11 Best Gay Sex Positions (As Written By A Gay Man)
For whatever reason, heterosexual men and women seem to believe that gay men like myself hold secrets to everything wonderful and fabulous in life, including when it comes to knowing the best sex positions (and how to have truly great sex).
Before diving into the juicy stuff, I have a confession to make. Being a man of integrity and what not, I feel it’s my duty to admit that we gay men don’t really corner the market on sex positions. We are simply talented at naming and performing the positions (thankyouverymuch).
Yes, we gay men are quite proud to be known as the „Lewis and Clark“ of sexual exploration/creation of new gay sex positions.
And of course, a few of these we take no credit for, other than credit for fully enjoying these positions to their fullest.
Best Gay Sex Positions Guide
The “how to” of sex positions is imperative for any relationship. Mastering different positions not only heightens the experience, but also provides a deeper connection with your partner–both literally and figuratively. At Bespoke Surgical, we think about sex in completely different ways and by bringing science into sex, a new era of understanding will allow improvement for everyone. Regardless of which positions you explore, it’s important to understand that their differences:
• Affect the top and the bottom in different ways • Bring out both submissive or aggressive characteristics of each person • Require an understanding of both everyone’s positioning (height, penis curvature, and pelvic angle)
Little nuances and adjustments can make all the difference in terms of pleasure vs. pain, as does open and honest communication. It’s key to choose wisely which initial entry positions you start with. Go slow and allow yourself to progress from there. Steady movements with gradual changes are elemental.
The last, and most important, bit of advice I will leave you with is: communication. The best of the best communicate throughout the entire process. Why? Because success hinges on this concept.
The best gay sex positions: How do gay men have sex?
As anyone who’s ever had gay sex, thought about gay sex or watched gay sex will know there are endless combinations possible gay sex positions. But where to start? What feels best? How do you gay men have sex?
This guide to the four most accessible – and we reckon most pleasurable – gay sex positions will help get you started.
Before we get stuck into how to stick it in, we’d always condone safer sex and recommend you read our guide to PrEP, and always use condoms when having sex.
Gay Sex Positions to Try for Exciting Bedroom Fun!
From the missionary to the helicopter, you might think you’ve done it all. But there are always, always things out there left for you to try to spice up your sex life. And yes, I know it’s called “Gay Sex Positions to Try for Exciting Bedroom Fun.” But any sex position could be for everyone if you just learn how to maneuver it right. So whether you’re gay or straight, if you’re new to anal sex or you just want something new to explore. Here are some exciting gay sex positions you might wanna try:
Oh My God! That Penis Is Tooo BIG For My Bottom.
You are gay and you have a boyfriend. You are together and have feelings for each other deeply while feeling you are on your way to love. You experience just one problem though. He has a big thick dick. Giving him oral sex isn’t a problem but it’s just not going inside of you. This can cause pressure on the relationship as you both experience sexual frustration – that’s not to say you’re not having sex. Just, you’re having all of it. You’ve tried the various relaxation techniques. You’ve tried lubricant. You’ve tried different positions and it’s still not happening. Well, here’s the deal. Even though you think you’re relaxed you might not be, you might actually be quite fearful of the size of it and you might unconsciously find it intimidating to deal with. So what else can you do to make it easier?
Yes, it can certainly need a little care and practice to take a big penis inside especially if you haven’t had one for a while. One great way to practice and get back into ‘shape’ is to take incrementally sized anal toys to slowly stretch and relax your muscles again. Lube up the toy, relax a little and try again. If you’re feeling pain that’s a sign you could be causing damage. By slowly increasing the size of the toy you can take smaller steps as opposed to simply going from 1 to a hundred with nothing in between. You can in packets of three, the sex toy will have a small, medium and large size so your body can get used of the size differences during foreplay and over the long term use of the products.
There are several numbing sprays on the market and whilst I do not normally recommend them – they can sometimes be useful. I usually do not recommend them excepting in rare cases because pain is a symptom, it is a reflection of when things aren’t going well and is the bodies natural reflex to protect itself. By taking away that ‘pain’ you could be unknowingly doing damage to yourself. Numbing sprays are commonly used to help assist in this problem. It is a good idea to go the same speed of sexual intercourse as before you used the numbing spray.
With your dildo or anal tool, use loads of lube and practice taking the big penis or dildo inside in the way that is right for you. This means both in terms of technique and in terms of your opening up and relaxing physically and mentally. Lubrication will make you feel exited, it will make foreplay that much easier and if you are having a fun time time without any pain it will be penetration much more easier when you are ready.A technique that usually works is to push slightly with your anus against the dildo or penis and distract yourself either with some quality gay porn. That way, your anus will open up. Of course, you will need to know you’re clean inside when you do this. Douching can help with this, but may not be necessary. Experiment with how you sit, kneel, squat or stand as well as you might find some ways are easier than others.
Remind yourself, with the dildo, about what it is like being a bottom when having sex. Let your self go with the old feelings and get ready to enjoy them again. You might even want to do this with your partner there. He might feel a bit weird at the start of using the dildo on you, but when you’re loosened up you can start to have sex without the feeling that he’s hurting you. Basically, it’s not a question of forcing your anus to open out, more of allowing yourself the right frame of mind and using the right techniques. This will include the gay sex positions which allow you to open up most fully. Some say a deep missionary is best for this, while others prefer a doggy style position, with the ass really angled up from the lower back. So, by following these simple tips you and every gay man can now experience how great anal sex is.
PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer.Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney’s first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.
Sex Positions For Gay Men – Top 10!
Gay sex offers a wide range of possibilities and positions where pleasure is always guaranteed. This pleasure lies in the variety of fun and exciting positions two men can experience together. The key here is being open to experimentation and trying new and different sexual positions.
Are you looking for the best sex positions for gay men? If so, this article is for you! Here we have collected a list of 10 of our BEST sex positions for a men (pictures included!), allowing for optimal pleasure and intense orgasms. So boys, you ready?
Are you wondering what do gay men like in bed? Let’s start with Doggy-style lying-down, a classic and infallible anal sex position. Have you ever tried doggy style? Well this position, you could say, is a more comfortable ‘type’ of doggy-style. Follow these simple steps:
The spooning sex position is another classic good sex position for gay men. This Kamasutra inspired position is a great position to try when you’ve just woken up. The active man, will enter from behind while also masturbating his partner, guaranteeing MAXIMUM pleasure. This is a position where both the ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ can enjoy equal pleasure. In addition to the fiery-ness of this position, it is also incredibly intimate!
Why is this position so popular though? Well it’s because this sex position is sure to guarantee deep and pleasant penetration that, alternated with kisses and masturbation, can be delicious for both men involved.
The drunk boat sex position is great for deep penetration and complete anal stimulation. This position should be performed with medium or low intensity so as not to hurt your partner. Follow these simple steps:
Let’s call this position the ‘mirror of pleasure’. This is an ideal position for an intimate and sexually charged experience:
The „macho doggy-style“ is a very popular gay man sex position. This position is exactly the same as normal doggy-style, except for the fact that both men are standing. The man in the front receiving should lean at an angle for optimal pleasure.
Face to face. Although simple to do, this sex position for gay men does require endurance and strength from the man on top. Feel free to alternate with other positions to better manage energy and prolong pleasure.
Are you looking for different and fun ways to have anal sex? If so, this position is for you!
Are you looking to experience some delicious anal penetration while also being able to kiss and experience intimacy with your partner? If that’s the case, lie on your back and lift your legs over your partner’s shoulders. Once he enters you, providing you are a little flexible, he will be able to kiss you while also deepening penetration!
Even though there are many more sexual positions for gay men, the most pleasant and popular is called ‘the fusion’. Here, the bottom will take control, setting the rhythm and taking full advantage of how deep he goes. His free hands will allow him to masturbate his partner, while also caressing and having great vision of this pleasurable experience!
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Everything Straight People Don’t Realize About Gay Sex
The basic mechanics of gay male sex remain a mystery to many.
It’s not surprising, considering the lack of gay representation in entertainment and the disturbing void of sex education in schools. Ever hear of a „no promo homo“ law? It’s a heinous education law that expressly prohibits teachers from discussing LGBT issues — including sexual health, which can lead LGBT youth to feel invisible, anxious, or depressed.
I don’t know about you, but all I got from my health class in Catholic school was a small stick of Old Spice deodorant and the unsettling feeling that Jesus would know when I masturbated.
When a friend blurted out, „You can have sex facing each other?!“ after we’d finished watching a racy sex scene on HBO’s tragically short-lived series Looking, I knew it was time to take a stand. What follows are the building blocks of gay male sex, hopefully providing acceptable answers to all your questions about doggy-style, tops, bottoms, and who pays on a date.
Everything You Wanted To Know About Tops And Bottoms
Straight people tend to get a little hung up on titles and roles in queer relationships. When it comes to gay sex, many people tend to think rigidly and a little too heteronormatively for their own good: one person is the top (aka the giver or the more dominant partner during sex), and one is the bottom (the receiver or the submissive partner).
It’s sort of a more prying version of the other severely reductive and incredibly problematic question queer people hear all the time: “Who’s the man in the relationship? Who’s the woman?”
Of course, as with anything related to sex, the binary relationship between tops and bottoms is a lot more complicated than that. Sure, there are plenty of queer folks who almost exclusively bottom or top during sex, but there’s just as many who consider themselves versatile or switch (And hey, sometimes, just like with straight sex, there’s no penetration at all. Sex is fluid!)
To dig a little deeper, we asked queer men about topping and bottoming, the stereotypes associated with both and how they choose to use (or not!) the terms in their own lives.
How Do I Know if I’m a Bottom?
My first sexual experience happened in a hotel room while other guys in my church youth group slept. He touched me. I touched him. We were trembling. In that moment, “bottoming” wasn’t a concept that I understood in any appreciable way. Years later, I would learn my sexual vocabulary — words that divided my desire into roles like “top,” “versatile,” and “bottom.” With these roles came skills to develop, stereotypes to navigate, misconceptions to address, and a surprising amount of cultural shame.
Getting better at bottoming required me to see through all that, and trust my experience. In my mind, I continuously returned to that first experience. It felt right because it was right. It was the opposite of shame — it was my body doing what it needed to do.
Today, bottoming is an awesome part of my life. I’m proud of the sex I have and enjoy helping others discover what they love — no shame allowed. If you want to try bottoming, here are five pointers to get you started, with more to come in part two.
What does being a “bottom” mean to you? Well, first of all, you don’t have to “be” anything. You don’t have to make something you enjoy sexually part of your identity.
I love bottoming and want people I’m sexually interested in to know that. Calling myself a bottom has pros and cons. On one hand, I have an easier time finding tops — guys who enjoy taking the active role in sex. On the other hand, putting myself in a box is frustrating when I want to top. (In my experience, most people are versatile in the right situation, or with the right person — I am.)
These labels make finding sex partners easier. That’s all they do. They don’t define an essential part of you unless you want them to. Before hookup apps like Grindr and Scruff established these words as standard sex vocabulary, queer men used discreet street coding — colored hankies, certain types of clothing — to discreetly tell each other what kind of sex they were looking for and which role (top or bottom, dominant or submissive) they wanted to take.
These words help sex happen. They are not cages you have to live your life in.
Bottoming is usually not extremely fun on its first attempts. For many, bottoming is uncomfortable in the beginning. All sex is awkward when you don’t know what you’re doing.
But don’t give up. With practice comes pleasure. Once you get the hang of it, bottoming feels great.
Anal sex has just as much risk as vaginal sex for unwanted sexually transmitted infections like chlamydia and gonorrhea, and since HIV is more common among certain populations (transgender women of color and men who have sex with men), anal sex poses a higher risk of HIV transmission for these people.
I’m a man who has sex with men, including trans men, and I see transgender women and queer people of color as essential members of my LGBTQ+ family. I am also HIV-positive. In cultural discourse, HIV is widely associated with my community — so much so that many beginners who want to try bottoming refrain from doing so because they think it’s an extremely dangerous, high-risk activity.
That’s not true. All sex — bottoming, topping, sucking, handjobs — involves risk. Learning about those risks and taking the necessary steps to minimize them (protecting yourself and playing smartly) gives you the freedom to enjoy bottoming without fear.
I discuss these risks and how to protect yourself in part two of this guide.
Yes they can. My boyfriend leans bottom, and so do I. I love fucking him, and he loves fucking me, but sometimes (often) we both prefer to get fucked — and we do, by other guys.
The concept of non-monogamy might not be something you’re ready to think about right now, but at some point you will discover an awesome part of gay male culture: We are masters of nontraditional, non-monogamous, polyamorous, and “open” relationships.
We were trailblazers in the “free love” movement, and have a long history of enjoying long-term, successful relationships between guys who both “play for the same team.” If you connect with someone, don’t immediately assume that your perceived sexual “incompatibility” is a deal-breaker. Talk about it. Try to make it work.
You’ve probably been told bottoming makes you “the girl,” or makes you “more gay.” We live in a misogynistic, patriarchal culture in which feminized men often get shamed, and men getting fucked is seen by many as the ultimate act of feminization.
Maybe you’re still dealing with some self-acceptance issues, and the concept of being “more gay” is uncomfortable, because you don’t want to be “more gay.” You may not even want to “be gay” at all.
First things first: there is nothing wrong with being feminine. There’s also nothing wrong with being gay. Even if you don’t believe that now, give it time, and spend as much time as you can among your people — other LGBTQ+ folks. We will help you.
What you enjoy sexually says nothing about your social importance, your power, your masculinity, your femininity, your gender identity, your attractiveness, your desirability, or your “worth.” It’s just sex. Enjoy it. Do what feels good.
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Dr. Evan Goldstein is the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical. Dr. Goldstein has extensive experience educating and shedding light on health care issues relating to the gay community, and has been published in several national publications including The Advocate, OUT Magazine, Vice, Refinery 29, NY Mag and more.
The 10 Best Bedrooms Positions for Getting It On With Another Guy
If you’re single, how do you prevent awkward and boring sex from ruining chemistry with that really cute guy from Grindr?
If you’re in a longterm relationship, how do you keep the sex fun and exciting with each anniversary? Even the most seasoned casanovas need to know their fair share of sex positions to keep things interesting between the sheets, which is why we’ve put together this handy (and illustrated) guide to the best gay ones.
Before we get started, it’s important to establish some gay sex ground rules:
Now that we’ve got that covered, it’s time to learn more about the best gay sex positions.
Anal sex positions
Most of these gay sex positions are anal sex positions, but there are some non-penetrative sexual positions at the end too.
If you’re after more anal sex reading, here’s another general guide on how to have anal sex that covers douching, communication, lube and some other stuff.
Top, bottom or versatile?
We’re going to look at gay sex positions from the point of view of a top and a bottom.
If you’re versatile (and we encourage you all to be), lucky you, you can do both. In some gay sex positions the top leads the action, and in some the bottom takes the lead.
Interested in finding out why some guys are top and some are bottom? Here’s a scientific study from 2017 that talks about it.
Try the gay missionary position first
This gay sex position may sound boring, but it’s not, we promise. It’s one of the easiest positions for a top, and not especially difficult for a bottom.
During gay sex, if you’re engaging in foreplay and sucking his cock while he’s laying down, keep licking, kissing and sucking as you move your mouth down towards his balls.
Then go further, toward his perineum (the bit between his balls and his ass) and then his butthole.
Bottom: if you’re enjoying this, give him a few moans and wriggle your asshole a bit closer to where his tongue is.
If he’s keen, keep eating his ass. Open his ass cheeks and get in there deep with your tongue. If you can, and body shapes and sizes depend on this, lift his ass up a bit.
Seeing eye to eye
The gay missionary position is good for maintaining eye contact and clear communication during anal sex.
You can penetrate your partner slowly and carefully, keeping an eye on the target. You can build up a momentum that you’re both comfortable with. And it’s easy to get back in if you slip out, because you can see everything clearly.
Now try riding a guy’s cock
If you’re new to getting f**ked, or nervous about taking a big dick, this gay sex position could be good for you, because as a bottom, you’ll have the control.
It’s a good one for gaining confidence when it comes to taking cock – if it starts to hurt, you can slow down, and lower yourself onto him at your own pace.
You need a certain amount of athleticism to be able to ride your man. You want to be going up and down, and slightly back and forth, at the same time. A bit like riding a horse.
If you’re bigger built than your top, or if you’re a bigger guy in general this one can be tricky as gravity is against you. Be careful not to crush the chap under you or he’ll be at risk of losing his erection.
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This gay position is not for bottoms who are just starting in anal sex. The arch is for experienced gay couples who want to take their bedroom play to the next level.
To do the arch position, bottoms must lie on their backs, face up then lift their hips upward. Only the hips must move upward. The feet and the back of his neck must remain planted on the bed. The top will then kneel facing the bottom then enter him by thrusting his pelvis underneath the bottom’s raised hips. The arch requires great back flexibility for the bottom. That’s why it’s not recommended for beginners. If done incorrectly, the back of the bottom might get hurt or injured. That’s why be sure that before you try this, you practice your back muscles first if you’re ready. If you are, the angle of penetration that this position provides is more intense and stimulating for both tops and bottoms.
5 Bumper Cars
As fun and kiddie-like, it may sound, this gay sex position is for more advanced couples. This one is for more active and flexible couples because it requires not just physical strength or flexibility, but coordination to be able to execute this properly.
To do Bumper Cars, the top and the bottom are on all fours facing away from each other. The top is above; the bottom is below. Like the doggy style but reverse position. The bottom’s position is the same, but the top is penetrating from the other way around. This is difficult because the top can’t see or control their thrusting as much as the traditional doggy style. This is where coordination would be at work and is needed. Despite the difficulty, it comes with high rewards because this position can really be exciting and erotic. It is a new way for both partners to spice up their sex play.
6 The Diver
If you’re both confident with your upper and lower body strength, Cliff Diver might be something you wanna go for. As what its name suggests, this gay position is a chance for tops to dive inside your partner like never before. Just don’t thrust too hard or the bottom might end up with a broken nose.
To try this position, the cliff diver starts like the typical doggy style. The bottom gets on all fours, the top then enters from behind. The top will then slowly stand and in the process, lift the bottom by the thighs or waist, and the bottom will now wrap his legs around the top. The bottom will look like he’s doing a plank while the top is holding him. Once the position is complete, the thrusting will begin. This one requires lower body strength for the top and upper body strength for the bottom. Elbow pads are also highly recommended for the bottoms to prevent bruises or scratches from all the heavy thrusting of the top.
8 Knees and B’s
If you’re extremely proud of all the work you’ve been doing on your bum or you naturally just have a great bubble butt, and you’re waiting for a chance to let it shine, then this gay position is for you. If you do yoga, this is like a reverse of a child’s pose in yoga. The bottom will lay down on the floor or bed. Then, the top will grasp the bottom’s ankles, calves or knees, (whatever is comfortable), and then the top will push his legs towards the bottom’s chest. The top will then insert his penis to the bottom. The more the legs get pushed back, the tighter the backside feels. Just be careful because both of you might get hurt if you don’t do this properly.
9 The Rocking Chair
As much as this sounds like something like old people would do, it’s not. It’s even one of the most intense gay positions. Old people shouldn’t dare try it. To do this position, the top will lie back and pull his knees to the chest. The bottom will sit backward between the top’s legs and insert the top’s penis himself. Once settled comfortably into position, the bottom will be the one who will establish the motion and pick a rhythm, rocking back and forth according to his preference.
10 Ride the Camel
If you absolutely love to go deep but at the same time face the person who you are doing it with, try this position. This gay sex position allows for deep penetration while being face-to-face with your partner. To do this, the top must kneel and straddle the left leg of the bottom. The bottom must be lying on his left side. He will then bend his right leg around the right side of the waist of the top. This will give the top access to the bottom’s “port of entry,” aka, the butthole. Rear entry hurts some people (don’t forget the lube!) This position will allow the bottom to just sit comfortably while enjoying deep penetration. Make sure to do intense eye contact in this position as this makes the sex hotter.
11 The Waterfall
This gay sex position requires the top to be physically strong, as this is one kind of a workout. You would also need a bed. The top will lie on the ground and will prop their calves up on the bed. The bottom will then straddle the top’s legs and insert the penis into him. Once the position is complete, either top or bottom can start the party of passion and pleasure.
If you’ve always had the hots for Clark Kent, then now is the time to try this one of a kind gay sex position. To do Superman, the top kneels on a bed and tries to keep his body as straight as possible (even if he isn’t). The bottom will then straddle the top away from him (this requires the top and the bottom to be extremely capable of balance).
When the bottom is already facing away from the top, straddled and mounted, with top’s penis inside, the bottom will lean back, allowing the top to get his wrists and balance himself. The bottom then lifts his legs and starts to fly through the air backward as the top controls the thrusting.
14 The Man Chair
You can work this position on the edge of the bed or a chair with your feet on the floor. The bottom turns away from the top and sits between the top’s legs. He can then ride the top’s dick by pressing up with his feet. The bottom will also control the angle of entry by arching his back, so bottoms need to be careful in doing this position. This gay sex position will give the bottom the driver’s seat. Choose a rhythm that works for you. The top can then reach around and stimulate the bottom’s nipples or kiss and nibble at his shoulders.
15 Rusty Trombone
This gay position shares an equal power play for both top and bottom. It’s a simple extension of the classic 69. The rusty trombone has no top or bottom. Both are necessary for equal roles and equal pleasure. One partner lies on his back on a bed or wherever he finds himself. The other partner then straddles the chest and positions his butt close to his partner’s face. From there, you can do your rim job or whatever job you like. Do it. Just remember that showering and cleansing are important before trying this.
Gay sex positions are also for everyone!
Well, I don’t know about you, but I’m sure as hell intrigued by all the gay sex positions I explained to you guys. I hope you try at least one of them. I hope you don’t break any tables or chairs in the process. Most especially, yourselves. Practice them first slowly. If you can’t do one, then maybe you can try some other position. There are so many to choose from!
Lube is a (gay) man’s best friend
Think of that move as the opposite of a slip-and-slide. That’s a man’s ass. There’s no natural lubricant in the equation here, including saliva. Store-bought lube is absolutely essential if you want to avoid tearing and general discomfort.
Safe sex is great sex
Years after the AIDS epidemic, there’s still a pervasive misconception that gay sex is dirty and undoubtedly leads to STDs, which simply isn’t true. Today, we even have PrEP: a pill that, taken daily, helps prevent HIV infection. Oh, and it ought to go without saying, but if you’re HIV-positive, this doesn’t make you dirty or unbeautiful. You can still have sex: with condoms, and with responsible sexual behavior that’s less risky (e.g., oral sex or the HIV-positive person acting as the receiver).
No, there isn’t a guy and a girl
„So, who’s the guy and who’s the girl?“ Smh. This is no place for heteronormativity, people. A gay man is still a man regardless of whether he prefers to top or bottom. Restrictive gender roles have no place in any relationship, and certainly not a gay one. If both men identify as men, then they’re men.
5. Back It In
Finally, it’s time for the bottom to do some work. This gay sex position requires the top to sit in a chair, bringing his knees up to his chest, allowing his penis to be outward and forward.
The bottom backs into the position, allowing the penis to enter him.
Once the penis is inserted, it’s time for the bottom to make it work by creating all the thrust and momentum.
6. Knee Up, Knee Up, Keep It Up
If you’ve never had your booty exposed, just know this gay sex position is about maximum exposure.
Think of it as a reverse child’s pose in yoga. The bottom lays down on a couch (bed, floor, table, hood of a car, etc.) while the top grasps the bottom’s ankles, calves or knees (whatever is comfortable for the bottom) and simultaneously pushes the legs back toward the bottom’s chest as the top inserts his penis. The more the legs get pushed back, the tighter the backside feels.
7. Rock, Rock, Rockin‘ In The Rocking Chair
Thank goodness I never caught grams and gramps in this position, or I would have sworn off of sex altogether. Besides, this gay sex position isn’t for the frail or faint at heart.
Here’s how to do it: the top lays back pulling knees to chest. The bottom sits backward between the top’s legs, inserting top’s penis into himself.
Once comfortable and fully astride, the bottom begins a rhythmic motion of rocking back and forth to his liking.
This gay sex position requires the giving partner to be in shape (eh, a little ab definition wouldn’t hurt either), as they’ll be getting a heck of a workout. Also, a chair is required.
The top lies on the ground and props their calves up on a chair while keeping his body straight. The bottom straddles the top’s legs and inserts penis into his partner. At that point, either party can begin the rhythmic motion of their choosing.
11. I Can Fly
For this gay sex position, the top sits in a chair trying to keep his body as elongated as possible. The bottom straddles the top facing toward him or away from him (both require the bottom to be capable of extreme feats of balance).
If the bottom is facing the top, straddled and mounted, with top’s penis inside, the bottom leans back, allowing the top to grasp his wrists to facilitate balance. The bottom then lifts up his legs, and starts to fly through the air backward as the top controls the thrusting.
To fly like a superhero in this position, the bottom straddles the top, mounting and inserting top’s penis into himself. Once mounted, the bottom leans forward, thrusting his arms backward to the top so that top can grasp the bottom’s wrists. Once engaged, bottom lifts legs, flying forward with the greatest of ease, letting the top control the rhythm.
I’m not sure about you, but at this point I’m exhausted.
The thought of doing all of these may end up costing me $500 in chiropractor visits, plus an additional $1,000 in massages.
Nonetheless, enjoy and don’t break too many coffee tables, limbs, or wear out your libido by attempting all these gay sex positions in one evening!
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A classic position for straight couples, missionary is pretty common for gay partners as well. In this position, the bottom lies on his back with his legs spread apart in the air while the active partner lies on top so the couple is face-to-face. Penetration from this angle allows for intimate eye contact and kissing, and the bottom can wrap his legs around the top to anchor thrusting. While not necessarily the kinkiest position, missionary is great for more inexperienced or vanilla couples. If you slip a pillow under the small of the bottom’s back for extra support, they can lay comfortably without having to strain to keep their legs in the air.
Another classic gay sex position is doggy style. While potentially less intimate than missionary, doggy style allows you and your partner to explore each other in a new way. Doggy style really puts the top in control, so it’s the perfect position for more dominant tops and submissive bottoms. In doggy style, the bottom gets on all fours while the top kneels behind him. Holding on to the bottom’s hips for support, the top enters the bottom from behind. Penetration from this angle can feel harder and deeper for bottoms, and doggy style can be better for prostate stimulation for some men. Doggy style is good for couples of all experience levels, but it can require extra stamina from tops.
For couples with more dominate bottoms and tops who like to take it easy, cowboy is the ideal gay sex position. In the cowboy position, the top sits or lies back while the bottom straddles him across his pelvis facing forward, either in a kneel or squatting position. The cowboy position gives the bottom control over penetration, which can help to achieve prostate stimulation. The top can also thrust into the bottom from this position, shifting the dynamic between dominate and submissive partner. Cowboy is a good position for couples of all experience levels, but bottoms should be prepared for a workout.
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If the traditional horizontal positions have lost their excitement, try a standing position. Standing positions allow both partners an increased range of motion compared to horizontal positions—you can move together, or one can remain still while the other establishes and varies the rhythm. The most classic standing position, sometimes known as “the bodyguard,” is when the bottom faces away from the top and the top enters from behind. For anchorage, the bottom should hold onto a nearby wall, table, or other surface. Because the bodyguard position is more accommodating in small spaces or in the outdoors, they’re great for more adventurous couples who want to take sex out of the bedroom.
The flashy name may make this position sound more complicated than it is, but the pirate’s bounty is a must-have in any gay sex wheelhouse. In this position, the bottom lies down his back, shifting his pelvis so that one leg is down and the other is up in the air. The active partner kneels, facing the bottom, and puts the bottom’s elevate leg on his shoulder as he enters him. This angle allows for a deep penetration. If the bottom is flexible, the top can push the elevated leg towards the bottom’s head for an even deeper and more intimate experience.
Spooning is one of the most intimate gay sex positions. Both partners lay on their sides, the top on the outside as the “big spoon.” The top enters the bottom from behind, with the bottom’s top leg elevated to allow for entry. For an extra deep penetration, the top can hook his elbow under the bottom’s elevated knee for easier access. This position involves a lot of close body contact, making it a great option for couples looking for an intimate and sensual sexual encounter.
For the more adventurous and active gay couples out there, suspended congress is an exciting and erotic challenge. This position is designed to get you out of bed and work on your cardio too. In this position, the top stands and picks up the bottom, who wraps his arms around the top’s neck for support. The top then enters the bottom from this position, holding the bottom’s thighs in his arms to support the bottom’s hips against his pelvis. For extra support while thrusting, put the bottom’s back against a wall or other solid structure. For more fit couple, try a free-standing suspended congress for a real full-body workout.
While not necessarily the ideal position for less experienced bottoms, the arch position is great for gay couples looking to explore sex from a new perspective. To get into the arch position, bottoms lay face up and lifts his hips upward, while keeping his feet and the back of his neck planted on the floor. The top kneels facing the bottom, entering him by placing his pelvis underneath the bottom’s raised hips. This position requires some serious back flexibility in terms of the bottom’s role, which is why it’s not recommended for the inexperienced, but this angle of penetration can be intensely stimulating and pleasurable for both tops and bottoms.
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Not to knock your enthusiasm but I think porn studios are not trying to be original or creative because those things don’t turn on the viewer. I believe they have done the research and know what it is that people want to see and they are providing that. So, really, I think your beef is not with the porn industry as much as it is with porn watchers for not wanting to think (or watch) outside the box, So to speak. Haha
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Let’s start with some quick and dirty definitions for tops and bottoms. (And switches and sides, too.)
Though everyone is different, tops (or dominants) prefer penetrating and/or being in control in bed. A bottom (or submissive) is usually the receptive partner during penetrative sex or the individual who cedes control.
“The bottom’s duties is to explain how he likes to be penetrated and how much control he wants or doesn’t want,” said Joe Kort, a sex and relationship therapist who works with LGBTQ+ clients. “And the bottom also makes sure he’s prepped and ‘cleaned out’ before sex ― my pet peeve about LGBTQ now being shown in non-porn movies is that they make anal sex look seamless and it’s not!”
Prepping for anal sex might include douching, meaning using water and an enema or syringe to flush out the rectal cavity before you get down to business. (That said, you don’t need to douche to have an enjoyable experience with anal sex, and some doctors even advise against it.)
And then there are power bottoms: A power bottom bucks “top-bottom” tradition by controlling the thrusting and rhythm below or in front of their partner. Think of it like topping from the bottom.
If you’re into both bottoming and topping, you would probably be considered versatile or switch. If you’re not into penetration at all, you might identify as a “side,” which is someone who doesn’t enjoy anal sex but is down for other things (oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation).
Men who have sex with men who don’t regularly engage with penetration are actually quite common. In a study of men who have sex with men published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2011, more than 60% of respondents had not engaged in anal intercourse during their last sexual event.
While this wide breadth of terminology can make finding partners easier on dating and hookup apps for some people, the hyper-focus on labeling or types is a problem for many in the queer community.
“I always cringe at the labels of tops or bottoms,” said Davey . “As gay people, we’re already working with a pretty small dating pool. To further restrict the pool to only tops or only bottoms isn’t doing yourself any favors. Labeling our identity on the basis of a sexual position feels limiting.”
Queer women identify as tops and bottoms, too.
While top-bottom terminology is mostly associated with gay men, queer women employ the terms, too. (Though a survey by queer site Autostraddle found that most queer women identify as switches rather than tops or bottoms.)
What does it mean to top as a queer woman? It could involve fingering, performing oral sex, or using a strap-on for penetration, among many other fun sexy time things.
Bottom shaming is an issue in the queer community.
We live in a patriarchal society that prizes masculinity, so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that bottoms get shamed for doing something associated with what women are expected to do during sex. Topping is seen as preferable by some men who have sex with men because it doesn’t threaten their masculinity.
“The problem is that tops are almost always seen as more manly, virile and aggressive, whereas bottoms are usually linked to effeminacy because we think they have a subservient position,” Madison Moore, a cultural critic and queer studies professor wrote on Thought Catalog in 2014.
“This attitude is wholly cultural and deeply rooted in how we think about gender,” Moore wrote. “Like, men are supposed to be men. Like, men don’t take dicks up the ass.”
The issue speaks to a larger problem of discrimination of men demonstrating more femme traits in gay culture.
No, you can’t tell if someone is a top or bottom based on their personality or physical build.
Don’t fall into the trap of assuming someone’s preferred sexual position based on how they present.
There are plenty of men who like to bottom. (And plenty of guys who are assertive at work or in public life who relish the opportunity to cede some of that control in the bedroom and play the submissive.) There are also femme gay men who love topping.
“It’s absolute nonsense, not to mention degrading, to be put into a box based on your expression or physique,” said Bradley BirkholzYouTube creator and gay rights activist.
“Anytime somebody assumes you want something done to you in bed, there’s danger associated with it, regardless of your sexuality or gender,” he said. “I think we have a culture that tells people that the way we talk, act, and dress means we want certain things done to us in bed ― which simply isn’t true.”
As with any sexual encounter, communication is key. You have to ask and find out what your partner is into, not just assume.
“You can be gay and not like anal sex at all, and that’s absolutely fine; and you can use the labels of top or bottom, and that’s fine, too,” Birkholz said. “There’s nothing wrong with those labels — just don’t apply them to other people because you assume they identify with it.”
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