The 22 Best Sex Toys for Gay, Bi, and Queer Men

Toys for top daddies, vers queens, and power bottoms.

Sex toys don’t discriminate; they’re made for anyone and everyone who wants them. That’s why no type of sex toybutt plug is inherently “gay.“

Nevertheless, gay culture—including gay sex culture—is indeed a thing. That’s why there are certain sex toys that appeal more to gay, bi, and queer men than straight guys. For example, a queer man might be more likely to buy a Fleshlight shaped like a male porn star’s butt than of a female porn star’s vulva. He may be more likely to buy an XXL butt plug to help stretch things out down there, or a double-edged dildo in case the guy he brings home happens to be a bottom, too. There are even brands out there making awesome sex toys with gay men specifically in mind. These companies include OxBalls and Mr. S Leather—you’ll notice I included many of their products on this list.

So, without further ado, here are 22 sex toys for gay, bi, and queer men. You’ll notice I start with more basic sex toys and gradually progress to more advanced and niche items, like anal hooks (for all the BDSM fans out there). Regardless of whether you identify as straight, bisexual, fluid, gay, queer, or something else on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, these sex toys can be extremely pleasurable if you have a penis, butthole, and/or prostate. Use them with a partner or during your next solo session!

A staple in every queer man’s bedroom is a stainless steel cock ring. Pro tip: Don’t get cocky (pun intended) with sizing. Odds are you’re a small or medium, not a large, buddy boy. 

The „Butt Tingler“ from Lovehoney is about as standard as a vibrating butt plug can be. It’s made from silicone and is 3.5 inches in length making it ideal for beginners. 

Start small and work your way up to medium and large with this 100% silicone butt plug training kit. It consists of three smooth silicone butt plugs in different sizes. Each has a flexible shaft that has small ridges to stimulate where you are most sensitive.

I just linked to Christopher Milan’s Fleshlight because I think he’s fine AF, but if you peruse the Fleshlight site, there are plenty of  other male models and porn stars to choose from, including Diego Sans, Allen King, and more. 

I love this toy. (You can read my full review of it here!) You control the speed and intensity of the vibrations by tilting the remote control. It also stimulates your perineum (a.k.a. your taint or grundle) along with your prostate. 

These are cheap and easy cuffs for when you only have 30 minutes to restrain and plow that guy from Scruff. 

These are the big boy version. The Daddy version. Cuffs made from real leather if you got coins to spare. 

b-Vibe’s amazing butt plugs simulate the feeling of getting a rim job (a.k.a. analingus). It’s like, who even needs a boyfriend anymore?  

This toy stimulates your rectum, prostate, and perineum. It really gets up in there. With the Duke, you might have orgasms so intense, you’ll hear „Rain on Me“ and see rainbows instead of stars.

I love me a glass dildo. (Don’t worry, there’s no way for it to shatter while in use.) Pro tip: Put it in the freezer to make it cold—you’ll experience brand-new sensations!

You want to feel full? Like really full? Then I’d recommend this inflatable butt plug. (Read my full review of it here

Have your partner slowly pull these bad boys out of you while you climax. (Head here to learn more about anal beads!)

If you’re into pup play, then you need to have a puppy tail. (It’s a butt plug that has a tail sticking it out of it.) And tie dye is apparently back in style!

If you like when your partner pinches and bites your nipples, I’d recommend these industrial-grade nipple clamps.

Oxballs are your go-to for more advanced cock rings. In addition to squeezing your shaft, this cocksling stretches your testicles down and away from you.

Some guys love having their testes pulled and separated. If you’re into that kinda thing, then look no further than this toy from Oxballs.

SPANK ME DADDY. (But actually, if you do use a flogger, please learn what you’re doing. You can hurt someone if you whip wrong. Here’s an article on how to flog properly.) 

If you’re into being a good little sub whose sole purpose is to satisfy Daddy, you can put on this chastity cage.  

If submission is your thing, you can also have a ball gag in your mouth. I like these options from Mr. S Leather, but you can also head here for more great ball gag options. 

First off, love the name of this toy. This double-edged dildo is great when you two get home and realize that you were both lying when you said you were vers. Instead of bumping purses, stick the Buddy Expander Double Header into your booties and then bump uglies. 

Anal hooks are great for couples who love playing with power dynamics. One end goes around your neck. The other know where. An anal hook forces the bottom to stay in a certain position—if you try to move, you will be in pain.

The 22 Best Sex Toys for Men—Whether You’re With a Partner or Riding Solo

If the last year has taught us anything, it’s that life can easily become redundant, and moments of pleasure are few and far between. So it’s understandable why many have taken this time to build out (or start from scratch) their collection of sex toys. And we mean many. In the first months of the pandemic, sex toy sales grew as much as 200 percent across various brands, proving just how hornt up America got in isolation—and amplifying how sex toy enthusiasm has spread in recent years. As isolation continues, the search for pleasure does too.

In the realm of male sex toys, the latest innovations and designs are intriguing. Textured masturbation sleeves. Prostate massagers with multiple levels of intensity. Anal beads for you, anal beads for your partner. Even a full-on masturbation chamber that looks like it could compete in a Formula One race from the luxury sex gods at Lelo. Once you start taking advantage of them, you’ll wonder why you ever didn’t.

First, a few things to keep in mind. Many of the following sex toys can be used solo or with a partner of any gender. Creativity is an asset, but always refer to instructions when you need guidance. Talk openly and confirm consent if you’re incorporating anything into partnered sex. If you’re a beginner, go slow—use the lowest setting, the smallest size, the least vibrations, etc. Keep your toys charged. And pay no mind to the cringe-y names for some of these products; they do what they gotta do. Now, these are the 20 best male sex toys, accessories, and devices that can help turn your sex life on its head, no matter how many or how few are participating in it with you. Keep in mind that most sex toy retailers utilize covert shipping procedures, so a box won’t land on your front porch whose labeling screams that you just ordered cock rings. Try one, or a bunch, out this year.

Play mix-and-match with this set of four different silicone rings. They don’t vibrate, but sometimes sensation isn’t derived from fancy bells and whistles. 

The inside of this silicone penis sleeve is textured, and a mini vibrating bullet slips into the head to send sensation through, well, the head, whether you’re masturbating or fore-playing.

Step into the bead realm with this wand: a string of beads that sends vibrations up from the base in seven different variations. Start with inserting just one or two of the beads, and then work your way up from there.

A cock ring and then some, this silicone cock-and-ball toy slips over both to escalate intensity and pleasure, sans a battery pack or charge. 

This device is for the orally inclined. Designed to feel like an actual mouth, you can use it on yourself. It’s also great for couples where one of you loves receiving, but the other is not particularly keen on giving.

Slip this over a penis, and it’ll slow down but intensify the experience, as well as spread the good vibes to your partner’s clitoris.

If you (or you and your partner) are interested in motorized prostate and perineum stimulation, Phanxy makes a simple, affordable massager with nine speeds.  

To fully prep for a sexual encounter, try an automated pump that uses suction to bring more blood to the penis. 

Sometimes, good things come in small packages. The Tenga masturbation egg has an elastic inside that fits over any size and comes pre-lubricated. This pack includes various textures for an added level of pleasure, from a silky lining to a wavy one. 

This 10-speed penis ring is designed to vibrate, stimulating the penis and testicles while simultaneously stimulating your partner’s clitoris or perineum. With the remote control, you can do it to yourself, or leave the chosen intensity of teasing up to a partner for a bit of submissive stimulation.

Should you be shopping around for a dildo, this one is a winner—available in two sizes and five colors, and with a suction base. To add to the appeal, New York Toy Collective’s products are artisanal and handmade, and the brand itself is dedicated to sex positivity.

The vibrating stroker is only half the story here. This toy is also equipped to stimulate the testicles, so there’s very little left for you to do on your own.

If you and your partner aren’t 100 percent sure what you’re into—or you do know, and what you’re into is variety—then this kit of sex toy basics covers plenty of bases (eight, to be exact). Experiment happily.

Fleshlight is probably the most infamous of any male sex toy brand. At this point, you can even custom design a Fleshlight to a very specific liking. But this non-anatomical, ice-blue Fleshlight, which tightens and loosens to your preference, more than gets the job done.

Vibrations can be too much sometimes—too intimidating or too fast. Aneros makes a rubber prostate massager that doesn’t require a battery to feel good, thanks to the angling of the head. 

The Loki has a stylish design and a clear purpose: to massage the prostate (but not the perineum). Its size is substantial without being overlarge, so consider it a worthy addition to your regular routine with your partner.

This sleeve pulses and oscillates to upgrade male masturbation without you having to put in a whole lot of manual labor. In fact, it’s been dubbed the „world’s first guybrator.“ 

There isn’t a sensitive spot this vibrating massager doesn’t hit—prostate, deeper than the prostate, and perineum. Consider it your highly efficient, highly nuanced, one-stop shop for anal pleasure.

The Manta looks menacing, but rest assured, it’s not. This is a penis toy meant to make masturbation—or stimulation controlled by your partner—feel intensely pleasurable, with battery-powered vibrations and a ribbed design in the loops.

Lelo has one of the most high-tech masturbation machines on a market. The F1 sends sonic waves through your penis for an elevated experience, with multiple settings accessed through an app to cater to your whims. Consider treating yourself.

If you’re interested in trying a butt plug, B Vibe’s version is on the smaller size—a.k.a good for beginners—with a vibrating tip and remote control. 

On a final note: When it comes to toys, try a lubricant that’s water based, like Yes’s organic option. Silicon-based lubes break down silicon toys (and condoms!), literally disintegrating them. That isn’t great for your toys, or whatever else that residue might be rubbing off in/on/etc. Keep this in mind for condoms, too, which come in an array of natural and organic options.

The 22 Best Sex Toys for Men—Whether You're With a Partner or Riding Solo

Intense Automatic Orgasms: The 17 Best Hands Free Sex Toys For Men

Hands-free male orgasms sound like a thing of fantasy… a dream conjured up by a horny dude with too much time on his hands. Men are genetically programmed to want to be orgasming all night and day, so it’s no surprise that humanity has been hard at work developing multiple sex toys for men, such as hands free masturbators, prostate massagers, and automatic sex toys for , achieving the male hands free orgasm without the need for a sexual partner is now within our grasp! And in case you were wondering – yes, there are many hands free sex toys for women, so there’s no need for the ladies to feel left out!However, that doesn’t necessarily mean that it will be easy. While the technology and hands free sex toys have come a long way in recent years, you still need to concentrate and put some effort in if you want to achieve the male hands free orgasm. Here in this list, we have compiled some of the best hands free male sex toys on the market, whether they’re stimulating your prostate, penis, perineum, or any other P-related body parts. So whether you’re straight, gay, or somewhere in between, check out this list of hands-free male sex toys!

Intense Automatic Orgasms: The 17 Best Hands Free Sex Toys For Men

Best sex toys 2021: stay happy, healthy and satisfied

Dive into the wonderful world of the best sex toys, with T3’s guide to the different types of toy, who they’re for, and our top picks

What turns you on? That is the best sex toy. The best sex toy is the one that works with your particular tastes, the one that really gets you going, the one most compatible with your parts or your partner, the one that works in combination with other sex toys (or sex itself) to make the experience completely unforgettable. Because there is little in life that’s more personal than the stuff you like to take in the bedroom with you. 

The sex toy market has exploded in recent years, basically in tandem with the stigma around toys falling away. You can shop for them in some pretty mainstream stores, and there are plenty of sources online which can ship you a wild variety of great sex toys quickly and easily. And let’s not discount the power of a pandemic to trap us at home with our thoughts, desires, and our favourite toys.

If you’re just getting started, you’ll probably find the sex toy market a little intimidating: there’s such a large variety of sex toys for women, toys for men, and toys for couples (or more) that even working out the kind of thing you want to try is tough, let alone finding the top choice in that department. So let’s walk you through the broad categories of products that are out there for you to enjoy, and pick out some of our favourite sex toys along the way.

Best sex toys 2021: stay happy, healthy and satisfied

Best Sex Toys for Men

Sex toys for men are not new but thanks to technology finding the best are just a few clicks away. Long gone are the days that sex toys are only for women. Here at The Enhanced Male, we feel that men have been ignored for too long. We deserve to have products geared directly towards our needs as well. Shopping for top male sex toys can be quite overwhelming and with so many options of different products, figuring out where to start is often the toughest part. The most basic adult sex toy that men buy is typically a male masturbator. Men have been using their hands to masturbate for years, adding a sleeve or masturbator brings a whole new level of fun and realism. If regular sleeves are just not doing it, tons of guys are turning to vibrating pocket pussies to spice things up. The most popular male masturbator on earth is the Fleshlight, an ultra-realistic and discreet sex toy. 

Anal sex toys are a great way to explore the pleasure that comes from stimulating the prostate. Depending on what you are looking for, there are plugs, prostate massagers, and other types of anal sex toys. Prostate massagers are popular due to the p-spot (prostate) that is often compared to the g-spot in women. Stimulating that area produces mind-bending orgasms! Explosive to say the least! Back door play is not just for gay men, more and more straight men are finding anal to be quite fun and filled with pleasure.

As you delve further into your anal exploration you might decide to try and start taking your body to its limits by using a huge butt plug or other huge anal toys. There is a subset of sex toy users who get a great deal of pleasure from pushing their bodies further by inserting larger and larger toys in.

erection enhancing rings are another very popular choice of adult toys for men. These cock rings come in a variety of materials and can vibrate as well for stimulation to both partners. Many rings designed for couples play have powerful vibrating functions that act as couples massagers and vibrators. Other types of rings focus on the balls by tugging or stretching, these are called ball stretchers. Not only can you enjoy additional stimulation but cock rings help give you a thicker and harder erection. Not to mention lasting longer in bed!

Cock sheathspenis extensionshollow strap on penises (hollow strap on dildos) are another great idea for sex toys for men. These not only help you with an immediately larger penis, but your partner will also be thanking you for the massive size difference. This is just a small sample of the more popular men’s sex toys. There are a ton more sex toys for men that you can find simply by browsing our selection.

Best Sex Toys for Men

39 Sex Toys Every Gay Man Should Try

I’ll be honest guys, I did not enjoy sex toys when I first came on the scene. I was a freshman in college, brand new to sex, and all my friends, left and right, were exploring their anal pleasures with dildos. “It helps you get used to the feeling,” one guy told me in his dorm room. “I go at my own speed so that when the real thing comes, I’m ready.”

Our hopes were soon met. I started college a few months after Grindr hit the app store. We all quickly discovered sex via the glowing orange icons on our phones. This was my initial understanding of toys: They were ass-trainers, a second-hand way of experiencing the “real thing,” and no matter how nice they were, they were inferior to flesh and blood. I believed “sex toys” for gay men stopped at dildos and prostate stimulators, and I did not consider them legitimate sex play all on their own.

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In the years since, I have learned that there are many gay sex toys out there beyond anal toys, although these are certainly the majority, and anal toys toys are more than substitutions for penises. Some toys, like the Ass Hammer (see #28), deliver mind-blowing sensations that a penis simply cannot replicate. Nothing will ever replace traditional sex — sex toys simply expand the experiential buffet of sexual pleasure to its true, limitless margin.

As you begin your toy sexploration, you will find that, although there are endless naughty novelty stores in the world, good toys are surprisingly hard to find. You could scour the Internet or make expensive pilgrimages to your nearest big city to visit a sexual retailer catered exclusively to gay men — nearly every big city has one — or you could start with this list of 39 sex toys you have to try, some of which are for beginners and others for seasoned adventurists. Welcome to Toyland, and enjoy the ride.

9. Thug Double Fucker

Blessed be the three men that first discovered double penetration — DP is one of the greatest gifts that gay men have been given. But if you’re trying to have a two-person, monogamous relationship, or if you are not quite ready to be double-fucked by two guys, try this toy. It would probably fall into the sex toy category of “cock extenders,” although it does not extend or expand the top’s penis. Rather, it attaches a dildo to his dick and gives you the opportunity to “take two” without a third man present. Oxballs makes some of the world’s best anal toys, great for all us pigs into extreme ass play. 

39. Sex Music

This may be a surprising cap to this list — no one ever talks about tunes as a sexual enhancer. Background music not only sets the mood, but it is also one of the cheapest sexual accoutrements you will buy, and certainly one of the most effective.

Mr. S Leather sells album mixes from one of the North American leather world’s favorite DJs, M. Arana, who has been a repeat guest at the Folsom Street Fair and DJed the San Francisco Leather Ball, the Mr. Fire Island Leather Contest, the Mr. East Coast Rubber Contest in New York, and other sexually-charged events. His mixes sound like darkrooms and play areas and immediately make you feel nasty. And much to my surprise, his albums are available on iTunes alongside other sex music-makers like Tony Barre and the old-school Butt Boy (known for tracks like “Phallidance” and “The Sling”).

If you’re looking for something that sounds less like a dungeon and more like a dance club, try the young LA-based EDM artist TR/ST — his sexed-up, mopey tracks like “Are We Arc?” on his recent album Joyland are great for a relaxed fisting session. 

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Best less-expensive stroker

Three experts also told us that Tenga’s low-priced, simple, and straightforward Egg is a great stroker for those on a budget or looking to dip their toes into such toys. “Incredibly discreet, super-cute, a really good gift, and it’s less than $10,” says Bard. Each Egg is ribbed inside, and although they’re designed to be single use, she says that if you regularly wash an Egg with soap and water, you can extend its lifespan. While it’s known as a masturbation toy, Bard says “it doesn’t have to be just a solo thing” and that an Egg can also be a lot of fun to use with a partner. “In fact, probably half our customers who buy it are females buying it for their boyfriends or partners,” she adds. Procida agrees that the Egg is “always great to have in a drawer” and Duran is a fan, too. “I often say, ‘Hey, throw this in your backpack while you’re going away for the weekend, and just throw it out before you come back.’ It’s just a little treat.” (If you want to stock up or get a few to give as gifts, the Eggs also come in a variety pack of six inside a cute, tiny carton).

More expert-recommended prostate toys

Lelo’s vibrating prostate massagers also came up a lot, and the company is definitely one of the experts’ favorites. Justina Victoria, a men’s sex coach and the founder of the Sexual Mastery Center, pointed us to the vibrating Lelo Billy. “I think it’s a bit less less intimidating than other prostate stimulators,“ Victoria says, making it a good choice for beginners or anyone just starting to explore. “I would use it as a way to help you feel into parts of your body that you may never have connected to or felt sensation in.”

The Loki Wave might look similar to the Billy — they’re made by the same company — but this has a lot more going on under the hood. It’s one of the most high-tech prostate toys around, according to Richardson, who told us the Loki Wave is one of her favorites for its “dual-motor design.” It has an internal arm that moves in a “come hither” motion to stimulate the prostate, and a “strong vibrating external arm for optimal perineum stimulation,” she explains.

Bard’s favorite prostate toy is We-Vibe’s Vector. “It’s a prostate toy that has a double motor — one in the prostate part, and one underneath for the perineum.” (To those who need to brush up on their anatomy, the perineum is the area between testicles and butt.) The best thing about this toy, according to Bard, is that the prostate part moves. “You can adjust it to hit wherever yours is,” she says, noting that, like the nJoy Pure Wand, this can “also be used as a G-spot toy for vaginas.” It has an accompanying app that Bard recommends using with the toy because it allows you to customize the motors and hand over the controls to up to 10 people anywhere in the world.

Bard’s favorite prostate toy for beginners is the Blush Performance Plus, which has the high-grade silicone and rechargeable battery found in more advanced options, but is still simple and easily maneuverable for someone just starting out. “It’s smaller, so it’s not too intimidating.”

Rodriguez’s favorite (“not gargantuan”) prostate toy for beginners is this dildo from Malesation because its “curve will ultimately stimulate most prostates,” he says. Unlike the other prostate toys on this list, it has a suction cup at its base, so you can stick it to a wall or any other flat surface.

Finn says this even less-expensive option is also great for a starter prostate toy because it’s simple, affordable, and “perfect for wearing during any kind of play.” The bubbles give “an amazing anal bead-esque sensation,” and the curved shape is “perfect for targeting the prostate.” Its all-silicone body means it should be easy to clean and care for, too.

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If you’re in a longterm relationship, how do you keep the sex fun and exciting with each anniversary? Even the most seasoned casanovas need to know their fair share of sex positions to keep things interesting between the sheets, which is why we’ve put together this handy (and illustrated) guide to the best gay ones.

Before we get started, it’s important to establish some gay sex ground rules:

Now that we’ve got that covered, it’s time to learn more about the best gay sex positions.

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Aneros Helix Trident Prostate Massager

Best For: Feeling real movement around your prostate

If you’ve never tried a prostate massager before, there’s no better time to invest in one from Aneros. It uses something called “Multi-Axial Motion Architecture” to vibrate along different axes within the anus. Sure, it looks a bit intimidating, but prostate massagers are going mainstream, and this one is worth a try.$54.99 at

Aneros – Best Male Prostate Toy

As someone who’s tried a lot of prostate toys, let me assure you that the Aneros Helix Syn is the best prostate massager I have ever tried. Its relatively small size and flexible design make it perfect for beginners and experienced prostate masseurs alike. I find that it’s a really good snug fit without being too stiff or noticeable. That’s the thing about prostate massagers – you want them to be almost undetectable… male G-spot massage is all about subtlety and relaxation.

Personally, I like to use coconut oil as lube for the Aneros Helix Syn. I’m a big fan of coconut oil for anal sex toys because the pleasant aroma of coconut overpowers any nasty ass smells which may arise. The only downside to Aneros toys is that they take a lot of practice to use properly – you won’t be having multiple orgasms in a jiffy. Our guide to prostate milking goes into all the detail you’ll need, but don’t write these men’s sex toys off as “gay sex toys” just because your ass is involved.


A classic position for straight couples, missionary is pretty common for gay partners as well. In this position, the bottom lies on his back with his legs spread apart in the air while the active partner lies on top so the couple is face-to-face. Penetration from this angle allows for intimate eye contact and kissing, and the bottom can wrap his legs around the top to anchor thrusting. While not necessarily the kinkiest position, missionary is great for more inexperienced or vanilla couples. If you slip a pillow under the small of the bottom’s back for extra support, they can lay comfortably without having to strain to keep their legs in the air.

Doggy Style

Another classic gay sex position is doggy style. While potentially less intimate than missionary, doggy style allows you and your partner to explore each other in a new way. Doggy style really puts the top in control, so it’s the perfect position for more dominant tops and submissive bottoms. In doggy style, the bottom gets on all fours while the top kneels behind him. Holding on to the bottom’s hips for support, the top enters the bottom from behind. Penetration from this angle can feel harder and deeper for bottoms, and doggy style can be better for prostate stimulation for some men. Doggy style is good for couples of all experience levels, but it can require extra stamina from tops.


For couples with more dominate bottoms and tops who like to take it easy, cowboy is the ideal gay sex position. In the cowboy position, the top sits or lies back while the bottom straddles him across his pelvis facing forward, either in a kneel or squatting position. The cowboy position gives the bottom control over penetration, which can help to achieve prostate stimulation. The top can also thrust into the bottom from this position, shifting the dynamic between dominate and submissive partner. Cowboy is a good position for couples of all experience levels, but bottoms should be prepared for a workout.

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The Bodyguard

If the traditional horizontal positions have lost their excitement, try a standing position. Standing positions allow both partners an increased range of motion compared to horizontal positions—you can move together, or one can remain still while the other establishes and varies the rhythm. The most classic standing position, sometimes known as “the bodyguard,” is when the bottom faces away from the top and the top enters from behind. For anchorage, the bottom should hold onto a nearby wall, table, or other surface. Because the bodyguard position is more accommodating in small spaces or in the outdoors, they’re great for more adventurous couples who want to take sex out of the bedroom.

Pirate’s Bounty

The flashy name may make this position sound more complicated than it is, but the pirate’s bounty is a must-have in any gay sex wheelhouse. In this position, the bottom lies down his back, shifting his pelvis so that one leg is down and the other is up in the air. The active partner kneels, facing the bottom, and puts the bottom’s elevate leg on his shoulder as he enters him. This angle allows for a deep penetration. If the bottom is flexible, the top can push the elevated leg towards the bottom’s head for an even deeper and more intimate experience.


Spooning is one of the most intimate gay sex positions. Both partners lay on their sides, the top on the outside as the “big spoon.” The top enters the bottom from behind, with the bottom’s top leg elevated to allow for entry. For an extra deep penetration, the top can hook his elbow under the bottom’s elevated knee for easier access. This position involves a lot of close body contact, making it a great option for couples looking for an intimate and sensual sexual encounter.

Suspended Congress

For the more adventurous and active gay couples out there, suspended congress is an exciting and erotic challenge. This position is designed to get you out of bed and work on your cardio too. In this position, the top stands and picks up the bottom, who wraps his arms around the top’s neck for support. The top then enters the bottom from this position, holding the bottom’s thighs in his arms to support the bottom’s hips against his pelvis. For extra support while thrusting, put the bottom’s back against a wall or other solid structure. For more fit couple, try a free-standing suspended congress for a real full-body workout.


While not necessarily the ideal position for less experienced bottoms, the arch position is great for gay couples looking to explore sex from a new perspective. To get into the arch position, bottoms lay face up and lifts his hips upward, while keeping his feet and the back of his neck planted on the floor. The top kneels facing the bottom, entering him by placing his pelvis underneath the bottom’s raised hips. This position requires some serious back flexibility in terms of the bottom’s role, which is why it’s not recommended for the inexperienced, but this angle of penetration can be intensely stimulating and pleasurable for both tops and bottoms.

Best sex toys: Dildos

Dildos can be, by their very nature, a bit intimidating. The classic image of a veiny, massive, dick-shaped whopper lives rent-free in many of our heads, and while that particular variety of toy has not gone away, there are plenty of alternatives out there which can satisfy without grossing anybody out – and, indeed, toys which go the other way and take size and texture to the extreme. 

As with any other toy, it’s all about what works for you. Think about the things you’ve enjoyed in past sexual experiences, and start there in terms of size; consider the thickness and length, too, as well as the texture of the dildo and its material. Something non-porous is a must in order to keep things properly clean – whether that means softer silicone or colder metal is really up to you.

Guys looking to work on prostate stimulation – or girls working on the A-spot – may prefer something smaller and smoother, and while a butt plug (see below) might work for that, there are specific slimmer dildos that will do the trick.

Best sex toys: Lube

No sex toy is complete with out a generous amount of lube. OK, perhaps some might be viable without, if you’re already warmed up and inserting into a self-lubricating area, but even then you may run into friction issues with certain toys or even toy-free sexual contact – it’s imperative to have some on hand just in case.

But what to pick? Silicone lube is perfect for use in the shower, since water won’t easily wash it off, but some bodies are sensitive to silicone and some toys, too, don’t take kindly to it; if you’re using a silicone toy, steer clear, as it can degrade the outer material.

There are also water-based lubes available, which are the most neutral and will work with any toy, as well as oil-based lubricants which can provide a seriously slippery experience as long as you don’t mind getting them on your sheets and aren’t using a latex condom. Some lubes are hybrids, mixing several kinds together – check the ingredients before you buy to make sure you’re not inadvertently grabbing something unsuitable.

You don’t necessarily need to opt for specific toy lube sold in little bottles, either. Here’s a top tip: lube aimed at the gay market tends to come in more generous quantities, and is just as effective for straight or solo play.

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A: A device of this caliber is one that is made specifically to produce pleasurable sensations in or on the average male anatomy.

Sex toys for men range greatly in size, shape and functionality, with some of them being for penile stimulation and others being crafted solely for anal sex. In some circles, penis pumps, extenders and male enhancement products are added to this category as well.

A: The maintenance procedure for a device like this is different with each model. For the most part, however, high-end toys are the easiest to clean, dry and store.

They either come with their own cleaning supplies (or at least a sample) and a convenient storage container or they’re made for quick and effortless maintenance through easily removeable parts and interchangeable pieces. All devices are unique.

So always read the instruction manual of your new toy to be sure you’re doing everything as intended by the manufacturer.

A: Automatic sex toys are those that pump and stroke your penis without requiring manual manipulation, while manual sex toys are those that can only produce pleasurable sensations through direct personal management of the device.

Both kinds have their ups and downs, each of which should be carefully considered before you buy anything (especially if you have a partner involved).

A: No, even heterosexual men enjoy p-spot stimulation and there is nothing gay about it. In fact, nearly half of all prostate massager purchases are made by straight dudes who simply enjoy ass play from time to time.

And since most male p-spot toys can also be used on women, men who are hetero or bisexual would benefit greatly from owning one.

A: Depending on the toy you’ve selected and the properties thereof, your storage options should always consist of cool, dry places in your home that are clean and kept away from direct sunlight and/or extreme temperatures.

If your device comes with its own storage contain, be sure to use it at all times.

A: If you get the right pleasure product and use it exactly as directed by the manufacturer, there is a chance that you can improve things like your sexual stamina, the quality of your erections, and the intensity of your orgasms.

Certain pleasure products can also reduce the frequency of erectile dysfunction, fix Peyronie’s disease and boost the overall size of your penis. However, those proven health benefits are not available on all devices.

A: According to recent studies, men who have sex or masturbate too often may experience varying degrees of penile desensitization and/or erectile dysfunction.

In other words, putting too many miles of your member can have serious consequences. Careful, responsible and mindful use of these products is always best, especially if you purchase one that promises intense sensations, penile correction or stamina training.

A: Some of today’s best male sex toys are made with interactive features and compatibility with other devices, meaning they’re perfect for both solo masturbation missions and couple’s play as well.

Regardless, even non-interactive options can be fun for duos during foreplay and roleplaying games. Always ask your partner about their desires to find the best option.

A: The word “interactive” just means that one sex toy can send and/or receive signals from another to create a real-time collaboration of bodies.

The feature is sometimes called things like “Teledildonic Technology” or “SenseMotion Technology” but it’s all the same basic concept. The idea is to give the user(s) a more realistic and collaborative experience, which is why certain manufacturers have started incorporating virtual reality into their toys’ overall designs.

A: For the most part, the best sex toys for men are already equipped to do the deed without the help of another device. However, interactive models may require an additional investment in a compatible machine.

Furthermore, some options need an entirely separate masturbator to enjoy all the high-tech features, so don’t miss the boat because you didn’t pay attention to the specs.

A: It depends on the type of sex toy you have. Prostate massagers are generally suitable for condom usage, but male masturbation machines are not (especially the automatic kind). If you’re wanting to use a condom because of allergies or skin sensitivities, look for a toy that’s made from hypoallergenic materials to reduce the need.

A: Obviously, if you don’t use your common sense and if you ignore the instructions provided by the manufacturer there is a good chance you could get hurt while using a sex toy of any kind.

Simply play it smart and avoid dangerous experimentation to prevent injuries and embarrassment. And as always, thoroughly clean yourself and your playthings after every use to reduce the chances of spreading infection.

A: Not all devices in this category are made for couple’s play, but many of them are. If you buy an interactive model, then your opportunities to enjoy sex games with your partner are increased tremendously. However, not all interactive models are compatible with other devices.

Choose an interactive sex toy with high-tech collaborative features for best results.

A: Some of the better pleasure products in the industry come with warranties and/or money-back guarantees from their makers.

To take advantage, simply look in the box with your toy to find a registration card. Fill it out and mail it in within 30 days of your purchase or else it will become void. If there is no registration card with your product, look on the manufacturer’s website for more information.

A: The type of pleasure product you purchase will determine the kinds of skills and equipment you’ll need to fully enjoy all of its features. For example, high-tech toys with Bluetooth capabilities, virtual reality connectivity or mobile app control interfaces may require additional gear to get started.

On top of that, technologically advanced options usually need an experienced (or at least educated) driver behind the wheel for best results.

A: All pleasure products for men are made differently, even toys that are made from the same exact manufacturer.

Always check the owner’s manual for precise information regarding charge times and requirements. There are a handful of options that either take standard batteries or plug directly into the wall, making the need for special charge times obsolete.

A: First of all, make sure the online source you’re purchasing from is a reputable one with all the necessary privacies provided to customers.

You will find that information at the bottom of their website or mentioned on the website of the third-party distributor.

Once ordered and processed, your toy should arrive at your house in an unmarked box. Most of the time, the merchant will also place a non-descript name on the purchase order for enhanced discretion.

A: You can’t always enjoy playtime in the bath, shower, pool or hot tub and unfortunately, not all male sex toys have the capability to be used around water.

This is an extremely important factor to consider, especially if you’re purchasing a high-tech device with electronic components. Products not made to be around moisture can malfunction or break, and most manufacturers’ warranties don’t cover willful negligence.

A: In the event that your new plaything breaks down after you buy it, be sure to contact the number provided on the warranty registration card to speak with a representative about having the device fixed or replaced.

If your device doesn’t come with a warranty, simply ask about replacement parts or troubleshooting tips.

Despite the fact that John James is quite the character, there is one thing he has in common with everyone else: he likes a high quality sex toy just as much as the next guy.Noticing that there were no legitimate websites out there reviewing all the amazing synthetic vaginas on the market, John James set out to do something about all, it is painfully obvious that today’s men really need to know more about their options.

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Sex is changing. Since the onset of the coronavirus pandemic, we’ve been inundated with news of evolving workplaces, schools and social lives. But the worldwide shift in sexual activity is less publicized. While dating remains risky and some couples are quarantining apart, many people are trying to stay sexually satisfied by investing in the best sex toys.

This recent restriction on sex lives – and subsequent rise in sex toy sales – comes at a time when guys are finally shedding the taboo of male sex toys. Dudes have been realizing that sex toys are really just an upgrade for your oft-used hand. Because of this shift in perception, brands have been releasing some of the best sex toys for men that we’ve ever seen. Ridiculous blow-up dolls are being replaced by high-tech masturbation sleeves and sophisticated toys for elevating intimacy with a partner. And even mainstream sites like Amazon are now carrying a whole range of the best sex toys for men.

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