes MEN, GAY MEN) want to love and be loved. The issue now: finding that other man who wants to love and be share the responsibility of love. Yes, to love is to be response able.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on January 09, 2015:

Thanks for stopping by Cardisa! You made some great points here and yep, these can apply to the ladies for sure!

This list also goes for women and which men to avoid dating! You are right about the overachiever, he might be the only one worth dating on this list because of his stability. Yet, he might make you feel like a failure because he’s so competitive.

I ‚m thinking that number four might have problems with his identity and coming to terms with being gay, hence using alcohol all the time, even for intimacy.

Invaluable for a newbe! Often get confused about guys, especially when get butterflies with them. This page certainly makes sense who not to waste one’s energy on. Bless.

. not easy to be gay in such preconcived USA,first, just by coming out as gay, there you have it. alll the stereotypes of the the heterosexual world

there is one thing FOR SURE americans are good for, and its STEREOTYPES….

oh by the way. im a gay dude from central where do i fit through the stereotypical glass of the all mighty American Empire…

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on October 20, 2014:

I think you guys meant „Prima Donna“ NOT „pre-madona“ LOL

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on October 17, 2014:

I agree Maximum! Sadly, we have a lot of people who don’t understand this!

Sure, gobblegobble, no one’s perfect, but it’s not an excuse for users to use people, or for people to go on dates, but then drop their date when they get bored. One doesn’t have to have „some false sense of perfection“ to look for someone who won’t USE them! NO ONE wants that.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on October 16, 2014:

Pure trash, all this article achieves is perpetuate an unobtainable ideal no one is that perfect. Everyone has a personality specific to them, all these articles do is pander to shallow people who go out searchong for some false sense of perfection, when they shoild probably take a better look at their own personaility first.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on September 28, 2014:

Thanks a lot for this amazing write up..I can not stop laughing at how true i have been a victim of users and self loathers!

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on September 02, 2014:

Thanks, Desi! I appreciate you stopping by and thanks for sharing and for the offer!

Hi, I enjoyed reading your article and I have a blog with the name desigaylife do t c o m. I find your article very refreshing and touching the key points and taking into account the diversity in gay world. Let me know if you would like to guest write for my blog.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on August 27, 2014:

Hi Maximum – thanks for stopping by! Yep, these are universal traits for sure lol.

Oh, so true (re: Final Thoughts) – these are characteristics of straight men I don’t want to date either.

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