These days San Francisco has gay pride coming out the proverbial wazoo, but in the distant (and not-so-distant) past, the majority of gay individuals and couples had to stay painfully deep in the closet. While looking at a decades-old image that captures a free, joyous moment between a gay couple just being themselves shouldn’t be such a rarity, man, it really does bring on the smiles. Artist and filmmaker Sébastien Lifshitz put together a unique collection of photographs depicting playful gay couples, as well as cross-dressers and expressions of gender fluidity from between 1900 to 1960 that he hunted down from flea markets and garage sales. Here is a selection of some of the photos from his book, The Invisibles: Vintage Portraits of Love and Pride, published by Rizzoli (available here).
© THE INVISIBLES: VINTAGE PORTRAITS OF LOVE AND PRIDE by Sébastien Lifshitz, Rizzoli New York, 2014.
Extraordinary Photos of a Gay Motorcycle Club in the 1960s
It was a sunny weekend in 1967 when photographer Sylvan Rand hopped on the back of his friend’s motorcycle and headed for a sequestered farm in the New Jersey countryside. As the hours passed in a haze of food, cigarettes, love, and bikes, he joined in the festivities of an unofficial motorcycle run, where gay men gathered to enjoy each other’s company in an insulated, utopian setting.
The group was composed of ordinary men, men who worked hard throughout the week and made their sanctuary away from the hustle and bustle of metropolitan life. The pervasive image of the motorcycle enthusiast of the era was defined in large part by the Hells Angels Motorcycle Club, but the photographer stresses that these were not in fact the “tough guy” bikers of popular culture; the beauty lay in part in the fact that they were just regular people relishing their days off.
Rand was not himself a part of the group but an outsider, allowed into the inner circle for a few days. He came in knowing hardly anyone, but in those final weekend hours, the men had become accustomed to him. He will always remember peering through the lens at three men luxuriating on the lawn. The sun was setting, and as he pressed the shutter, he understood that he had captured an indelible moment.
Looking back on the negatives he made in the 1960s, now digitized, Rand feels only gratitude for the motorcycle run. He may not have been a member of the group itself, but something about the intimacy and togetherness of it all strikes a chord within his now-faded memories.
He felt a similar camaraderie with all the photographers of that generation—with Edward Steichen and with W. Eugene Smith. He dreamt of working professionally, and although his life ultimately led him elsewhere, that dream remains alive in these pictures, preserved for decades until at last they could be released.
The best gay sex positions: How do gay men have sex?
As anyone who’s ever had gay sex, thought about gay sex or watched gay sex will know there are endless combinations possible gay sex positions. But where to start? What feels best? How do you gay men have sex?
This guide to the four most accessible – and we reckon most pleasurable – gay sex positions will help get you started.
Before we get stuck into how to stick it in, we’d always condone safer sex and recommend you read our guide to PrEP, and always use condoms when having sex.
How to Pick Up Gay Men
This article was co-authored by Imad Jbara. Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. ‚NYC Wingwoman‘ offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. There are 22 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 1,266,989 times.
Meeting gay guys is hard. First you have to determine if the guy you’re interested in is gay or straight. Then you have to approach him and strike up a conversation. And that’s assuming you have the confidence to walk up to an attractive stranger. Take some time to build up your confidence, and before you know it walking up to that cute guy at the bar won’t be a problem.
The hidden lives of gay men in the Middle East – in pictures
Photographer Hoda Afshar was born in Tehran and is now based in Melbourne, Australia. Her latest series, Behold, was photographed in Iran in a town which mostly leaves gay men to be, on the condition they conduct this part of their lives in secret. A group of men invited her inside a traditional bathhouse to document part of their world. Behold was first exhibited at Centre for Contemporary Photography, Melbourne, and is now at Horsham Regional Gallery until 14 May
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39 Sex Toys Every Gay Man Should Try
I’ll be honest guys, I did not enjoy sex toys when I first came on the scene. I was a freshman in college, brand new to sex, and all my friends, left and right, were exploring their anal pleasures with dildos. “It helps you get used to the feeling,” one guy told me in his dorm room. “I go at my own speed so that when the real thing comes, I’m ready.”
Our hopes were soon met. I started college a few months after Grindr hit the app store. We all quickly discovered sex via the glowing orange icons on our phones. This was my initial understanding of toys: They were ass-trainers, a second-hand way of experiencing the “real thing,” and no matter how nice they were, they were inferior to flesh and blood. I believed “sex toys” for gay men stopped at dildos and prostate stimulators, and I did not consider them legitimate sex play all on their own.
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In the years since, I have learned that there are many gay sex toys out there beyond anal toys, although these are certainly the majority, and anal toys toys are more than substitutions for penises. Some toys, like the Ass Hammer (see #28), deliver mind-blowing sensations that a penis simply cannot replicate. Nothing will ever replace traditional sex — sex toys simply expand the experiential buffet of sexual pleasure to its true, limitless margin.
As you begin your toy sexploration, you will find that, although there are endless naughty novelty stores in the world, good toys are surprisingly hard to find. You could scour the Internet or make expensive pilgrimages to your nearest big city to visit a sexual retailer catered exclusively to gay men — nearly every big city has one — or you could start with this list of 39 sex toys you have to try, some of which are for beginners and others for seasoned adventurists. Welcome to Toyland, and enjoy the ride.
9. Thug Double Fucker
Blessed be the three men that first discovered double penetration — DP is one of the greatest gifts that gay men have been given. But if you’re trying to have a two-person, monogamous relationship, or if you are not quite ready to be double-fucked by two guys, try this toy. It would probably fall into the sex toy category of “cock extenders,” although it does not extend or expand the top’s penis. Rather, it attaches a dildo to his dick and gives you the opportunity to “take two” without a third man present. Oxballs makes some of the world’s best anal toys, great for all us pigs into extreme ass play.
39. Sex Music
This may be a surprising cap to this list — no one ever talks about tunes as a sexual enhancer. Background music not only sets the mood, but it is also one of the cheapest sexual accoutrements you will buy, and certainly one of the most effective.
Mr. S Leather sells album mixes from one of the North American leather world’s favorite DJs, M. Arana, who has been a repeat guest at the Folsom Street Fair and DJed the San Francisco Leather Ball, the Mr. Fire Island Leather Contest, the Mr. East Coast Rubber Contest in New York, and other sexually-charged events. His mixes sound like darkrooms and play areas and immediately make you feel nasty. And much to my surprise, his albums are available on iTunes alongside other sex music-makers like Tony Barre and the old-school Butt Boy (known for tracks like “Phallidance” and “The Sling”).
If you’re looking for something that sounds less like a dungeon and more like a dance club, try the young LA-based EDM artist TR/ST — his sexed-up, mopey tracks like “Are We Arc?” on his recent album Joyland are great for a relaxed fisting session.
Hungry for more? Don’t miss „36 Fetishes Every Gay Man Should Know“ and „30 Kinky Terms Every Gay Man Needs to Know.“
Anal sex positions
Most of these gay sex positions are anal sex positions, but there are some non-penetrative sexual positions at the end too.
If you’re after more anal sex reading, here’s another general guide on how to have anal sex that covers douching, communication, lube and some other stuff.
Top, bottom or versatile?
We’re going to look at gay sex positions from the point of view of a top and a bottom.
If you’re versatile (and we encourage you all to be), lucky you, you can do both. In some gay sex positions the top leads the action, and in some the bottom takes the lead.
Interested in finding out why some guys are top and some are bottom? Here’s a scientific study from 2017 that talks about it.
Try the gay missionary position first
This gay sex position may sound boring, but it’s not, we promise. It’s one of the easiest positions for a top, and not especially difficult for a bottom.
During gay sex, if you’re engaging in foreplay and sucking his cock while he’s laying down, keep licking, kissing and sucking as you move your mouth down towards his balls.
Then go further, toward his perineum (the bit between his balls and his ass) and then his butthole.
Bottom: if you’re enjoying this, give him a few moans and wriggle your asshole a bit closer to where his tongue is.
If he’s keen, keep eating his ass. Open his ass cheeks and get in there deep with your tongue. If you can, and body shapes and sizes depend on this, lift his ass up a bit.
Seeing eye to eye
The gay missionary position is good for maintaining eye contact and clear communication during anal sex.
You can penetrate your partner slowly and carefully, keeping an eye on the target. You can build up a momentum that you’re both comfortable with. And it’s easy to get back in if you slip out, because you can see everything clearly.
Now try riding a guy’s cock
If you’re new to getting f**ked, or nervous about taking a big dick, this gay sex position could be good for you, because as a bottom, you’ll have the control.
It’s a good one for gaining confidence when it comes to taking cock – if it starts to hurt, you can slow down, and lower yourself onto him at your own pace.
You need a certain amount of athleticism to be able to ride your man. You want to be going up and down, and slightly back and forth, at the same time. A bit like riding a horse.
If you’re bigger built than your top, or if you’re a bigger guy in general this one can be tricky as gravity is against you. Be careful not to crush the chap under you or he’ll be at risk of losing his erection.
About This Article
Picking up a gay man can be intimidating, but if you play it cool, act confident, and be yourself, you’ve definitely got this! Approach guys who interest you with a simple “Hello” or a smile to get a conversation started. After you’ve introduced yourself to a guy, make small talk to get to know him a bit. When you’ve met someone you like, be honest and tell him that you’re into him. If you’re unsure whether he likes you, see if he makes eye contact, which is a sign he’s into you. Once you feel confident he likes you, be direct and ask whether he wants to do something together, like dancing in a club or meeting for coffee. Don’t forget to ask for his phone number so you can stay in touch. For tips on how to follow up with a guy after you’ve got his number, read on!Did this summary help you?YesNo
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Negative, I love women’s asses just as much as you ?
gok attack? what the fuck is that? and you are calling us homos? queer!
Thank you even more Chive if we can get a name or more from #5!
I love a great ass, and this post is FULL of them ?
Women are so lovely to look at. I’d love to wake up to #6
#22 This women would beat the fuck out of just about every one of you nerd herders
And you consider that a „bad thing“?She can spank me and call me a „bad boy“ anyday
Fucking SHOPPED… I mean stop with editing!!! #16 and #3 i’m calling BULLSHIT!!!
Still no Kari Sweets…the hottest ass (and face) evar! Just look up ‚Taste the Rainbow’I love Wednesday’s ass post…how about a ‚Front Butt‘ day?
Just Googled Kari Sweets & was not impressed. Not mush on an ass to be showing off. OK face but not a 10 by any means!
chive i’ll have your babies if you find #3….shopped or not!
That’s just Tiffany Teen, internet mistress from yesteryear. But you can have your own babies.[youtube UGIB4noKMGs youtube]
#14 is glorious! And to think some lucky bastard out in the world has had that.
Just remember, for every great looking woman out there, there is at least one guy who is ’sick of her shit’…as the saying goes.(doesn’t mean I wouldn’t tap that…)
SO TRUE! you can be a bitch or dumb as long as you’re hot enough, but NO ONE is hot enough to be dumb or a bitch forever and still keep a guy.
(and the smart ones are bitches, while the dumb ones are worthless)
She’s an escort in Scotland. A LOT of lucky (or wealthy) bastards have had that.
I know who this is, and have had it myself. She’s an escort.
I know right!? The Chive actually posted a girl who has an ass instead of the usual pancake ass they post.
You mean greatest ass you have never seen.. that photo is shopped to hell.
Chive – Thank you for making ‚Hump Day‘ a recurring post!!
Overly big boobs, now overly big butts. At least your tastes are consistent.
your gayness might infect others…keep up the good work, Chive!
So you’d like flat chested women with no ass?…. hand in your man card
of course they need to have a plum ass that way we don’t bruise our hips while watching the game
„Biggest“ is not always „sexiest.“ Miranda Kerr’s ass is quite tiny but it is also one of the sexiest body parts currently residing on this planet. Hell for that matter Jessica Alba doesn’t have a great big ass but nobody denies her attractiveness.
#14 is SWEET! #16 looks shopped too. I mean is she really THAT thin? #17-26 are smokin‘! Yeah, gonna be at my desk for a while too.
Every time I look at the humpday posts, I can’t get Sir-Mix-A-Lot out of my head!